iβve warmed up significantly towards the concept of small talk ever since i learned that its sole purpose is to make friendly noises.
as long as you smile and nod, people are satisfied. itβs just to show that you are nice and there with good intentions. weβre small in a big world and have to rely on other people to be decent to us. so we do our little human dance to each other to say, βiβm not here to hurt you. hereβs something we have in common, like the weather or sports or itchy sweaters, so we both know weβre on the same team. we both agree on a basic fact, like that it is rainy or that being itchy is uncomfortable, and this proves we can get along. iβm being light-hearted and non-threatening right now.β
small talk isnβt to get to know a person. itβs just a greeting to affirm youβre buddies in the universe.
i am motivated by wanting the other person to know i am friendly, so i have gotten pretty decent at small talk when i used to hate it.




















