Aroace Ramblings

"No, I don't date or fuck, I'm aroace."

"Well, actually, it's a spect-"

SHUT THE FUCK UP! I KNOW! It's an umbrella term, right?? It refers to all of us, not just bold stripes and not just grays.

"ohh youll probably change your mind when your older"

yeah im not gonna have kids

"but youre so good with kids"

yeah im not gonna have kids

"youre too young to know that for sure"

yeah im not gonna have kids

"you might meet someone that you really want to start a family with"

also, somebody can have had sex or romances and still later on realise that they are ace or aro respectively. you wouldn't tell a gay man that he can't be gay cuz he's dated a woman, or a lesbian that she isn't cuz she's dated a man. genuinely explain to me how thats different for aro/ace people

Like, I'm tired of the "better be a pervert than a prude", the "we all are a little freaky", the "asexuals write the best smut", the "we don't want prudes to be writing hcs"... Like, we have to participate in sexual topics and behaviors to be normal, or we are prudes (can y'all stop judging and insulting people based on their personal experience with sex? Y'all learn that "virgin" was a bad insult and turn to use "prude" instead but you are still doing the same bs)

The fucking "Well, if people call you a puritan, maybe it's because you sound like one" posts being frequently posted in the asexual and sex-repulsed tags, because asexuals need to watch how they talk and complain about sex being forced unto them again, and again, and again, or they will be linked to purity culture (even tho purity culture STILL WANTS PEOPLE TO HAVE SEX, BUT ONLY AFTER MARRIAGE AND IN A HETERO RELATIONSHIP. PURITY CULTURE IS NOT SEXLESS), while queer folks continue again and again to paint it as morally superior to be a pervert (it's morally neutral. You being horny 24/7 doesn't make you morally superior to anyone).

Anyway my friend had some not so nice teeth and during dinner the father of his fwb was like “you work where you work, you sleep with him and his teeth look like that? Get him an appointment.”and then bounced. So his fwb made him an appointment at the practice she managed and my friend ended up needing like 3k worth of dental work and his friend with benefits just gave it to him for free.

One of the only asexual activists is Yasmin Benoit, a Black woman. She has raised so much awareness for the community. She was the first asexual person to lead Pride in London, she started the #thisiswhatasexuallookslike movement and is THE leading voice for the community.

And you all will celebrate international asexuality day on April 6th but we wouldn't even have that if she hadn't cofounded it.

Stop erasing other parts of the aspec community challenge IMPOSSIBLE apparently!

DOES THE WORD 'SOME' NOT EXIST??????

'Some aroace people feel love, others do not..'

'Some aroace people choose to be in QPR's...'

So simple!

Yes I will be annoying and inform every single person I see make this mistake!

I wave my apparently 'evil' and 'nonhuman' flag high!

Here is another reason Pluto is aro: Pluto has a heart shaped region called the Tombaugh region:

[ID: an image of Pluto and it's heart shaped Tombaugh region, with the moon Charon in the background. End ID]

Aro and ace activism is healthcare reform, so that no one needs to rely on a spouse for health insurance, so that healthcare is available to everybody regardless of income, so that no one’s lived experiences or basic dignity are dismissed or overridden by doctors

Aro and ace activism is well-funded and expansive public transit, so that you don’t need to have someone on hand to drive you places if you are incapacitated, so that you don’t have to pay for an ambulance if you need to get to the hospital quickly

Aro and ace activism is disability and elder care services, so that no one needs a spouse to care for them, so that no one needs children to care for them, so that marriage is not a bind for disabled people, so that people on disability who want to and can live alone can

Aro and ace activism is community-building, it’s public events, it’s free social activities, it’s mutual aid, it’s activities that bring community members together without socializing relying on just a romantic partner

Aro and ace activism is developing a culture of believing when people tell you who they are and what they want rather than assuming you know them better than they know themselves