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2 bedroom, 2 bath, a nice exterior. i like the red door and red chimney!

in my case it definitely helps that I teach kids martial arts classes at a boxing gym with a lot of women. so little boys just factually cannot tell me that girls can't fight or aren't strong or something, because they're constantly surrounded by proof that isn't true. also rules are very different in a boxing gym so if a kid is being a little shit I'm allowed to pick them up and put them in upside down air jail. you probably can't do this in most contexts.

I think the biggest thing is that they need to see men and other boys listening to women. they're following the example that's been set for that. at home maybe their dad never listens to their mom, but when they show up at my class all the other boys are following my instructions. peer pressure is real and you can use it to your advantage. I make a point to tell the biggest buffest manliest dudes what to do in front of the little boys. now this works because those dudes already listen to me, but getting any dudes to follow your instructions could probably work.

the best punishment is the natural consequences of your behavior. if a kid isn't going to listen to me, he doesn't get to do class. this works because class is fun and he wants to kick stuff and hit people with noodles. kids want to have fun more than they want to misbehave. as long as listening to me is more fun than misbehaving, they'll listen.

because these boys are learning this behavior from their dads, the dads also tend to be the kind of tough strict emotionally distant parents that would yell at "girly" behavior or crying. even when I'm strict with the kids, I never yell, I obviously never hurt them, and I always listen. they want to yap at me about pokemon or youtubers. it can be tough when they're really sexist at the beginning but eventually they will show you something that their dad wouldn't approve of, whether they want a pink noodle or quietly mention they like a girly show. this is the part where you simultaneously act like it's no big deal while encouraging it. you need show it's completely normal for a boy to want or like that. if you can, bring up another boy or man they know who likes the same thing. I always show off my nails to the kids and bring over the guy who also paints his nails. you'll probably get "boys can do that?" comments and I usually just go "well he's a boy and he did it, so unless his hand falls off right now I think it's okay"

for me, it's always eventually gotten to a point where the boys realize that everyone else thinks it's normal to listen to women, and that if they want to have fun they need to listen too. they also realize that these people and these women are nicer and listen to them more than their dad does. they notice how all these nice people that make them happy talk to women very differently than their dad does. when those boys yelled at their dads for being rude to me, I made a point to thank them and say that they were right and their dads were rude.

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Bonus:

because unlike a lot of other episodes, *this* heist is almost completely continuous with nearly zero downtime. you could reasonably assume that only one or two minutes are being skipped, and thats likely due to the show skipping over the travel time of people physically moving through the building.

fucking nightmarish

The reblogger has a timestamp of 11 Mar 2011, and the original post is from 11 Mar 2026... we have a time traveler among us. Everyone in the comments is crashing out and I am offended I cannot participate firsthand

Kid who lost his mother young taught by his mob boss con artist father how to con people in every way possible

Want to divorce from that and be a good person, study to become a priest

Realizes he's too fucked up to be a priest already, quits and find another way to be a good guy : work to stop thiefs and con artists by knowing their methods

Get a good insurance job doing smth he loves, get married to a colleague, have a son

Boom son is killed by your evil insurance compagny, everything you believed in crashed down and every attempt so far at being good made you miserable

Get family found by a bunch of criminals who think you're good and you can make them good too

You kinda do make them better but it's making you worse

Get revenge on your insurance compagny so you can let go of the past and start fresh

Con life finding you again along with the thief family

Guess it's a sign from god or smth it's not like you have a lot to fall back on anyway

It's fun and it's for the greater good and it's using the vicious and cruel part of you you could never quite smother so let's do it for a few more years

Realize you've changed in irreversible ways and you can't recognize yourself or your own soul anymore

By the way you definitely fell in love with your con artist girlfriend and you finally start to think there might be more to life than work and there's a future there

Make a final elaborate con so your found family gets something to do and won't harass you no more and ask your gf to leave the game in both of your prime to get a boring quiet life. She says yes