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I hate feeling like it’s an unreasonable ask to have people just engage with the actual words that i’m saying and the things that they mean
void of assumptions and subtext

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i spend a lot of time mediating with myself and the possibility that i may have unknowingly upset someone or rubbed them the wrong way in casual conversation
i know it comes from childhood trauma and being othered and regarded without any patience. i judge myself preemptively and intensely to try to “catch myself” and be more mindful in future conversations but what’s actually happening is an compulsive response that’s not really led by logic and can only be fed by anxiety. that plus just generally struggling to be present, grounded, authentic, and confident while socializing. while masking.
i’m really really trying to combat that. it’s one of the things that makes cultivating and maintaining relationships so difficult. having genuine friends who are tender, straight forward, honest, and ok with presumably “awkward” conversations, really helps. it’s nice to be able to talk through/reenact the days conversations with and get a grounded perspective to stabilize my own. i will conquer this because i have to.
to help explore the intricacies of big feelings that are sometimes indiscernible
Credit: Geoffrey Roberts
With a recent rise in awareness of autism i see more ironic and somewhat endearing jokes about autism from autistic people.
Shit gets scary when the frequency and appeal of these jokes inspire participation from those outside of the autistic experience.
we see the same thing happen historically with jokes about black people by black people being adopted as “dark” humor.
we see the same happening where cis people are comfortable making jokes about nonbinary people after enjoying intracommunal jokes from other queer/trans people.
This trajectory brings us right back to the place where punching down on marginalized people is common place and socially “acceptable” amongst all groups. a place where the R word is common place and Autistic is synonymous with weird, dumb, or cringey.
This also goes hand in hand with the increase in careless lateral violence, enacted by this type of humor. for example: low-moderate support needs folks ignorantly “reclaiming” the R word for the sake of humor.
A word that affects those that are even outside of the autistic disproportionately (for example those with down syndrome).
And it also effects a specific iteration of the autism experience disproportionately than many of those “reclaiming” it for jokes (ie. severe motor and speech difficulties)
This ain’t to deny the ways in which the R word has been wielded against the wider autism experience and prolly harmed many autistic people across various levels of support needs. However, mindfulness of positionally and adjacency to inflicting violence to those more marginalized is so important.
For example, many non-darkskinned black people may experience anti black racism from non blacks by way of slurs that disproportionately affect darkskinned black people.
That doesn’t give them the right to reclaim colorist slurs when there’s room for them to wield that language in an imbalanced harmful way against those more marginalized by them by colorism.
it can feel really embarrassing and uncomfortable when i’m worked up about something that would be insignificant to most other people.
especially when that something is deeply connected to the way i navigate life.
restrictive behaviors and thought patterns can make me come off as particular, intense and unreasonably adamant. but maybe i am

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Long post about Repetitive Restrictive Behaviors, OCD, and Stress
I’ve been struggling a lot with Repetitive and Restrictive Behaviors
More specifically tactile stims and tics. Some of these things i can recognize as more voluntary tactile stims that ive done for a long time. But i often get locked into a restrictive and stressful loop of doing these stimulatory actions.
This has brought to mind some questions about the overlap and differences between Autism and OCD, with comorbity in mind.
since a kid i’ve had a few long with standing tactile stims/tics:
Hard, repetitive, excessive blinking.
Snorting
Excessive toe curling and interlocking of toes
Hard, repetitive, excessive scrunching and stretching of nose and philtrum
Clenching teeth
Picking and peeling skin
Uncontrollable nail biting
Rolling eyes back with eyes closed
Pattern walking by way of trying to step on cracks with consistent foot coverage and pressure
Some of these are a lot more visible than others but the visible ones gave me enough trouble in the past that i involuntarily developed more covert habits that stimulate the same area
which brings me to a tic that has been plaguing me for over a year now:
Excessively and roughly pressing my tongue against my soft palate
This is something that started as a self regulatory behavior triggered by emotional and environmental stimuli. Now i get into these loops where i can’t stop doing it and it stresses me out and hurts lol.
The same is true for the list of tactile stims above. I think i start doing them to self soothe then once i make the specific sort of contact i get fixated on how the pressure, contact, or motion should feel and then can’t stop repeating it.
This makes me wonder about the possibility of certain things manifesting as autism symptoms, ocd symptoms, or both.
To give some more context, I’m not diagnosed or self diagnosed as OCD. I am diagnosed ASD and ADHD. However, at the start of my mental health treatment journey the psychiatrist i was seeing identified and notated disruptive OCD symptoms that they expected my previously prescribed Prozac to help with. It did help but it also made me manic so they banned me from Prozac. (long story for another time or another blog lol)
In more recent psychiatric visits my intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors were outlined noted and proclaimed to possibly be elevated by my newly prescribed Abilify which i haven’t taken yet as i struggle with change and especially change in self care routine.
All that is to say that there does seem to be some overlap between ASD and OCD in my experience. This was corroborated in conversation with my friend who is diagnosed OCD we related when i mentioned these compulsive behaviors
Accidentally touching something in passing only to have to return and touch it properly with the “correct amount of pressure”
Intrusive thoughts of harm scenarios involving self and others
Intrusive thoughts surrounding health anxiety
drinking things in intervals of eleven
applying a correct numbered increment to actions and avoiding certain numbers
having to flip a switch or hold an object in just the right way
constant redoing of motions until they feel right
Something that initially made me unsure regarding classifying these behaviors as OCD is the fact that there doesn’t seem to be an anxious “what if i dont do this, something bad may happen” feeling triggering these things. That perspective may be naive or ignorant on my part tho which is why i’m diving deeper to learn more.
One thing positive i can say is that writing this post helped me redirect my nervous system while i was suffering due to these repetitive restrictive behaviors right before writing this. i’ve regulated a little
Autistic traits vs Trauma symptoms experienced by Autistic people.
graphic by: Trauma Geek
With a recent rise in awareness of autism i see more ironic and somewhat endearing jokes about autism from autistic people.
Shit gets scary when the frequency and appeal of these jokes inspire participation from those outside of the autistic experience.
we see the same thing happen historically with jokes about black people by black people being adopted as “dark” humor.
we see the same happening where cis people are comfortable making jokes about nonbinary people after enjoying intracommunal jokes from other queer/trans people.
This trajectory brings us right back to the place where punching down on marginalized people is common place and socially “acceptable” amongst all groups. a place where the R word is common place and Autistic is synonymous with weird, dumb, or cringey.
This also goes hand in hand with the increase in careless lateral violence, enacted by this type of humor. for example: low-moderate support needs folks ignorantly “reclaiming” the R word for the sake of humor.
A word that affects those that are even outside of the autistic disproportionately (for example those with down syndrome).
And it also effects a specific iteration of the autism experience disproportionately than many of those “reclaiming” it for jokes (ie. severe motor and speech difficulties)
This ain’t to deny the ways in which the R word has been wielded against the wider autism experience and prolly harmed many autistic people across various levels of support needs. However, mindfulness of positionally and adjacency to inflicting violence to those more marginalized is so important.
For example, many non-darkskinned black people may experience anti black racism from non blacks by way of slurs that disproportionately affect darkskinned black people.
That doesn’t give them the right to reclaim colorist slurs when there’s room for them to wield that language in an imbalanced harmful way against those more marginalized by them by colorism.
With a recent rise in awareness of autism i see more ironic and somewhat endearing jokes about autism from autistic people.
Shit gets scary when the frequency and appeal of these jokes inspire participation from those outside of the autistic experience.
we see the same thing happen historically with jokes about black people by black people being adopted as “dark” humor by non black people.
we see the same happening where cis people are comfortable making jokes about nonbinary people after enjoying intracommunal jokes from other queer/trans people.
This trajectory brings us right back to the place where punching down on marginalized people is common place and socially “acceptable” amongst all groups. a place where the R word is common place and Autistic is synonymous with weird, d*mb, or cringey.
Documentarian List of Repetitive and Self Stimulatory Behaviors Observed in Myself:
This turned out to be a long ass list. Repetition behaviors and stims like these are one of my most prevalent and intense symptoms/experiences with autism.
Some of these are soothing but some are stressful as they can be uncomfortable, disruptive, self injurious, and/or embarrassing. I spend a lot of time and effort trying to suppress a lot of these if i can.
•pacing in a circle
•Torsion stims including:
•curling toes repeatedly and constantly
•touching back of tongue to specific part of the roof of my mouth
•touching lip to bottom of nose
•repeatedly and constantly scrunching and unscrunching nose
•rocking back and forth
•repeatedly and semi constantly echolalia including singing, speech, and noises
•snorting my nose as if i was clearing it or grunting by breathing in through nose
•clenching teeth
•rolling eyes back
•repeatedly and constant blinking
•blinking/closing eyes very hard
•blinking one eye after the other repeatedly •hitting head when overstimulated
•clearing throat repeatedly
•listening to a song on repeat for hours
•constantly rewinding part of a song or show
•nail, skin, and lip biting
• stretching, twisting, pulling out hair •picking skin
•breaking/pulling things apart
•chewing plastic
•finger joint cracking
i may be missing some but that’s all for now

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a person speaking about their experiences having and distinguishing ADHD based meltdowns and ASD based meltdown
i relate
trying to overcome the intense wave of embarrassment that plagues me after most social interactions and most instances of me expressing myself
i understand i feel this shame because of the bullying, persecution, and violence that i was met with when expressing myself or when my personality was deemed weird.
having my interests, passion, gender performance, and sexuality frequently and violently scrutinized has left me reticent and influenced by fear
i'm determined to overcome this because i cherish my perspective, expression, and creativity. i need it.
experiencing confusion as a visceral emotion is so exhausting.
it creates a franticly urgent desire for understanding and clarity that i’ve found to be imposing on interpersonal interactions as well when i’m not mindful of that
this thing itches in my brain in the formation of cycling thoughts that need outlet and reception in order to soothe
i’m trying to learn to soothe myself via the concept of “radical acceptance”.
im still trying to understand that more and implement it
trans lesbians I love you and I hope you have a great day today

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This is getting on my fucking nerves, so I’m just going to say it here:
Adults who need high levels of support in daily living are not children.
“Mental age” is a concept rooted in eugenics, and it doesn’t actually exist.
No one should be robbed of agency or dignity because of their need for support. Oh, also, while we’re at it (since disability rights activism that doesn’t tackle age-related oppression is bullshit), kids deserve to be treated with respect too. Shouldn’t be a controversial statement, but it is.
Most people neglect to mention this, but if “being treated like a child” equates to “being robbed of agency and dignity,” there’s something fundamentally wrong with the way we treat children.
hey, other autistic people who genuinely do have "communication deficits" and feel like shit every time you see other autistic people claim that's not a ~real~ autism trait and autistic people are "actually superior communicators":
you're not alone. you're not a "bad autistic". you're not inferior.
those people are usually struggling with a lot of internalized ableism and they're trying to work through it. we just happened to get caught in the crossfire, unfortunately.
you don't have to be "better" than allistic people to be worthy of love, support, and connection. you still deserve to be listened to when you communicate, even if you're "bad" at it 💜