okay i have a long and complicated heterosexual steve/bucky au but what matters is that the super serum functions essentially like testosterone & steroids. and thus a cis female steve still passes for a man and ends up doing a whole mulan thing with captain america. which she has complicated feelings about but lets not get into that bc the point of this post is her accidentally stolen-valoring like half the identities within the lgbtqia+ community

5) bruce thinks steve is a trans man because all of his deep delving into the serum means he understands that it essentially functioned as ultra-transitioning but he doesn't really get how fucking crazy steve was about Having to Fight in the War and thus he assumes this was gender affirming care for steve as much as it was anything else. hes misgendering steve so hard but he thinks hes being really supportive in doing so, and steve is both very used to scientists specifically disregarding her perspective and also coworkers in general getting it wrong, so she just. ignores it. in 10 years when bruce figures it out hes going to feel like the worst person alive. Bruce also assumes steve is bi because he buys into the peggy carter cover backstory for Captain America & is aware that steve is currently married to bucky.

7) spiderman 3 weeks into using he/him for steve by default, after overhearing thor talk to her:

8) t'challa assumes steve's a cis straight man until the events of civil war & hes like "oh okay gay man. gay man for sure." and then he hears sam using she/her for her and hes like oh god i'm fucking this up so bad. i have to stop guessing. he knows he should just ask but they've been working together for a year now and he's too embarrassed to do it so instead he starts using wakanda-specific gender terms for steve. he gives her the same gender terms as okoye which is a specific 'gender: warrior leader' and shuri starts cackling the first time she hears him do this bc he should notttt be using that for a white american are you fucking kidding me t'challa? and hes like i KN0W shuri but consider this is saving me from at least one really awkward conversation?? so congrats steve you're getting misgendered in ways no non-wakandan ever has been before