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“Loving To Survive” by Dee L.R. Graham, “Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them” by Susan Forward and Joan Torres, and “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft changed my life and the way I saw my experiences and truly helped me with the healing process so much

I just wanted to thank all the queens who have not been in this situation reblogging these links for women who have overcome or are still living with abusive men and/or for wanting to read them yourself to better understand what/how/why abuse happens and how to support women in abusive relationships and say to every queen reblogging this who has been in the same situation as i have or is still in it that u are so strong and brave and wonderful and i wish u healing, happiness, and love because u are worth all of those things.

“Why Does He Do That?” is often recommended by my favorite columnist, Captain Awkward, so people can recognize potential warning signs of bad relationships.

I think part of getting better is complete ego death. Like you’re not above setting a timer for 5 minutes and focusing on a task. You’re not above doing a very simple 3 minute workout to start. You’re not above reading for 10 minutes a day when you first get out of your reading slump, even if you used to read for hours. You’re not above starting slow and then building up to where you want to be/where you once were. What you are above is total inertia. Doing something really is better than doing nothing. Radically accept where you are, radically accept your limits, and go from there. Don’t let your ego get in the way.

i wish there was more it/its positivity that wasn't just "hell yeah look at you go funky little goblins/otherwordly beings/freaks/objects"

GMORNING GIRLIES IT'S YURI DAY AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

something that i find interesting about independent animation nowadays is that if you don't have studio/streamer backing, you have to release your work yourself on the internet, but you have to do it for free on the internet because virtually nobody is going to be willing to accept a paywall just for one original show, so what you have to do in order to make any money off of it is make all of your money from merchandising, but then this means that you show must be merchandisable and have very toyetic character designs that translate easily to plushies and whatnot, but then you also need to cater your show to people who are disproportionately inclined to buy merchandise like that in the first place so that your sales can be enough to sustain you, which means that even if you want to communicate complex or difficult ideas in your work, your independent animation project must attract (at least on a first impression) and retain viewers who are both very consumerist and very capable of rabid passion, which unfortunately has a single-circle shaped venn diagram with a lot of the most toxic fandom tendencies known to man, and this explains a lot of things about independent animation and its fandoms nowadays I think

Hi, person whose legs start hurting if you stand upright in one spot for more than a minute, who also struggles with setting boundaries. I was hoping you'd join me for Four Hours Of Standing In One Spot? If you say no I'll be very upset and cry about it. This is a normal way to behave apparently!

The extra fun part about being in a situation like this is when "have all the information needed to realize this is causing you physical pain and still chooses to act like this" is treated like an illegitimate reason to be upset with the person doing it

got a crick in my neck and a frog in my throat and a chip on my shoulder and a stick up my ass and now you're gonna stand there puttin words in my mouth? haven't I been through enough?

welcome to my farm where I keep my dark horse my black sheep my scapegoat and my underdog. my canary in the coal mine died ages ago

It’s a mess here: someone looked your gift dark horse in the mouth, led it to water, and jumped back on it. Your ducks aren’t in a row, someone counted the chickens before they hatched. Your geese are silly, your brown cows aren’t explaining how, and every one of these sheep is a wolf but they don’t even notice with the amount of wool over their eyes. I’m fining you one million gold coins.

it was the goat blame the goat