Aspidities

I kept saying to myself it wouldn’t take a year to get back to posting again, but here it is a year and change after my mom died and I’m just now poking my head back up from my grief shell. Hello, hi. I’ve missed you.

Where have I been? Mostly just here. I spent a lot of time doing a lot of nothing but feeling a lot of things, through which my incredible and always supportive partner J was at my side. We had a kind of crazy rollercoaster of an emotional year, what with planning our wedding while also grieving my mom, and we traveled a lot, laughed a lot, cried a lot and spent a lot of time alone with our dogs.

I spent a lot of time learning to rebuild. My mom had been the crux of all my support systems, even as an adult, and I’m still struggling without her, but I’ve been spending more time and effort on my sister and my extended family and they’ve been giving that back to me.

And then, in May, J and I got married under a 600yr old oak tree on a blustery, beautiful day with all our friends and family watching, and it was perfect.

I mean, just look at how joyful life can be?

We had our first dance together to Maggie Roger’s’ ‘Love You For A Long Time’, we listened to songs and stories and poems and speeches about how much everyone can see how in love we are and we drank probably way too much champagne. Well, I did. It was, in other words, a blast, and I would do it again every year if I could afford it.

So I’m married now, I’m healing, I’m turning 38 this Sunday, and I’m looking forward to starting my new life getting back into what I love doing. I’ve posted a few sneaky updates to my Patreon already earlier this week (iykyk as the kids say) but today is the day for AO3 updates so stay tuned, there is about to be a boatload of those.