Land of Sea & Rust

Such is the way of the worm 🐛

on my NSFW alt on Bluesky I occasionally do super light neutered forcefem art (basically tgirl wish fulfillment bc I think it's cute) and people are big fans but I did the reverse of that (very light forcemasc (basically tboy wish fulfillment bc I think it's cute)) and it made a lot of people mega uncomfortable and its like. Sorry I'm bisexual!!! dudes deserve to have art like this too and I think it's fun to draw. I just think the reverse reaction is very silly

As a binary tgirl I am hitting bitches with the "masculinity can be a wonderful and extremely desirable thing and you really don't have to be weird to me about it making u uncomfortable" beam.

One thing I really like about Beverly Engel's book It Wasn't Your Fault, which is about PTSD-induced toxic shame, is that quite a bit of it deals with people who haven't broken The Cycle of Abuse (TM) and have gone on to hurt others. That's a really underserved and vulnerable patient population, and statistically, it's also MASSIVE. I don't think I've read a single other self-help type book on PTSD and self-loathing that confronts the possibility that you're exactly as bad as you think you are.

I felt better that it so much as mentioned that children can react to abuse with ungovernable rage. Everybody likes the image of PTSD patients as internalizing everything and becoming doormats, which does happen, and often, but it's not the only narrative. Personally I've always hated my abusers and have always wanted everyone who so much as breathed wrong in my direction from ages 0 to 18 to burn eternally in hell. I *never* thought any of it was my fault and ever since I was a toddler I was willing to make it everybody else's problem, and it's really relieving to read a clinical perspective that acknowledges that abuse victims can act that way too.

undertale and deltarune has kind of been the best way to chart the way tumblrspeak has changed over time

Do you think tumblr will ever learn the difference between “I’m defending this person because I agree with them wholeheartedly and I am also like this person” and “I’m defending this person because your behavior is dangerous and you need to stop”

in law school, my mom took me to this stress retreat because my family was vaguely aware i was a suicide risk. and they didnt allow phones, so i brought this huge bag of books. and one of the options for "destressing" was this fake cave grotto thing, where they'd decorated a room to make it look exactly like an underground cave and the air was like -10 degrees, but there was a like 4ft deep pool in the middle that was kept super super hot, so you would just switch between the hot and cold. and they would bring you an endless supply of this weird syrupy drink thing that was like super caffeinated and tasted like sugar and mint. and so i spent multiple days sitting half submerged in this fake grotto drinking mystery liquid and reading. and i have to be honest i really did feel less stressed

knight/lord yaoi is hot sure whatever but have we fully explored knight/lady yuri. you can do it in so many flavors. butch knight who wants to protect her beautiful femme princess . butch4butch knight and lord who rule with an iron fist. femme4femme unicorn protector and fair maiden. guys can u hear me. what if i wanted to be with you but the only way was to don a suit of armor. a full body mask to protect me and in doing so protecting you . endless devotion . sworn fealty. the lady's favor wrapped gently around the knight's arm. childhood friends to lovers. tragically torn apart by war. arranged marriage madness. walk with me...

[ID: a screenshot of a comic speech bubble. The black text in it reads "No matter how open-minded, socially conscious, anti-racist I think I am, I still have old learned hidden biases that I need to examine. It is my responsibility to check myself daily for my stereotypes, prejudices and, ultimately, discrimination." /ID end]

antiracism is a constant process. i was raised in a racist village and it's not easy to get rid of it. i moved away over 10 years ago but those ideas are still haunting me.

Bro wants to be a fop but he's barely dapper

Bro called himself bohemian with zero joie de vivre