no thoughts only tloz!

I struggle to make fandom friends on Tumblr, and sometimes I worry that it is because people in their 20s think they can't be friends with someone in their 40s. That I'm uncool, weird, cringe, intimidating, or just too different from them.

But things don't change as much with age as most think. Older people still are silly, awkward, overwhelmed, enthusiastic, confused, playful, irresponsible, obsessive, dumb, cool, horny, and all these other things young people think we stop feeling or being as we get older. We're just humans. I am really great friends with someone on here more than 20 years younger than me because we have so much in common! You can't tell that we're different ages when we chat.

And also—you can be friends with people who you do NOT have much in common with! Because fundamentally, you always have humanity in common.

Years ago, there was this lady in my community who was maybe 30 years older than me and who I knew was far more conservative than me. I dismissed her as someone I didn't want to spend any time with because she was obviously too different than me. But, I was forced to spend some time with her (long story), and guess what? I became really good friends with her! Because I found out I was wrong about all those things that made her different than me? NO! I was right about that—she was just as annoyingly conservative as I had suspected. BUT that wasn't the whole of her person. She was so much richer than that. There were lots of things I didn't know about her. A few of those things were commonalities, but overall, we still didn't have much in common—but that didn't matter. We could still be kind to each other, help each other, respect each other, even enjoy each other's company if we stuck to topics where we didn't clash too badly. I feel really bad for judging her, and I'm so glad I gave her a chance.

That's it. That's all you need.

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the reason kids don't have their own nsfw online space is because it's dangerous and illegal; they could get seriously hurt. when i was younger i was way naive and would try to insert myself in adult spaces too. it was not okay and i could've been seriously scarred. as i got older, i realized just how gullible i was when i was younger. but when you're younger, you don't realize this until you get older and have to deal with those haunting memories.

so please. please be careful, anon and you as well op. please try to understand that it's not safe for you. you never know how dangerous people could be online. i understand your frustrations but please know there are better ways to go about it.

i hope you're both doing okay.

You are being adultist.

First off, anon said that they were in a private discord server, so by that you're already not making space since it is not a public online space.

"When you are younger you don't realize-" that's why there's this thing called education where you educate people on how to set boundaries recognize abusive and manipulative tactics, how to recognize grooming and break out of it if you catch it happening, resources you can go to, consent, etc

"Try to understand that it's not safe for you" the internet itself is inherently unsafe, especially if you're in any marginalized group. The safest thing for many kids would be no internet at all, but that is not a reasonable request. Everyone's situation is different, and people will do what they want anyway, so the goal is always risk assessment and education, not restriction.

Outside of denying the fact that minors (especially teens, but even younger kids) do in fact experience sexual desires and should have some space where they have access to information on it and even, well... other stuff associated with it.

If you do not want minors watch hardcore porn, the first step would probably be to create a space where they can access safe, ethical porn.

Because I can tell you what happens when you are a minor and cannot access sex toys: you improvise. Which is a whole lot more dangerous than a sex toy would be.

I know back when I was a teen, the stuff we used was stuff like bottles, cans, kitchen utensils, pens, and so on. All of which is... not a good idea. A proper dildo or plug would have been so much safer.

Heck, I remember back when I was in primary school, another kid there needed to get surgery, because they had pleasured themselves with a pine cone to... expected results. Hence the surgery.

In terms of anything sexual in regards to minors, the truth of the matter is: you will not create a scenario where the minors do not engage in sexual activity. You just create a scenario where they do it unsafe. And mind you, under the puritan ideals this is actually somewhat intentional, because puritans want people to suffer for their sexuality.

And obligatory question to ask when this gets brought up: what makes sex worse than violence? Take a show like Hannibal, would you be as upset if I as a minor were speaking about all the horrific, violent and abusive practices going on in there? Or is there only concern when the discussion is sexual?

I have seen and have been a part of conversations about darker/morbid topics, and at worst the response will be "no one should be talking about this." But bring up some mild kinks and then it's "you're too young for this." Why is violence more acceptable than sexualoty? Why is explicit harm more acceptable than a healthy and naturally occurring experience?

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