wandering stories of a kru

IT’S JUST ME, MYSELF, AND I… THE PERKS OF TRAVELING ALONE! (FROM A FILIPINO PERSPECTIVE)

Traveling these days is very convenient just like any convenient stores that you get see in your nearby neighborhood. It’s fast, easy, breezy and very much accessible because of so many discounted offers and deals from airline tickets, hotels, or even tour packages.

Wandering alone at Hong Kong Museum of Art, Tsim Sha Tsui, Hong Kong

(Tuloy ang mowdeling! Kahit ikaw lang mag-isa! Ganern!)

(Transliteration: Continue the modeling; making your dreams come true even if it’s only you in it.)

On the other hand, for Filipinos, we oftentimes travel with friends, or with family, either for holidays or just long weekends.

However, as solo traveling… it’s somehow, and perhaps, still, a bit off the track when it comes to our parent’s minds, friends, or even distant relatives, because of safety precautions, getting lost, and so many questions. Hence, the list goes on!

Disclaimer: Before you read, the writer, the blog, the people involved in the photos, or the company website, does not guarantee or encourage to READ all the following things just for the sake of READING. Thus, these thoughts and insights are BASED ON PERSONAL OPINIONS. If you find this blog post episode discriminatory on your beliefs, or your culture, BETTER NOT TO CONTINUE READING THIS BLOG ENTRY. However, if you find this blog post episode helpful, informative, and something that you can learn, you may CONTINUE TO READ for personal purpose.

WHAT IS AN AFAM?

In Filipino abbreviation, AFAM means A Foreigner Assigned in Manila. In another context, with regards to Filipino gay lingo, AFAM means a foreigner (a western or white, to say).  At least, that’s what I know, for being a part of the Filipino community.

The AFAM trend in the Philippines, or outside the Philippines, is not new to us, as they’ve been with us for generations to generations, to say, the least. For some reason, based on personal experience and insights, the AFAM perspective, is somewhat like, a demand, as for some reason, if not, part of the culture. After being colonized for hundred years and influenced by different countries, it gave us an idea about how an AFAM perspective, as somewhat, already part of us.

Even before, while in the Philippines, and now, living and wandering abroad for almost three years, I’ve had few encounters and experience when it comes to AFAMs, to name a few countries, or continents. Yes, you may have found them along the way, and just because you’ve added them to any of your social medias, or you’ve acquainted them from parties, or any social events, how do you really keep them?

(SELFIE AT THE PAGODA WITH MY AFAM BFF)

This is another yet exciting blog post episode, as I will share about my thoughts, wanderings, and of course, my experience, on how I found and kept an AFAM!

NOTICE: BEFORE YOU READ!

This blog post episode is intended EXCLUSIVELY for FILIPINO READERS and the sole purpose of this blog entry is to establish connections, rapport, camaraderie, friendships, understanding between Filipino culture and AFAM culture, but above all, relationship.

TO THE FILIPINO READERS, may this blog post episode guide you through in understanding the AFAM culture.

TO THE AFAM READERS, this blog post does intend to objectify you, misjudged you, or discriminate your beliefs, or your culture, but its sole purpose is for the FILIPINO readers, to understand, know and enlighten about your beliefs and culture. If you think this blog post episode doesn’t benefit you, or your Filipino partner or friends, in behalf, better not to continue reading this blog post episode.

Disclaimer: The writer, the blog, the people involved in the photos, or the company website, does not guarantee or encourage to do all the following things just for the sake of FINDING AND KEEPING AN AFAM, however, if you find this blog post episode helpful, informative, and something that you can learn, you may do these things for personal purpose.

USE SOCIAL MEDIA!

Time and again, the world is changing. Thus, every year, there is something new to learn. Hence, with regards to it, it has taught us to evolve, in many ways. And one of it, is technology. We use technology these days, in many various ways to ease and make our lives more better. On top of it, we use the social media now, to communicate around the world.

Through time, technology and social media has evolved, thus, it is easier now and convenient to find AFAMS! So, how to find them and use social media? Well, in truth, and with all honesty, there are SO MANY SOCIAL MEDIAS offering on finding AFAMS! And even Google, can help you find your AFAM. But of course, it takes guts and determination, if you are willing to know and be with the AFAM, may it be just for friendship sake, or more than just friends.

(KOH SAMED, THAILAND WITH AFAM BFFS)

If you want to know about the social medias offering on finding AFAMS, you can ask away!

Now, if you are connected with the AFAM, of course, you don’t just aim to find, right? You also need to keep that AFAM, and by means of communication, you must adjust the situation, or the time, since the AFAM, doesn’t always live in the Philippines, and he could be part of the other side of the world. So, expect time differences.

On the other hand, there are many types of AFAMs (yes, they are categorized, haha!) that you will encounter in social media, or even when you meet them personally along the way. Again, this is based on personal experience. So, technically, this is a personal opinion. These are the AFAMs that you will meet along the way, if he is worth the keep! (Soon on my blog post episode!)

NEVER DEMAND UNLESS OTHERWISE STATED

For the past years, the AFAM perspective is somewhat like a demand, to meet the means. This is a reality to some, because when you think of an AFAM, they already have the dollars and euros. Yes, it is true, but not everyone is earning that much. Well, on the other side of reality, they are people, too, and not money machines. They work, to meet their means, just like everyone else in this world.

Again, this is a personal opinion and perspective, based on personal experience with an AFAM. If you think finding an AFAM, and be with them will make your life better and colorful, better think twice first. Yes, it can. No, not always. As there are some AFAMs who doesn’t even own a house, or even just work on a low-earning salary. Just because an AFAM is very good to you, with all that sweet talking and gesture, which for some reason, you will melt for their sweetness, but it does not always apply to everyone.

Of course, we’ve heard of successful stories with AFAMs, and we are happy for them.

Just because you are with an AFAM, you can already demand for something from them. Yes, you may do so, but shame on you, for that. You barely just met or know each other, and here you are, demanding for something that is beyond control. But then again, unless otherwise stated, you may demand to do so, if there is a mutual agreement between the two of you.

Having or being with an AFAM, may it be just for friendship or more than friendship, it shouldn’t have to be give and give. It should be a give and take relationship. Yes, in a way that you give something without counting the cost. You give from the heart, and not because you are obliged to give, or have a debt of gratitude.

As for my friendship with my AFAM/s, yes, many of them! I make it to a point that there is mutual consent, agreement, but above all, give and take relationship between us. I believe, that’s the best, on personal perspective, to keep an AFAM. And of course, not just an AFAM, but with your Filipino friends, too.

BE OPEN-MINDED (TO MANY POSSIBILITIES)

In Filipino culture, we are taught, that we should be the Maria Clara in many aspects, or the conservative type of person, especially when it comes to meeting someone. Yes, it is true, since it is part of our culture. But given that we dwell on different culture, it is something that we should learn to establish adjustments. By means of being open-minded, we have to accept and appreciate their culture, while them on the other hand, should adjust, too. Again, it all comes to mutual agreement, or give and take relationship. Also, it helps build cross-cultural learning and appreciation.

(COME THROUGH MOMENTS AT SUPHANBURI CITY WITH MY AFAM FRIENDS)

While it is true that we have our own thoughts, given that we have the free-will to think and talk, but you have to realize that dwelling with different culture means that different with another life.

Maybe, you like spicy food, but your AFAM doesn’t like spicy food. You prefer rice over bread, but your AFAM has lived all his life with bread. Simple things to say the least, but, if you try to open up your culture about the things that you usually do, the AFAM will eventually try it. But of course, vice versa. If one of you cannot appreciate, or accept each other’s differences, then better not to keep that AFAM. What’s the point of finding and keeping an AFAM if you don’t even try to accept or appreciate, right?

Now, if you have already found your AFAM, might as well BOOK A FLIGHT TO YOUR AFAM!

GUARD YOUR HEART AND NEVER (EVER) LOSE YOURSELF

Perhaps, this is a very sensitive part of the blog post episode, but for sure, there is something to learn in this part of the blog. As they would always say, people will come and go. Yes, it is true, because even if you have found them and kept them (the AFAM), they will not always be there for you. Just so you know. As they have their own lives to live, too. And that they can change their minds with just a blink of an eye. So, take note on guarding your heart. You might experience separation anxiety.

But if you feel the separation anxiety, book your flight HERE and fly to your AFAM! Take chances! You only live once!

In Filipino culture, we tend to fall for the idea of falling in love, that we are not thinking of its consequences anymore. Or even if we already know the consequences, we still do it, because we are hopeless romantics. And on the other hand, we watch too much drama series about love stories with happy endings, but in reality, it doesn’t always happen because then again, life is not always about that. Life teaches us lessons to strive hard and work hard in order for us to live, and if we are lucky enough, we get the love we think we deserve. Above all, never ever lose yourself.

(WEFIES WITH MY AFAMS… WILL NEVER GET OLD!)

The truth and reality about being with an AFAM, is that, they are not always there to be with you, and vice versa. But of course, if you want to establish in keeping them, always keep up with communication. Yes, it may be tiring and draining sometimes, but you have to realize that they have their lives, too. That they have to work, and that they also have to take care of their family and friends, too. Also, you have to realize, you are not the only friend of the AFAM. So, wake up from the fantasy of being with him every time and always, because that is not happening. Yes, for a short while, for a day, a month, or years. But once in a while, too, they have to do their own thing and just let them. If you have kept the communication with your AFAM, well, for sure, he’s for keeps!

SEIZE THE MOMENT!

Finding and keeping with an AFAM is also an effort. It is part of work and not just for the sake having it, but as well as keeping it. It’s not easy, as there will always be language and cultural barrier, but of course, there’s always body language to keep it up. But what is interesting about having an AFAM, may it be for just friendship, or more than that, is that, there is always something to learn. Just seize the moment! Enjoy of whatever situation you have right now. Because, after all, life is all about seizing the moment!

(DJ STATION NIGHT WITH MY SWISS AFAMS I MET WHEN I WAS IN BALI)

AFAM OR NOT, it’s all about life choices, and personal decisions. But establishing effort and determination to keep the relationship going, may it be for friendship, or relationship, is all up to us. If it doesn’t work for the first try, then try the second one. As I’ve always said from my previous blog post episodes, as long as we have all the chances in this world, and if we really want to do it, we can always do it.

After all of these things, I believe, finding and keeping with an AFAM, is all up to you. Just be yourself, and the AFAM will be there for you. It’s up to them if he will accept you or not.

HOW ABOUT YOU? WHAT IS YOUR AFAM STORIES TO TELL? SEND ME A MESSAGE. LET’S DISCUSS!

SPECIAL MENTION TO ALL MY AFAM FRIENDS, Thank you for the friendship! Keep in touch! <3

– thewanderingkru

“What would you do if you were stuck in an isolated island?”

This is a question we’ve heard of or perhaps, familiar with, for sure. Somehow, a metaphorical, or better yet hypothetical question, but regardless of the technicalities, for some reason, we could relate, or experienced, at least for once in our lives.

It is true, loneliness is something that is inevitable to us. It is something that we cannot deny, because for some reason, it is part of us, as humans. If you’ve never felt lonely in your life, well, better not continue reading this blog post episode. However, if you’re curious on how to overcome this certain situation, you may continue to do so!

Yes, there are many ways and things do in all over the websites, blogs, or in any kind of information around the world about overcoming loneliness away from home, however, I hope, through this blog post episode, as a millennial, I will be able to share my thoughts and insights about overcoming loneliness away from home!

(Finding my way at Koh Samed, Rayong, Thailand Circa May 2016)

Disclaimer: The writer, the blog, or the company itself does not encourage to do all these things just for the sake of overcoming loneliness, however, if you find this blog post episode helpful, you may do these for personal purpose.

1. MAKE YOURSELF BUSY

Yes, we’ve heard about this insight, for probably, about a zillion times, but how do we really make ourselves busy?

While it is true, that we’ve got a lot of things to do from our work, or studies, , but inevitably, there are times that we would still feel lonely, because for some reason, as the say, we are lonely animals, and somehow, we really need someone to lean on, but is it really necessary? I myself, sometimes, need someone to talk with, of course! But for some situations and circumstances, I enjoy solitude at times.

As a millennial, I’ve had few experiences of loneliness especially away from home, but it did not hinder me to overcome it. By means of making myself busy, I do the things that I love to do, through writing, blogging, or just simply cleaning my room and I try to be productive as much as possible. With this perspective, I believe, if you want to overcome loneliness, there are actually many things to do, like finding your niche, go back to your hobbies, or perhaps do the things that will help you. Still, it is up to you to decide on what to do.

As I have always said from my previous blog post episodes, an expat myself, living alone is not easy, but again, through time, I’ve adjusted my situation and of course, overcome loneliness. During my free time, or if I have a situation where I don’t do anything, I normally search flights or hotel deals. Perhaps, weird as they say, but when you start to love traveling, there is this feeling that you just couldn’t stop it. Thus, I enjoy searching flights, especially cheap flights!

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2. FIND THE RIGHT PEOPLE

Finding the right people these days is not easy as ABC, as they tend to sugar coat lies and deceptions just to make their selves above from everyone.

It is like a competition these days, and even friendships are broken because of pride and hypocrisy, and perhaps, all the negativity in the world. It is something that is inevitable for us humans, and perhaps, we’ve had our own experiences especially in those situations, or circumstances, but of course, we learn from those experience.

However, it does not apply to everyone. Because if we are lucky enough, and perhaps, blessed, in deed, we’ll find the right people, where we know we can always lean on, or just a call away. And if ever we have those kind of friendships, or right people, it’s really best to keep those people, as it truly helps ease and overcome loneliness. After all, people will come and go. But if they are really meant for you, they are meant to stay.

3. CALL YOUR LOVED ONES

As the saying goes, “home is where the heart is!”

The thought itself may somehow be vague, or perhaps cliche, but whenever you will be, wherever you are, or whatever you do, you know that you can find your way back home, and that is where your heart is!

As an expat myself, it is truly inevitable to miss home, and feel lonely for some reason, but you know, the best thing, on a personal note, calling your loved ones, especially your family, will ease all that has been bothering your heart.

Aside from calling them, why not better book a flight and see them, right?

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4. JOIN SOCIAL EVENTS

As a working millennial, it is not something new to us, but still, I’m sharing this insights, as it is really helpful, because by means of joining social events, it truly helps overcome loneliness, in a way that you can establish rapport, and acquaintances.

Thus it builds connections through people from different walks of life. But of course, you have to guard yourself, by choosing events that will benefit you. I believe, through these circumstances, it will build and develop our social skills, may it be through personal or professional growth.

And for some unfathomable reason, if we are lucky enough, perhaps, we can find our future love affair. In one way or another, it helps overcome our loneliness, but of course, you have to stand up, keep your self moving and grooving!

Now, how or where to find the social events? You can search through social medias, or websites, or a google away!

5. GO TO PLACES THAT IS NEW TO YOU!

(Getting my way around at the Patuxay Park, Vientianne, Laos Circa 2016)

Last but definitely not the least... travel!

Millennial people these days tend to travel in search of their lost souls, or in soul searching journey or perhaps just for personal knowledge. Well, I myself, would agree to that, because one of the reasons why I traveled because of searching my self. And yes, through time and experience, I have found my way, my lost soul, but of course, I’m not gonna stop traveling just because I have found my soul. I believe, through traveling, especially to places that is new, helps overcome loneliness, for that fact that you will meet people from different walks of life! Thus, what is good about it, is that you get the chance to discover your self, your potential, and you possibilities, of what you are capable.

For my love of traveling, I make sure, that whenever I travel, at least, I get to meet new people along the way. Although of course, it doesn’t apply to all, but making and building connections help ease loneliness, for some reason.

Also, it is easier to travel now since there are many low-cost airlines offering sale flights! So, what are you waiting for? Start booking a flight and ease that loneliness! Click here for cheap flights and airline tickets!

Human as we are, we are never contended. And we tend to explore more of the unknown, because we are taught of that. But of course, it is all about personal choices and decisions, but more importantly, our determination to do it!

To wrap up this blog post episode, I believe, it all comes to personal choices and decisions, but it has to be the right one! Well, it is inevitable to make mistakes, because we are only humans, but as long as we have all these chances, and opportunities to overcome this loneliness or the things that is bothering us, at least, we try our best to become the better version of ourselves regardless of the people judging us. Because, at the end of the day, it is our lives to live. So, make the most of the moment!

Traveling has always been a perks, and as I have always said in my previous blog post episodes, it is privilege to some, because not everyone is able and capable of traveling, and perhaps, an opportunity to experience life, but more importantly, something to learn.

While it is true that we’ve seen and heard about people traveling with friends, or couples, or perhaps, we’ve read about traveling siblings all over the blog or any travel websites around the world.

Time and again, in this changing world, our views and perspective in life are always evolving. Thus, with regards to things of traveling, on a personal perspective, there are so many moments involved in our journey through life, and one of it, is having sibling/s. And one thing I’ve learned from this life journey, is that, you just have to make the most of these moments while you still got the chance.

(Well, perhaps, part of traveling, is also modeling. So, moooowdeling? Yes? Yes! At Asiatique, Bangkok, Thailand with my older sister)

This is a very special, yet another exciting blog post episode because of so many reasons among the many, I got the chance of a lifetime, to explore, travel, and of course, wander with my sibling!

Back then, as the youngest among the four, I’ve always had many fond memories with my siblings. From small cat fights to the one’s who wins for the remote control of the television. Thus, of course, bonding moments with my family, especially on family gatherings and outings.

Growing up and building a career for myself, especially living away from my family, is not easy. And the memories I have with them, are only tinge of what is my life right now, but will always be part of my treasured moments. Apparently, due to circumstances when it comes to work, my siblings and I, doesn’t really hangout that much anymore than before, but still thankful to technology for not keeping us apart and keeping our communications open.

And so, few months ago, my older sister messaged me that she and her friends have decided to travel to Thailand and Cambodia, for holidays. Hence, just last week, they’ve arrived in the land of smiles, to start their holiday journey. A part of me is excited, because after almost a year, I get to see my sister. And of course, while living here in Bangkok, I somehow, manage to be their part-time tour guide.

Here are some of the few reasons, and nope, not the million reasons, nor the wallflower perks, but the perks of traveling with your older sibling, when traveling with your sibling:

YOU WILL GET A LOT OF FREE STUFF!

Yes, this is exactly what I thought first hand when I write about this blog post episode, YOU WILL GET A LOT OF FREE STUFF! From souvenirs shopping, to entrance fees, fare, or whatever whatnot that comes to mind. It’s not that I’m abusing my sibling’s financial capability, but I think, it’s an  innate instinct for the older siblings to take care of their younger sibling. Basic! Haha! But of course, in return of the free stuff, I take care of the needs of my older sibling.

(Group photo with my sister and her friends at Koh Larn, Pattaya, Thailand)

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YOU GET MORE SENSIBLE MOMENTS

As we age, I’ve learned that the older you get, the more you talk about serious matters. Although that’s not always the case when it comes to my siblings, because in most, or perhaps, many times, we have our crazy moments together. But perhaps, it’s also the moment, where I get to share my own thoughts in sensible and authentic perspective where your sibling doesn’t judge for who you are. It’s also the moment, where you can just be yourself, regardless of everything. A moment where I get to experience talking about future plans, future goals and travels, and of course, personal struggles in life. Thus, it’s also a bonding moment for some quality time.

(Free photo shoot from the best photographer, not! who took this beautiful photo for me at Central Pattaya, Thailand)

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YOU WILL REALIZE WHO MATTERS THE MOST

It may sound cliche or overrated as they say, but the moment you are at your lowest point in your life, I believe, there will always be that someone who will take care of you. While traveling with my sibling, I have learned and realized who really matters the most. And for me, it’s my family. Yes, your friends or your lover (girl/boyfriend) will be there WITH you, but they will not always be there FOR you. There is a big thin line to that! Human as I am, I sometimes, tend to forget the people who matters the most, because for some unfathomable reason, I get so thrilled to believe in the idea of falling in love, and clinging to the hope of romantically involved with someone, regardless of the mishaps and shortcomings, and somehow, forget the one’s who are always been there for me. Even if your sibling is angry at you for that matter, they will still be there (no choice? haha!), because, as the mantra goes, “blood is thicket than water”. Through time too, after experiencing all these personal heartaches, I’ve learned to see who matters, and to me, it’s your sibling/s, your family.

(Crazy tuk tuk ride with my sister and her friends)

YOU BECOME MORE MATURE AND RESPONSIBLE 

Building a career in the foreign land isn’t that easy at all, and most especially, if you are living all alone. But through time, of course, I’ve learned to managed and adjusted my situation, especially when it comes to being an adult, somehow. As I’ve always said from my previous blog post episodes, everyday is a learning process. And yes, I continue to learn. Even if I am the youngest in the family, it did not hinder me to be mature and responsible, especially traveling with your sibling, because for some reason, it is a perks and and again, an instinct, that you should take care of your sibling. Thus, of course, in return, your sibling will take care of you, whatever happens!

(Selfies, of course! At Pattaya Walking Street, Thailand)

YOU WILL LEARN TO KNOW MORE ABOUT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

As a hopeless romantic myself (claiming to be), perhaps, a mellow-dramatic type of person, who believes in the idea of love, and falling in love, without thinking of the consequences, and inevitable shortcomings, I’ve always been the target to be heart broken, in some unfathomable ways. But at least, I loved. And will continue to learn how to love.

While traveling with your sibling, I’ve learned that, you will learn to know more about unconditional love. Unconditional by means that, they will always love you, that they will always be there for you, regardless of your state right now, of everything! In most times, as a solo traveler myself, there are moments where I feel that I’m not secured and safe, but when I’m with my sibling, I’m sure I’m always been taking cared of, because, I have my sibling with me.

(Sunday craziness over breakfast at the floating market with my sister and her friends)

As I rekindle all these thoughts, I know, there will always this someone, that I will forever and always can count on. And for unfathomable reasons among the many, they will always be there for me.

One day and in time, I hope and pray, to get to have a chance to travel with my siblings all over the world!

Special shout out...

To my siblings: Kuya Bem, Kuya Gian, and Ate Beiam. Thank you for everything! And of course, to my parents, you will always and forever be in my heart.

To Miss K, Miss Princess, and Vibes Amore, thank you! My Bangkok > Pattaya > Bangkok weekend with you was loaded super craziness and fun! To more travel adventures, soon. Cheers! #goprotakeaphoto

We have our own stories to tell.

Perhaps, stories that we thought and think, that is something worth the share.

And stories, that we think, and believe, that is something to learn.

Yes, we’ve heard about these insights and thoughts all over the world. Perhaps, the most overrated, or better yet, the most cliche blog post, as they say. On personal perspective, however, these insights taught us, to move further, perhaps, beyond of our limitations. But how do we really mend a broken heart? Well, of course, it’s only us can tell on how we mend our broken hearts. Somehow, only time will tell, or we make our selves busy, or perhaps, through traveling. As for me, I found my own way in mending my broken heart... through traveling.

(Start of the tracking path in Tegalalang Rice Terraces, Ubud, Bali, Indonesia)

Last December of 2016, it was perhaps, one of the most devastating moments of my life. It was a moment where I thought it is the end of the world. I rolled up like a ball, just crawled in my bed, feeling lost, and just cry to the point that I cannot hear my voice anymore. It was the time when we broke up with my ex. Cliche to say, to some, but I think, part of living in this world, is to experience, at least, these things, to be heart broken, and someday, letting ourselves grow, to be a better version of our selves.

In this blog post episode, I will share my insights and thoughts about how I learned to mend my broken self through traveling...

1. I’ve learned to just let things flow

I’ve had my few moments where I broke down and just cried a river. It was the moment where I felt like I can’t do anything but just cry, in the sense that I wasn’t myself anymore. It was a devastating moment to me perhaps, because things just cannot work out between us, between my ex and me, because of long distance. Yes, long distance works, of course, to some people. But on our part, we fell apart. But it was a learned lesson.

Through traveling, I’ve learned to just let things flow. By letting things flow, I just let my self go with the flow of life. Weeks after I got my heart broken, although I was still in pain then, at the back of my mind, I’ve decided that 2017 will be my traveling year. My mantra then and until now, while still writing these thoughts, is to travel as much as possible. And so, I’ve started my journey, and booked my flights. With no exact itinerary, I’ve decided to go back home for a week, to my home country, my comfort zone, to my family. I believe, part of healing a broken heart, is to seek for family’s comfort. And so I did it. For a moment, it truly healed me, but of course, having a broken heart doesn’t heal right away. Let’s be honest, we are only human, and of course, we have our own flaws in life. Perhaps, time knows, and perhaps, only time will tell, as to when will be healed. And so, by just letting  things go with the flow, after reading a memoir Eat Pray Love, I was inspired to travel solo, thus, I’ve traveled to Bali, Indonesia (Well, there’s a reason behind why I choose Bali. If you’ve heard, watched, or read the memoir about Eat Pray Love, you will know the reason behind). I think, letting things flow is just like having no exact exact itinerary when traveling, although of course, it depends on your niche, as for me, I just let things the day go with the flow then. At some point while in the island of the Gods, I just treat myself, rewards myself, and just experience my own dolce far niente, my sweetness of doing nothing. 

2. I’ve learned to just appreciate moments

As a millennial myself, I’ve been taught to keep on moving, think of the future, perhaps, searching for more than what is just the norm, or the usual, and in most times, thinking outside the box. However, while experiencing these things, there’s this point of my life where I wasn’t able to experience moments anymore because of the things happening so fast and not being able to appreciate the moment of the present. At some point of my life, there are times that I wasn’t able to truly experience moments, because perhaps, I was always in hurry, I was in a rush, that I tend to leave the necessaries.Thus, in some times, especially when in a romantic relationship, I wasn’t able to see some of the moments, and when I was in the state of pain, that’s the time where moments are only remembered.

Through traveling, I’ve learned to just appreciate moments. I think, moments are really important and special when it comes to traveling. Growing up, I rarely appreciate moments, because maybe I was bored, or I doesn’t enjoy me. However, I think, it is essential to remember and appreciate moments. Especially on being an adult now, we barely recall or remember, or yet, appreciate moments because of so many things that we do, in most of the time because of work. Although, of course, it is not something to be need to really appreciate moments, but I think, it is something worth the share and ponder to people.

(Alone but not lonely. Got a chance to get acquainted with a tourist while I was at the tourist spot and in return, I got to my way for a good view at Marina Bay Sands, Singapore)

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3. I’ve learned to just think of the present

While it is true that we learn from the past and look forward of the future, but why not just think of the present, of the now, of the reality of the moment that we are living.

Yes, I was hurt from the past, and perhaps, it was an inevitable moment, but of course, there’s something to learn from it, as always. However, if I let the past distract me of my future, although, sometimes, as I think of the past moments that I have, and somehow think of what the future holds, but I am only human. I think, well, perhaps, over think, at most times. But, as much as possible, I try not to think of it, because, at the end of the day, it will only ruin me, and it will not make me achieve the things that I wanted to achieve in life. Also, if I think of the future, it will always be uncertain, although, thinking about the future is really important, because there is this thing that I somehow to look forward for, but why not think of the present instead? 

Through traveling, I’ve learned to just think of the present. By means of the present, the now. I think, the moments of the present, I believe, it is all that matters, because, at some point, it helps me mend the way I thought of the past experience and my thinking of the future. In a way, enjoying what is in the present while traveling helps me my broken self to be just be the best that I could be. As a human, a being, and as a person.

4. I’ve learned to just be myself

In most times, we sugar coat everything, maybe because we are afraid that people will judge us. Sometimes, we masked ourselves, because, we believe that it will make us happy, even if we’re not truly happy on the inside.

This part of the blog post episode is very essential and very relevant for my part, as based on my experience. At some point of my journey in this life, I tend to sugar coat my situation, or even mask myself just for the sake of pleasing other people, although it should not be. Apparently, I am only human and I make mistakes. At times, there are really days when I don’t see myself as the real me, as to what I really wanted in life, what I wanted to achieve, but through time, I’ve learned that it is not healthy for me. And so...

Through traveling, I’ve learned to just be myself. Through the years, I’ve had so many moments when I thought of not be me, or not being myself. I got distracted by the influence of people around me, and eventually forgot my authentic self, and became a copy cat in the process. And it was a devastating moment for my part, because it is not helping to be a better person,and so I’ve decided to change myself, my life. It was a leap of faith, although it is not easy, but the process and time, and of course, through traveling, I’ve learned to just be myself, and get over of those fantasy, and judgmental people. Who cares if they judge me in the way I live, my lifestyle, or the way I wear my clothes, it is not them, but me. As love as I am happy with myself, I believe, that is all that matters, because, after all, this is what we came for in this world, right? To be our own selves.

(Selfie with the Balinese locals, except with the mister local wearing a red shirt, maybe he was busy with his phone then at the Tirtha Empul Temple, Ubud, Bali, Indonesia)

5. I’ve learned to love myself

In most blogs perhaps, cliche to some, but at times, this is the very reason why we travel, because we love ourselves, but do we truly love our real selves?

I must admit, the very reason why I travel because I want to experience, and I think, it is a phenomena wherein we explore ourselves to know more about ourselves, and through this experience, I have learned that, I can be a better version of myself by loving myself. It’s vague to say, but a fact when can never deny. How can we move forward and mend our broken self if we always cling to the idea, and just the idea of love? If we want to make something for our selves, we can always make it through. As for me, through traveling, I was able to mend my broken self, by learning to love myself. While traveling, I was able to discover myself more, know myself more, and I believe, that is loving myself.

To wrap up, I still believe that there are many ways to mend our own broken selves. I believe, it is always be up to us, on how we deal the situation, or circumstances, although not necessary with someone, because we can be broken in so many ways. Perhaps, in those ways, we can find our selves, and in those ways, we can be a better version of our selves. After all, it’s part of our journey through life.

As for you, what are your ways to mend your broken heart? Send me a message. Tell me your story and let’s discuss about life lessons and mending our broken hearts!

Is it really necessary to travel?

Is saving money just for the sake of traveling... worth it?

What about your funds?

What about your future plans?

What will you get after spending your money on traveling?

Perhaps we’ve heard about these inquiries or questions from different blogs, books, magazines, to our family, friends, or to people we barely just acquainted with, but how do we really save money for travels? What are these necessities? Or are these even necessary? What about these return of investments after traveling to these places? What are the perks of these traveling journey? Or are there even perks of traveling?

(Waiting for the train from Kuala Lumpur airport to Kuala Lumpur city center, Circa October 2016 at Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia)

On a personal note, I believe in choices. I believe that we make our own decisions and choices in life. Choices and decisions that we think we deserve, because, after all of these experience, we are entitled... to do so.

As a Filipino traveler, with a Philippine passport, I haven’t really been anywhere in the world except around in South East Asia so far, but my views toward traveling widen my perspective about the things that I’ve learned from it. Thus, I have also learned to experience the thoughts and things about life through this life learning wandering journey but of course, I also came across with shortcomings too through my travels. 

While it is true, as they say, that I live in a third world country. Well, perhaps, a fact, since I couldn’t enter to some countries without visa, but it did not hinder me to explore and learn cultures, wander and wonder the unknown, and of course, discover my potentials. As I have always said from my previous blog posts, privilege, as they say, too, but I believe it is always an opportunity to travel. An opportunity that if we believe in ourselves, there’s this glimmer of hope, that will really happen if we want to make it happen.

Given the facts, in this blog post episode, I will share my thoughts about the things on saving for my travels (the blog post title itself), accommodation discounts and secret deals, getting good yet low-cost flights, and of course, wandering lessons.

ON A PERSONAL NOTE: Perhaps, this is a very exciting blog post episode, for it gives me so much great and good nights while living in Bangkok. Although, I’m not really an expert when it comes to Bangkok nightlife, however, as a shy party animal myself, I consider these moments as something very special and memorable as it gives me so many defining moments of euphoria. In light with this blog post episode, I hope to share my insights, thoughts, and of course, my experience when it comes to Bangkok nightlife.

(One of the vintage shops at JJ GREEN... When you’re at this place, it feels like you’re treasure hunting as there so many cool vintage stuff that you’’d thought would never exist!)

Time and again, Bangkok has been known for its nightlife in Asia, and perhaps around the world, as it boost so many variety of entertainment when it comes to nightlife places. All the way from low-keys, backpackers’ haven, straight clubs or bars, viva lgbt, to hi-so sky towers. Just like everyone else in the world, as they say, but after all, this is what nightlife should be. 

QUESTION: Which nightlife area should I go on my first night in Bangkok?

Answer: It’s all up to you. There are tons of entertainment when it comes to nightlife here in Bangkok.

QUESTION: I’m having a transit / layover flight to Bangkok for a couple of hours, is there a place at night for sightseeing?

Answer: Of course! There’s always something Bangkok has to offer! Some tourist spots / destinations might be close during your transit/layover, however, there are many things of entertainment to visit... all the way from night flee markets, night bazaars, hippie 24 hour coffee shops, local bars and clubs, to skyscraper bars. Just make sure you have enough time for your flight.

In this blog post episode, I will share my tips and guide of having a good nightlife in Bangkok:

First stop...

NIGHT MARKETS AND BAZAARS!

One of the reasons why I love Bangkok, it’s because of having varieties of markets, all the way from low-key style to a little bit of hi-so. Well, it all depends on the mood. Normally, the night markets in Bangkok usually opens at 7 in the evening and closes at 12 midnight. Perhaps, time for Cinderella to go home, kidding aside. 

W H E R E - T O - G O

CHATUCHAK MARKET (Friday night to Sunday night)

In most blogs or any other write ups from different websites, perhaps, Jatujak (or pronounce as Chatuchak) Market has been known by many as one of the shopping destination in Bangkok by tourists all over the world when it comes from street food to souvenir shopping. As far as I know, it only opens on weekends (PEAK HOURS: 7AM - 7PM) from Friday nights until Sunday midnight.  And yes, this is one of my favorite weekend markets for there are so many things you can buy here from local street food all the way to your outfit of the day or / ready to wear clothes for mostly at minimum price. Thus, haggling skills is very much helpful here. Also, don’t forget to keep yourself hydrated as there are many tourists during peak hours.

Getting there:

From any BTS STATIONS (Sky train stations), stop at MO CHIT station. When you arrive at Mo Chit Station, go to either EXIT 1 or 3. The moment you go down, you can see the lights from a far.

Also, you can use the subway. From any MRT station, stop at Chatuchak Station. Well, you know the drill. Technically, the name it self.

Or, you can take the taxi, for convenience.

JJ GREEN (Thursday night to Sunday night)

I’ve only been here twice, but this market is one of my favorites, too. Just like in Chatuchak market, they sell a lot of stuff. What I’m more fascinated about, is that, there’s not much foreigners, which is more like you are much in a local setting. So, if you don’t feel like seeing foreign tourists, visit here. Hence, of course, you get to have the local price! Also, if you are more of a hippie vintage style person, they sell plenty of it. And if you’re into thrift shopping as well, they have tons to offer here! Still, the haggling skills is important here.

Getting there:

JJ GREEN is actually just next to Chatuchak Market. Well, Chatuchak is a really big market anyway. So, how to get there? Still the same as how I got to Chatuchak market. However, as soon as I arrive at the train station during that time then, I used google maps. Yes, very much helpful. You can see that it’s already JJ GREEN because there’s a big JJ GREEN signage at the entrance.

Patpong Night Bazaar (Every night)

Don’t go here if your heart and mind is not yet ready for a good nightlife, for this place offers something really exotic since this market is known by foreign tourists as next to the red light / adult playground area in Silom road. This night market offers varieties all the way from head to toe. Although the prices here are a bit pricey than in any other markets, but still, it offers affordable prices. And again, haggling matters!

(Inside Patpong Night Bazaar with best friend Max. Circa April 2016)

Getting there:

From any sky train station, stop at SALA DAENG station. The moment you go down, you can walk about 5 to 10 minutes from the station to the market. Then, you can see PATPONG MARKET signage in the entrance.

As for subway, from any MRT stations, stop at SILOM station. Thus, same with Sala Daeng station, you can walk for a few meters, and you will arrive at your destination. On a personal note, using google maps is very much helpful.

Train Night Market (Thursday night to Sunday night)

Locally known as Rot Fai Market, or train night market, is perhaps known for its distinct features among the local night markets for it is strategically located just near the train station. Thus, what is good about this place, is that, most of the people visiting are locals, which means, local price! On a personal note, I think it’s much less touristy to foreigners, which is for me, is good, because again, you can buy things in local price. Well, let’s be honest, the more the foreigner tourists, the more the prices are higher, right? 

Getting there:

From any subway stations, stop at NATIONAL CULTURAL CENTER station, at ratchadaphisek road close to Esplanade shopping mall.

W District (Every night)

This is perhaps the hub for expats living in Bangkok. Since many expats from different parts of the world, dine, shop, or just booze the night away on a low-key. Although the prices are a bit pricey, since the most of the food shops here are made from different parts of the world, still a good place for good night vibes.

Getting there:

From any sky train station, stop at PHRA KANONG station, the moment you go down from the station, 5 to 10 minutes walk, you will see a big W DISTRICT signage.

ASIATIQUE (Every night)

Perhaps, the most touristy and popular night bazaar area around Bangkok, as it is situated just near Chao Phraya river. Asiatique is also known to have its largest Ferris wheel in Thailand, the Mekhong. And yes, it’s one of my favorite places when it comes to night life because they don’t only just sell street food or souvenirs, but as well as, they have amusement parks from Ferris wheels to merry-go-rounds. Although some shops are bit pricey since it’s a bit touristy, but you can always haggle.

(At the river boat taxi for free going to Asiatique)

Getting there:

From any BTS STATIONS, stop at Saphan Taksin station, go to exit 2, go down, then go to the river boat taxi stations. From there, you can see the way to Asiatique signage. Then, ride the river boat taxi for free.

Wrapping up about night markets and bazaars...

Perhaps, these are just some of the few many night markets or bazaars to visit around Bangkok. After all, it’s all about your taste buds and choices.

TO BE CONTINUED...

Are you planning on a trip abroad or domestic for your holidays or long weekends? However, you have no idea where to book your accommodation?

(Flying from Yangon to Bangkok, July 2017)

Yes, we have heard about stories or news from websites, our friends or family, or from travel agencies about booking accommodations online, but how convenient or trust-worthy is it?

As a wanderer / traveler myself, I find this website, very useful, convenient and easy breezy whenever I travel domestic or abroad. Aside from their website, they also have an app, which you download in Apple App Store or Android Play Store. Oftentimes, I use the app since it is convenient for me.

Thus, the good thing about this website, is that, they offer thousands of accommodations internationally from hostels to suites.In this blog post episode, I will share my insights and travel perks, about how to earn money while booking an accommodation:

QUESTION: How to earn the 20 USD by booking?

First, click on the specific link below: (Yes, the exact link below to get 20 USD)

https://www.booking.com/s/24_8/aatemp90

Second, book a hotel or your accommodation 

Third, stay at the accommodation (Yes, you have to stay at the accommodation)

Lastly, earn 700 Thai Baht / 20 USD!

Fast and Easy!

And nope, this is not a scam, or a spam, for I myself, have proven and tested the website itself. Through booking.com, it lets me stay from hotels to villas with convenience, plus, of course, with travel perks!

(One of my favorite views in Bangkok from my wanderings, August 2017)

What are you waiting for? BOOK NOW! Spread the love and keep on sharing this good deal!

Who is thewanderingkru?

He is a twenty something from the beautiful country, the Philippines. He is a wandering soul, dreamer, hobbyist when it comes to writing, shy party animal, a lover of photography, beach and art, and of course, he goes by the name of Alex, but known by many as “thesuperlex”.

After graduating from university, he proceeded to law school, but somehow got lost in the process, due to personal and unfathomable reasons. He is still hopeful, as he keeps his dream on becoming a lawyer someday. In search of the missing piece of his lost soul, he decided to go on a solo trip to South East Asia wherein he found his love for traveling. While in Thailand and keeping his life moving, he eventually found a job in the Kingdom of Thailand, and decided to settle in the land of smiles since it is the one of the most accessible country to live in going places of South East Asia. Currently, he is teaching English as a foreign language in the city of angels, Bangkok, Thailand.

What inspired you to create this wandering blog?

Writing has always been my passion, as it has always been one of my stress relievers. Through writing, it lets me explore the wonders of my curiosity to the world. Thus, it inspired me to travel out of my comfort zones and finally decided to write the things about my travels.

(Humble beginnings on my first trip abroad way back 2015 at Ayutthaya City, Thailand)

What is the reason behind thewanderingkru?

It all started few years ago when I started to go out from my comfort zone, my country, to finally venture the unknown, the foreign land. Initially, it was supposedly “thewanderingajarn”, However, after months of learning and adjusting in the Thai culture, the context about “ajarn” in Thai language, which means “a teacher”, is something more on the higher level of profession when it comes to teaching.

On personal perspective, I believe, I haven’t mastered my teaching profession yet. Perhaps, in time and in God’s plan, I will.

On the other hand, I’ve learned that, there’s another context / transliteration word for “a teacher” in Thai language, which is “kru/khru”, and I think, it suits better for this blog.

As for the wandering, this is not just for the sake of traveling and blogging about the places I’ve been to, or I’ve explored, but the sole purpose as to why I created this blog, is to share my personal stories, my reflections, about my wanderings through educating life lessons for everyone.

Have you made plans about your trip to Bangkok? Well, if you’re more on adventure about visiting temples in Bangkok (for a day), and nope, this is not the kind of temple run that you played games in your smart phones, or your heart (kidding aside) than the typical, or perhaps, the usual, touristy kind of adventure, may this blog post help you go through to your temple visits in the city of angels. 

Grateful as I am, I have lived in Bangkok as an expat for quite some time, and for some reason, I got to know the tourist attractions around Bangkok, thus some of them are the temples, however I’ve never really had the chance to try the local kind of style transportation around Bangkok when it comes to touristy thing, as I normally go on tour trips whenever my friends or my family visiting me, for it’s comfortable and convenient.

(Temple guard at Wat Arun)

Few days ago, my best friend from the Philippines visited me in Bangkok, thus, I’ve decided to tour him around and gave it a shot on trying to travel a local style as possible and not go on touristy kind of trip.

In this blog episode, I’m sharing my thoughts, insights, and wisdom about how I spent less than 15 USD on visiting (for a day) popular temples here in Bangkok.

Bangkok, or the city of Angels, the capital of the Kingdom of Thailand, is a popular tourist destination for its exotic and unique South East Asian culture. Thus, known for its Buddhism religion culture, so as its beautiful Buddhist temples, less expensive shopping, hence, and perhaps, the best street food, on personal note, yet.

Fast forward, I booked a hotel near the sky train station, CHONG NONSI STATION to be exact, as it is convenient and easy wherever or whenever I plan to go around Bangkok. For me, I think, Chong Nonsi station is the most convenient station as it is just few rides away from malls, bars or clubs, hippie cafes, to night or flee markets, thus the street food shops, perhaps among the few tourist spots in the city. So, if you are planning to book for a hotel in Bangkok, it is better to book near the sky train stations or subway stations. 

We started our journey at around 11 in the morning after we had our brunch from a nearby hippie cafe named Chu. From Chong Nonsi station, we stopped at Saphan Taksin station (Fare: 25 Thai Baht), as it is the station for river boat taxis in getting to the popular temples in the city. From Saphan Taksin station, go to Exit 2. Then, go down to the station, and from there, you can see the river boat taxi station (Sathorn Station).

(BIG BREAKFAST at Chu!)

From the river boat taxi station (Chao Phraya Express Boat), go to the lane which is not a Chaophraya Tourist Boat (blue flag) and pay from 10 Thai Baht - 32 Thai Baht (no flag, orange, red and yellow flags), depending on the distance. You will see the differences on the river boat taxis, as there are no flags, orange flags, yellow flags, green flags, and blue flags. It was convenient of course, as there’s a different lane for blue flags only. We went for the orange flag river boat then. 

First temple… Wat Arun (Temple of the Dawn)

(Feeling hot at the temple of the dawn)

Since Thailand is a tropical country, expect for a tropical weather. Although it’s rainy season now (August), still, in most times here in Bangkok, it is always sunny. So, might as well bring umbrellas or fans, if you think it is convenient. At least, during our trip then, it was a bit cloudy, but it’s still hot. So, bring lots of bottled water. Hydrate yourself!

Entrance fee in Wat Arun for tourist: 50 Thai Baht/person

(The reclining Buddha at Wat Pho)

Second temple… Wat Pho (Temple of the reclining Buddha)

From Sathorn Station (river boat taxi station) to Wat Arun, I paid only 15 Thai Baht. From Wat Arun, our next stop… Wat Pho (Temple of the Reclining Buddha). Still, in orange flag river boat taxi, paid for only 15 Thai Baht.

(Taking my moments to think about life and rest at Wat Pho)

This is probably my fourth or fifth time visit in Wat Pho since I started living here in the city of Angels, however, this temple always amazes me thus gives me so much excitement whenever I tour my family or friends. Every time I visit this place, it always remind me so much of good memories with my family and friends.

Entrance fee in Wat Pho for tourist: 100 Thai Baht/person

(Hand-crafted Khon masks for sale at Wat Pho)

After spending hours at the temples, we’ve decided to take a break for a bit at a nearby cafe to have iced cold drinks as the weather was really hot. And yes, I had to change shirt since I was sweating all over. It’s better to bring at least a shirt or you can buy at shops just outside the temples. For about an hour at the cafe chilling, we went to the third, and perhaps, the last temple visit then, Wat Saket (Golden Mount) by a tuk tuk since our feet, somehow, got tired.

Third temple… Wat Saket (Golden Mount)

(Hot afternoon on the way to the top of Golden Mount)

Although I’ve heard of this temple before, but this was my first time to visit in this temple. A new adventure, I’d say. Wat Saket is actually not far from Wat Pho by walk, however, during that time then, was the peak when the sun was really shining. So, we didn’t really bother much walking. Thus, tuk tuk ride to the rescue!

Entrance fee in Wat Saket: 20 Thai Baht

Also, the thing about tuk tuk ride, is that there is no specific price for every ride. So, all you gotta do is haggle. As I have always said in my previous blog post, the lower the price, the better. And of course, start from low-balls. The initial payment was supposedly 60 Thai Baht since it’s not really far from Wat Pho to Wat Saket. Perhaps, 20-30 minutes, including the traffic, but since the driver was really nice to us then, we gave him a hundred. Tuk tuk rides are normally 200 to 300 Thai Baht, depending on the distance of your trip, but since I was able to speak a little Thai language, I was able to haggle, but it also depends on how you deal with the driver. It all comes to wits, maybe?

(A bit blur, but still breathing, while on our way to the Golden Mount with my iced cold thai tea and best friend Jason)

I think, on a personal note, Wat Saket is still a hidden gem for temples at the heart of the city, although it’s touristy for locals, or perhaps, worshipers, but during the time that we went there, were mostly locals worshiping and praying. And so, I did my own personal prayers, too.

From Wat Saket, we tried the Khlong boat, another river boat taxi, but it’s more like going through on canals. Phan Fa Lilat station (this is the station in Wat Saket) to Pratunam (city center) station (Khlong boat stations) costs 11 Thai Baht. From Pratunam then, there are Sky Train station, you can go either in Siam Station or Chidlom Station, going back to the hotel.

(Khlong boat ride to Pratunam from Wat Saket)

For better understanding on the express boat route, you can visit the website: chaophrayaexpressboat.com

As for the fare rides on sky trains, it starts at 10 Thai Baht to 57 Thai Baht (0.3 USD - 1.7 USD) depending on each station. The further the more expensive, of course.

Overall expenses:

River boat taxis: 30 Thai Baht

Wat Arun: 50 Thai Baht

Wat Pho: 100 Thai Baht

Wat Saket: 20 Thai Baht

Khlong boat taxi: 11 Thai Baht

Tuk tuk ride: 100 Thai Baht

Sky Train: 25 Thai Baht

TOTAL: 361 Thai Baht/10.47 USD

To wrap up this blog post episode, I hope it will help you with your itinerary to your temple visits in Bangkok, the city of Angels. I think, on a personal note, it’s about a personal choice. Then again, if you want to be an extravagant tourist, go for it, as long as you are able and capable. However, if you want something for an adventure, exciting yet less expensive, still, it’s all up to you. Above all, the purpose of this traveling journey is not just about selfies, right? I believe, it’s all about learning about life itself.

(Tuk Tuk ride with my best friend all the way from the Philippines, Jason!)

Special mention to my best friend Jason for visiting me in Bangkok during my birthday. Thank you, bes! You can search him on instagram: ohhhohhhjason

8/28/2017

Have you ever experience being so broken that you unthinkably traveled two hours just to see your best friends and ask for help because you were so broken after a failed relationship, and then, your best friends, just conspired with you, then you drink too much, and you do something stupid (drunk texting the exes and danced the night away with a loud music while the neighbors are sleeping), and you just wanna curl up into a ball and die! No, wait. of course, not die! Definitely, not yet. Of course, we have our own time to die, not just this moment, just because we are heart broken. Hello?! Of course, there’s more to life, and more to enjoy about life.

(My kind of cake facing the Indian ocean at Uluwatu, Bali)

It was during that time then when I arrived from my best friend’s place, after reading the novel few days back, we watched the film, with the same title, Eat, Pray, Love. Although we already saw the film years ago, we’ve decided to just re-watch it over a fried chicken in KFC with soju and thai whisky, a typical sleep-over, perhaps.

While we were on our tipsy level, I’ve decided I wanted to go to Bali, Indonesia, for personal reason and of course, inspired while watching the film. And without any hesitation, I booked a flight, for somehow, in hope to find love (not in a romantic kind of perspective at that moment, of course!). Also, since Italy and India are a bit far from Bangkok. So, I’m skipping them. Thus, I was not in the mood to Eat and Pray then, I’ve decided, to go on the last stage of the novel... Love. Well, the character, unexpectedly and eventually, found her love in Bali. Fast forwarding the time, last April of this year. I went to Bali for a 10-day trip!

(Getting lost at paradise on my way to Padang-Padang beach)

In this travel blog episode, I will share my insights about my journey in solo traveling, learning to love again (in a way to find myself, again), and of course, the things that I did for love! After all, it’s all about love.

Special mention to the people involved in this journey: Sist Valerie, Sist Jennica, Sist Dodo, Mommy Brenda (My Thailand family), and Miss Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of Eat Pray Love, for the inspiration to make this journey happen. 

And of course, to my Indonesian friends... Willy, Reeree, Michael, and Nicolas who welcomed me wholeheartedly in the land of Gods... Bali, Indonesia. Also, Jessica and Ilaria, my Swiss girl friends that I met in Bali. You will always be in my heart!

Bali, Indonesia or the Island of the Gods, known for its beautiful and pristine beaches, marveling waterfalls, surfing jaunts, and of course, its traditional and unique Hindu-Balinese culture.

As for this personal journey, I’ve had few things that I did (for love, of course) in Bali!

REFLECT  

Big word as it seems, but one of the reasons why I went to Bali, aside from being inspired by the novel, and got really brokenhearted because of a certain love affair, was to reflect about my life. It was a time for me to just reflect and rekindle of what I had gained and lost along the way. As I look back from my old self, I asked about... “Is my life worth living for? Was I a good person? to myself? to others? Did I do something great for the benefit of others?, etc.” Some of the life questions among the many, I’ve decided to pause, in a way, of what I do in every day living, and just reflect. Reflect on things as to what am I capable of, what I can give and service to others, what I can offer and live my life on my own. Perhaps, on those times, I’ve realized how important it is to just pause for a moment, from this crazy world. In this way, the least, for some, perhaps, but at most, was one of the things that I did for love, not just for others, but for my self. I just gave in. I just didn’t think of anything about work life, love life, and just reflect on the breeze of my journey. Letting things flow.

Going back before this trip, it was supposedly a best friends trip, but it turns out plans have changed due to inevitable circumstances, which ended up a solo-traveling trip. Although, I wasn’t really and literally alone during the entirety of my trip, as I was able to meet friends along the way. Perhaps, an innate perks of being a teacher. After all, I was never alone.

(Reflecting my journey of life at Tirtha Empul Temple, Ubud)

RECOVER

(Lunch at a Warung place in Kuta before heading to Uluwatu)

On a personal perspective, I think, part of healing yourself, not just from the physical, mental, spiritual, but as well as, emotional pain, is to recover yourself. Thus, in recovering the self, what I did then was just to let things make the days worth the count. Every time I travel, I don’t really have an exact itinerary but of course when I visit to new or unfamiliar places, I always make it to a point, that I will have a day going to touristy places, at least. However, there will always be inevitable circumstance, just like the weather is not cooperating, or the tour is accidentally full, or for many unfathomable circumstances, I just make it to a point, that I will not stress over things that I cannot control.  After all, I’m a tourist, and I can do whatever I want to do. In most times, also, whenever I travel, if the plans that I want to do doesn’t go its way, I prefer to just going to chill places, like bars or cafes, or undiscovered places, but of course, with safety precautions. 

It’s August now, although the memories of last April this year is still vivid while I was in Bali. Perhaps, it was one of the magical journeys I had yet. Magical in a way that every single day in Bali, there’s always something new to discover, something that surprised me as I go through day to day. There was this day, while I was in Ubud, after my day tour, I went to a local market and just let myself get lost, went souvenir for shopping, but after a while, I’ve realized that my phone’s battery was about to drain, as I was planning to go home, the rain poured, but luckily, I found a cafe, and they just let me charge my phone. Waited for an hour for the rain to stop, and just took the time to listen to the rain. It was definitely my moment of Dolce Far Niente, my sweetness of doing nothing. It was a moment of just not thinking about the future, it’s like, come what may, as they say. Perhaps, the most magical I had yet. Perhaps, this is what Bali is all about for me, in one moment, I was at the beach, then to temples, then, to mountains, in the most unexpected moments.

True enough, time does help, in recovering from the pain. But of course, pain doesn’t just get away that fast. I needed the time for myself, to enjoy myself without expecting anything from anyone.

(Sending peace on a hot afternoon at Uluwatu Temple, Bali)

REWARD 

(A little love affair while in Bali, why not?! Cheers to Martinis night! As they say, last night were just rumours, and everything else was true. At Rumours! Bar, Kuta)

After working for two years now in the land of smiles, I’ve learned to reward myself with great food and drinks. To me, I think, part of doing things for love is to reward yourself with great food, regardless of the price. But, of course, I made sure that the food or drinks that I buy fits within my budget. If you want to be extravagant, that’s for you to decide. On a personal note, as long as it makes you happy, and you are contented with it, then go for it. Whatever it is, GO FOR WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!

As I have always shared in my previous blog posts, I reward my self with traveling, too. As it is my own outlet from this crazy world that we live. Traveling is my personal luxury. Although, it’s a privilege and of course, an opportunity, to learn and discover something new, but some privileges needs hard work, too. So, if you’re an aspiring traveler, with less cash, try to work hard. Save money! Unless of course, someone will give you a treasure, then you are a lucky person.

(Selfie at Tegalalang Rice Terraces, Ubud)

And for many reasons and questions that I have in mind when I was in deep pain, I just had to stop the moment, or perhaps, pause at that time, and just let things flow. And so I was, I rewarded my self with self discovery on my own. Traveled to new and unknown places by my self, and enjoy every single bit of moments. 

Everything is still a process, though, for some reason, I will meet new people and environment, and perhaps, will have my own highs and lows, but regardless of it, it’s a learning process. Thus, everyday is a lesson learn. 

(Selfie with my Indonesian friend Willy... my ultimate and best tour guide in my Bali journey)

3 BIG R words that taught me in Bali. Words that I will never ever forget and I will always treasure. Thus, these are the things that I did for love in Bali. And so, I’d like to end this blog episode, from the novel that inspired me to go to Bali, Eat Pray Love...

DEVO FARMI LE OSSA

“I need to make my bones.”

I will not harbor unhealthy thoughts anymore.

Burma, the old name of Myanmar is a country in South East Asia. It is known for its beautiful and enchanting pagodas, natural wonders, and of course, its rich and unique culture.

Last July of this year, I spent my long weekend in Burma for less than 300 US DOLLARS (approximately 10,000 Thai Baht/ 15,000 Philippines Peso). For a country that is not very familiar to everyone, or perhaps, still, an undiscovered touristy place, this is definitely a must place to visit.

(Flying with Myanmar Airways International featuring my first Burmese meal. Yay!)

In this blog, I will share my thoughts, insights, as to how, I spent my five day itinerary in Burma for less than 300 USD!

DAY 1 (Bangkok to Yangon)

It takes about an hour from Suvarnabhumi Airport (Bangkok) to Yangon International Airport. I arrived at Yangon (a city in Myanmar) at around 8PM, although it took me an hour to really got outside the airport. From the airport, it took about 20-30 minutes to the city center (although it depends on the traffic), lucky as I am, I have a best friend who happens to work in Yangon. Got a free taxi ride! Yay!

As for visa fees: As a Philippine Passport holder, I got a 14-day visa free since Philippines and Myanmar (Burma) are both members of ASEAN. So, when you arrive at the immigration, just show your passport, and of course, your boarding passes.

As for the taxi fares:

(City Center to the airport and vice versa fare: 5,000 - 10,000 kyats/ 100 Thai Baht - 250 Thai Baht/ 3 - 5 USD) However, it depends on how you haggle. The lower the price, the better! As for this trip, although I’ve only traveled in South East Asia so far, this is, perhaps, the cheapest taxi fares I’ve had.

Since it is a bit late then, although, I’ve had a hotel booked, I’ve decided to couch surf at my best friend’s place (Well, my best friend of course, offered to stay at his place for a night), because of course, it would be much better and lesser the expense.

As soon as we arrived at my friend’s place, changed clothes, and ready ourselves for late dinner and of course, in hope of finding a good bar, or club, to make the most of the night on my first day in Burma. Fast forward, we had our dinner and of course, party!

(First decent meal/dinner after an exhausting trip. You can get this at dinner meal for two approx 8,000 Kyats/200 Thai Baht/5 USD for two at 365 Cafe Yangon International Hotel)

Yes, for about 5 USD, you can get a huge burger meal at that price with a Mango smoothie (seasoned)!

(Cheers to the good life with a picturesque view of the Shwedagon Pagoda and a local Myanmar draft beer at a Sky Bar Yangon International Hotel) 

And of course, while the night is still young, although, it’s almost midnight, perhaps, time for Cinderella to go home, well, not for us. We went to a sky bar (free entrance) located near Yangon International Hotel. No need for taxi as you just have to walk. Beer costs: 2,000 Kyats/2 USD

Thus, ending the first day in Burma at the MUSE Club, still, near the Yangon International Hotel.

(Clubbing with my best friend, and of course, with the locals at MUSE CLUB)

MUSE CLUB Entrance Fee: 6,000 Kyats/150 Thai Baht/4 USD

TOTAL OF MY FIRST DAY TRIP: 11 USD

2nd day (FULL DAY TOUR TRIP IN YANGON)

From last night’s jaunts, we’ve started the day at around 10 in the morning, went to a really good brunch place in downtown Yangon and had our brunch.

(Yep, that’s full pack meal for the whole day Pagoda trip in Yangon)

(Cozy ambiance for brunch at the Brunch Society, downtown Yangon, nearby Sule Pagoda)

Brunch cost: 5,000 Kyats/4 USD each. Not bad for a full pack meal!

After our full-packed brunch, we went to our first stop: Sule Pagoda!

(Favorite view at the The Sule Pagoda over the foot bridge at Downtown Yangon)

Entrance Fee: FREE! 

Although it’s a really beautiful Pagoda, and it was my first sight-seeing of one of the beautiful Pagodas in Burma, we didn’t enter, as there was of some sort of a Buddhist ceremony. Also, during that time, it was a Buddhist holiday in Myanmar.

As we continue our walk around Sule Pagoda, we came across at some local markets along the way.

(Colorful sights at a local market in downtown Yangon)

This local market is actually located near Maha Bandula Park in downtown Yangon.

(Selfies shouldn’t be missed, of course!)

Entrance Fee: FREE!

After spending some time around Maha Bandula Park and Sule Pagoda, we went to one of the most visited Pagoda, the Shwedagon Pagoda.

Going to Shwedagon Pagoda wasn’t really that far from Sule Pagoda, however, due to the weather, as it was really hot then, we had to take a taxi.

TAXIS AROUND DOWNTOWN YANGON: 2,000 Kyats - 5,000 Kyats/1USD - 3 USD (Note: And again, since, the taxis in Yangon doesn’t have a meter, so, all you gotta do, is to haggle. Make use of that haggling skills!) I got mine for FREE since my best friend paid the taxi. THANK YOU, BEST FRIEND!

ENTRANCE FREE: 8,000 Kyats/4 USD

Of course, perhaps, just like everyone else in this world, when entering a religious or a holy place, there should be a dress code for everyone. So, no shorts or slippers or shoes when entering the Pagoda.

I bought myself a longyi (this is a local sheet of cloth widely worn in Burma), in entering the Pagoda. Although you can rent a longyi for 3,000 Kyats at the entrance of the Pagoda, however, I bought mine, for souvenir. :)

Longyi: 5,000 Kyats/3 USD 

It was my first time then, to see a crowd, it’s like a concert or convention, or more like a pilgrimage, as it was more like a feeling of the whole Burma is at the Shwedagon Pagoda, then I was reminded that, it was a Buddhist holiday. 

After a few walks around the Pagoda. Yes, it’s huge! We went to another local tourist spot, the Kandawgyi Lake. Just a few minutes walk from Shwedagon Pagoda.

After visiting the Pagodas, bucket list checked! We had our time to chill at the moment in the lake. It was a bit exhausting as the weather was really hot then, so don’t forget to bring bottled water while on a day trip.

Kandawgyi Lake Fee: FREE!

After we had our moments at the lake to chill, we went back to my best friend’s place as I had to prepare for a night bus trip to Mandalay and Bagan. It’s another cities in Burma known for its ancient and historical Pagodas.

Around 7 in the evening, I arrive at the bus terminal. I booked my overnight bus trip online at JJ EXPRESS, you can look for them in their facebook page. All you gotta do is just private message them.

Taxi ride from my friend’s place to the bus terminal: 10,000 kyats/245 Thai Baht/7 USD

If you’re wondering that, if it’s a little bit pricey, because, downtown Yangon to the Bus Terminal takes around an hour or two drive, depending on the traffic. Thus, it was typically the price going to the terminal. Also, I got myself an air conditioned taxi. And by the way, normally, the taxis in Yangon doesn’t always have an AC, so might as well, bring a fan, and of course, water!

As for the bus trip, I got free food and drinks. Well, it’s more just like riding in an airplane. Plus, a comforter!

Overnight sleeper bus trip fee: 19 USD

TOTAL OF DAY 2: 36 USD

DAY 3 (Bagan)

At around 5 in the morning, I arrived from Yangon to Bagan. So, there’s new and old Bagan. I stayed in new Bagan, where the chill and perhaps, hippie, as they say, areas in Bagan.

As soon as I arrive in Bagan, all foreigners should pay for the national park fee. Then, you get the rest of the Pagodas/Stupas for free (Although, not exactly since I paid 20 USD, lol!). So, always keep your national  park ticket when entering Pagodas/Stupas in Bagan, as they sometimes, ask you for it. Or, you might pay another 20 USD for it.

Bagan National Park Fee: 25,000 Kyats/20 USD

I paid in Kyats (Burma currency) since, the conversion then, was like, 25,000 Kyats = 18 USD. Saved 2 USD. Yay!

Haggling skills doesn’t always work when there’s a fixed price, though. As for the taxi from the Bagan bus terminal to my hotel costs 15,000 kyats. Expect that this is the normal price. Bus terminal to the hotels normally around 20-30minutes ride. Taxi fare: 10 USD

When I arrived at my hotel, it was almost 5:30 then, and I had to hurry as I need to catch up the sunrise in the Bagan temples. I rented an e-bike for 8,000 Kyats. Lucky me, as my best friend told me that renting e-bikes normally costs 10k - 11k kyats. Well, another perks, perhaps, since it’s a hotel e-bike.

It was also a moment of rush, as I myself, still in sleepy mode, asked the receptionist for the maps about the best spots of pagodas to catch sunrise, although, I have no idea at the moment since it was my first time in Bagan, dared to drive the e-bike with using only the map. And finally, found a good spot, for myself, to watch the sunrise in Bagan.

(Breathtaking moment while watching the sunrise in Bagan)

I know, this photo doesn’t give justice as to what my eyes saw at that very moment. Bagan is really beautiful as it is. As I barely remembered, it was only in my dreams to visit this country, and specifically, this place. Well, as they say, if you want to make your dreams come through, you have to work hard for it. Make it to a point that you do it. Privilege as it seems, but this travel session, took me months to save and make the most of this trip. At those moments, too, was, while watching the sunrise at the pagoda, perhaps, one of the best highlights of my 2017. 

(Of course, selfie, in my most, unusual and sleepless self. I had to wear my long sleeve then, since I forgot to bring a coat during this trip. Well, after all, smile!)

After sunrise watching, at around 7, I had to go back to the hotel and check-in. Thus, I had to get more sleep, since I didn’t really sleep well while at the bus, perhaps because of excitement of the wonders of the unknown. Hours later, around 10, I had my time for breakfast and took a dip in the hotel pool.

Supposedly, check-ins are usually at 2PM, however, I called the hotel the night before I arrive for an early check-in at around 5AM since I will be arriving very early. Due to circumstances, they are fully booked. But as soon as I arrived there, they got me checked in at 7AM. Lucky me, again! 

Buffet breakfast for 5,000 Kyats/3 USD. Yep, that’s eat-all-you can! Since arriving earlier, I will have my free breakfast the day after my check-in. Still, for only 3 USD, why not!

By the way, as for my hotel, I booked at booking.com and  checked in at the Floral Breeze Hotel, New Bagan. from 79 USD to 29 USD/Per night (Since it was low-season, as they say). Fast and easy transaction! Plus, very welcoming receptionist! They will help you with your itinerary trip while in Bagan.

(Morning dip at the pool after a heavy breakfast)

After some swimming time, I prepared myself for a whole day trip in the Old Bagan, Mandalay. With only maps and google maps with me, I traveled for about 20 - 30 minutes to get there. Visited the Stupas and some Pagodas. I didn’t really have an exact itinerary for the day because all I ever want was just to let things flow and make the moments do its worth.

Stupas and Pagodas fee: FREE! (Well, since I already paid when entering the national park)

(Afternoon journey to Old Bagan, Mandalay with my e-bike, locals, and my shadow)

(Shwezigon Pagoda at Old Bagan, Mandalay under the heat of the sun… Just imagine how hot it is while walking bare foot)

(Don’t mind my sweaty face while at the market as it was really and literally hot then)

After some time at the Pagodas, outside of it, was a local market, bought something for souvenirs and more longyis!

Souvenir shopping cost: 30K kyats/22 USD

(Stop-over for lite brunch at Sharky’s in Old Bagan, although it looks lite, but the chicken sandwich was huge!)

Lunch: 7,000 kyats/5 USD

After lunch, pagoda visits, and souvenir shopping, I went back to the hotel to take a rest, refresh myself and wait for the sunset. At around 5pm, I went back again outside, in hope of sunset viewing and of course, taking a photo of it. However, the sun got shy. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to take pictures of it. Well, regardless of it, I got myself my own Pagoda to watch the views for myself.

(It’s just me, the pagoda, my backpack, and of course, my longyi)

(Afternoon solitude moment in Bagan, Burma)

Traveling alone can sometimes be lonely, or, perhaps, most of the time, but I think, it’s all about in the state of mind. On a personal perspective, I think, traveling alone can be fun, too, of course, because you get to discover your inner potentials especially in being responsible, vigilant, and most importantly, you discover more of yourself that you thought you couldn’t do it.

As twilight came, I went out to a local restaurant for dinner. After dinner, went back to the hotel and sleep.

Dinner cost: 5,000 Kyats/3 USD

DAY 3 TOTAL COST: 94 USD

DAY 4 (BAGAN to YANGON)

My fourth day in Burma was perhaps a bittersweet moment, as I have don’t want to leave yet, but reality hits, as I have to go back to Yangon the day before my flight.

(Morning dip before hitting reality)

I spent my morning just dipping at the pool and a full-pack breakfast in preparation for a 9-hour trip from Bagan to Yangon. It was drizzling and raining on midday til afternoon then. So, most of the time, I just spent my whole day sleeping at the bus and a bit feeling sick, because perhaps, I didn’t get to have lunch and just sleep the whole day. From 9 hour trip turns to 12 hour trip due to rain and traffic.

(”Are we there yet?” feeling… Nope, just traffic)

As soon as I arrive at downtown Yangon, I met up with my best friend again for dinner and some late shopping at junction city mall. Living in Thailand for a quite some time, there was no sign of any Philippine brand, as expected, of course. And of all places,  I couldn’t believe that, I could find a Philippine brand shops in Yangon (Bench and Penshoppe), and without further notice, I bought stuff for my self. Perhaps, a proud moment, and of course, exciting moment for me. After all, we’ll never know what’s in store in the future.

(Wandering dolls for sale in Bagan)

Bus trip from Bagan to Yangon cost: 13,000 Kyats/9 USD

(It’s a bit cheaper since it’s not a VIP Sleeper Bus, thus VIP BUS travels only on a night trip)

Yangon bus terminal to downtown Yangon taxi cost: 10,000 kyats/7 USD

Dinner at Junction City: 5,000 Kyats/3 USD

Shopping: 10,000 Kyats/7 USD

(Not in my best smile at the time, I wonder, too. But my best friend is happy to shop with Bench at Junction City, Yangon)

DAY 4 TOTAL COST: 26 USD

DAY 5 (Flying back from Yangon to Bangkok)

Not as exciting as it seems, as the morning started with a drizzle and turned to heavy rain, I didn’t explore much of the city, but instead, I went for a local cafe hopping (the usual, every time I visit a place).

(Drizzling Yangon on my last day at Burma)

(Rewarding myself with local Burmese-style fried rice for breakfast… it may look the same as any other fried rice meal, but the taste really makes it unique and worth the penny)

I had my breakfast at a fancy local restaurant/cafe (Cafe 26) which somehow a bit pricey, although still, affordable. But the ambiance and the food was really delicious! At lunch time, my best friend, toured me to a local cafeteria, where they serve the one of the best Shan noodles (popular local dish in Burma).

(Shan Noodles with Fried Tofu)

Ultimately, as they say, never leave a place without trying their popular local dish. And so, before I leave this beautiful country, I got what I deserve! SHAN NOODLES for lunch. Yay! After lunch, I went to my to Yangon Airport and go back to reality.

Breakfast: 8,000 Kyats/6 USD 

Lunch: 4,000 Kyats/3 USD (However, I got it for free since my best friend treat me)

Taxi from downtown Yangon to Yangon International Airport: 8,000 Kyats/6 USD

DAY 5 TOTAL COST: 12 USD

Airfare cost (Bangkok to Yangon) back and forth: 100 USD (Got it on sale with Myanmar Airways International)

OVERALL TOTAL COST: 279 USD.

(Waiting for my flight with my backpack, passport, and of course, my self at Yangon International Airport)

To wrap up everything about this journey, things change, plans change, people change, as it is inevitable, but one thing is for sure, if you want something to happen, it may be your dream, or your goals in life, work for it. Do it! Break barriers and of course, always be vigilant. But above all, love yourself first. Because, with loving yourself, you will understand your own worth, and what you are capable of.

Special mention to my best friend Max for taking care of me when I was in Yangon. Thank you very much!

8/22/2017

Three Things I have learned from EAT, PRAY, LOVE. Everyone has their own backstories, shortcomings, feeling lost, or whatever circumstances that comes along the way, as I am. After a month and half, I have officially and finally finished reading the whole memoir. Yes, I know it has been long overdue because of personal circumstances. Nope, I’m not regretting, as I have realized that you don’t really need to hurry things, and you just have to take things slow, and keeping it low-key, because why not? It’s all about choices, right? And I know I have all the time in the world, but it’s also different when you also have priorities and needs of meeting deadlines. However, still, I made it through. And yes, I am still dumbfounded, speechless, and I am so full of thoughts at the back of my mind that I really wanted to share not just for personal journey but as well as for everyone who can relate. At first glance, I don’t really have much interest reading the memoir, as I thought, it will just be as typical as any other stories of a woman or man or whoever the character is, finding his or her own prince charming or princess at the end of the day, although, it somehow happened to the memoir. Then, I’ve decided to just give it a try, to watch the film, few years ago, although I forgot which year it was, eventually proceeded to reading the memoir, but due to personal circumstances, I wasn’t able to pursue and continue my readings. At the least, I was able to watch the film. Fast forward the time, the present, right now, December 19, 2016, at exactly 7:53PM, Bangkok time, here I am, writing my own thoughts about EAT PRAY LOVE. But before I continue my real thoughts (so much with thoughts) and lesson learned from the memoir itself, the real and sort of cliché reason (or backstory behind) why I had the need to read this memoir, was that, I was very, well, still am, brokenhearted (from a call-off, to an almost break up turned to officially broken up, you know what I mean), although recovering, well, almost. I don’t know exactly, but somehow. As I scan through my newsfeed in facebook (November this year), I came across to this blog about Bali, and all its wonders. Even though I’ve heard so much about the famous island, one thing it made me interested was that, the blog mentioned the memoir about Eat Pray Love. Yes, the blog that I was reading wasn’t really more about the memoir, but the wonders of the island itself, but my mind shifted to the memoir, so, I gave it a shot… To watch the film again, and read the memoir, once more. And yes, it took me, somehow almost two months to read, but no regrets at all. My apologies for the introductory speech. So, here are the things that I have learned from the memoir… 1. Treat yourself. Yes, it was mentioned in the memoir about treating yourself, especially with food and or whatever whatnots as long as it makes you fulfilled, contented, above all, happy. I remember Liz, the author, who mentioned about pasta, pizza, and gelato when she was at Italy, just eating, and making the most of her time, experiencing pleasure in eating.

I believe, every one of us, deserve to treat our own self, after the hard days, the sad days, or just the ordinary days. Sometimes, it’s either be after word, after studying, or whatever we are doing, we need to find time to treat ourselves even on simple things. As I quote from the memoir, “Dolce Far Niente”, or the sweetness of doing nothing. It struck me so much, as I’m not really sure how it is done, or what are its effects to our personal lives, then, I’ve realized that, we can do it, even just by reading a book, cooking something, sketching, window shopping, or things that we may somehow doesn’t regard it as something special, but it gave us an impact, that this is something special, out of an ordinary action or activity. I believe, for some reason, everything comes in the state of mind, and even if it’s just an ordinary situation, or a moment, as long as you make it sweet and special, it is something that you can treat yourself. The sweetness of doing nothing, isn’t literally just about the things of doing nothing, but it’s more on making the ordinary to special. I believe, that even in the slightest of things, we should always remind ourselves, to treat ourselves. Of course, in manner that doesn’t destroy or hurt other people.

2. Forgive yourself. This is probably the hardest, or difficult, that I have learned after reading the memoir. Until now, I don’t know where to begin these thoughts as this is truly not an easy task especially when you are battling yourself. As for the memoir, the author itself has to go through different places in search of personal meanings. Thus, on a personal note, for almost two years living away from home, it’s really not easy to find someone who you can talk to, or you can ask for advices personally, although there is technology, but the personal relationship especially with your family and your friends, isn’t the same. Hence, living away from home is truly bittersweet, as you have the liberty that you want and at the same time you’re somehow in a state of struggle because it’s not your comfort zone. There is so much adjustment, so much overthinking, and here you are, left alone, in your room, in solitude, or in pain. Then again, it’s all about perspective and state of mind, if you think of negative thoughts, it will definitely eat you, thus, just like the other way around. So, always think in positive thoughts to brighten up your day, although some things are just inevitable. Going back from the realizations, forgiving yourself is something to let go of what is unnecessary. Something to get over of what makes you sad, or worries, and accept the realities of life; accept the inevitable circumstances. And Yes, I am still learning from these realizations. As I will be sad one day, and be happy again the next day. As for the daily mantra I have learned from the memoir, “Devo Farmi Le Ossa”, “I need to make my bones.”, I will not harbor unhealthy thoughts anymore. It’s not easy. But somehow, the thought itself is really enlightening and empowering. And I am just grateful right now, especially to Eat Pray Love, for showing me again, the beauty of life, and for letting me seek God again.

3. Thank yourself. The last (somehow), but definitely not the least lesson learned and realizations… is to thank yourself. We may not often, or barely do it, thus it’s not something that we may always do. But, it should also be a reminder to thank ourselves in manner by not just appreciating ourselves, rewarding ourselves, but as well as for overcoming whatever obstacles we had make it through, and came through. The thought itself may somehow not really necessary, but one thing or another, it helps you; it uplifts you for some unfathomable reason. Thus, it is true, to quote the memoir, “In the end, maybe it’s wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and just keep saying thank you, forever and sincerely, for as long as we have voice.”

Oftentimes, we tend to forget ourselves, as we are too busy with running errands, work, or school, or hanging out with friends, that we almost forgot our own self, our own solitude. However, it still solely depends on how we handle ourselves, how we make through with life, and just make the most of the moments. There are so many thoughts that I wanted to put into words, although, words will never be enough, of how thankful and grateful I am, especially to Miss Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of the memoir, for the inspiration to write again, to be thankful and grateful of so many possibilities of life, and making the most of it, but above all, I thank Eat, Pray, Love for opening my eyes, my heart, and my mind, and just be grateful about it. After writing these realization, somehow, I am relieved from the heartache, from the pain the I felt, and for some unfathomable reason, Bali, I am coming! Thank you, again, Eat, Pray, Love.

It was just like yesterday since New Year, as I could still remember the moments we had shared with my colleagues since college years turned family watching the fireworks near the Temple of Dawn or Wat Arun at Bangkok. It was a definitely a new year for me as it was my first time to experience new year away from home. It was also the first time celebrating Christmas away from my family. But probably or sooner, I’ll get used to this kind of feeling. It was something new, because I was away from them and I really don’t know what I should do prior to those dates. But then, invites came and so I joined them (colleagues).

(New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Celebration with my Khun Philippine Family, January 1, 2016 at Chao Phraya River)

I have realized that, although Christmas and New Years are something special to me, because that is the only time, that I get to see my family and relatives, they're just days that will also passed by to make you experience something special or ordinary. Aside from it, I got excited of the gifts and all the good things happening. Fast forward the moments, here I am, trying to experience the so called ‘adulthood life/adulting' or trying to be an adult. It ain’t easy though, because you have to adjust a lot of things, especially when it comes to money. When I was home, although I had experience working (teaching in my home country) for about a school year, I still gave all, well mostly all of my salary to my mom, and ask for allowance the following days. And now, here I am, alone in the darkness… No! this is not Les Mesirables, kidding aside.

Well, here I am, trying to figure out life. But seriously though, when you start to live independently, you have to make it to the point that you can make it through, well of course, you can! Just like everyone else. Time is just so fast here, and it’s already the third week of May and next week will be June, which happens to be half of the year. There’s nothing much happened in my February and March, except when my Chinese friends went home to their country last week of February. Although we’ve been working together for just like a couple of months, but it seems that I’ve known them forever. And I never thought to myself that I would meet such awesome and lovely people. Thus, separation anxiety is real and you will definitely miss people or the moments you’ve once shared to them.

As for March, well, my M3 students (or Junior High School students) graduated, it was a bittersweet moment. I was sad because I will definitely miss them, but at the same time happy, because I know they’re on their way to reach for their hopes and dreams in life. The rest of the days just as typical as any other days. It wasn’t boring but just an ordinary day.

(Graduation Souvenirs at my former school, Nachaluai, Ubon Ratchathani)

Then April came, omg! This year’s April was probably the best if not, I don’t know what’s the adjective of more than the best. Aside from April fools day, it’s also Songkran festival, a Buddhist New Year. And Thailand is one of the Buddhist countries around the world. So yeah, it’s a month full of holidaze! The first week and second week of April was the best yet! As for the first week of april, I got the chance to meet again with my colleagues and met new friends.

We stayed in one of my friend’s place for like two weeks and just make the most of life. I cannot summarized everything but everything was full of fun! And yes, when it comes to fun, you know what I mean.

(Self portrait, lock and loaded with water gun for the Songkran Festival at Khaosan Road, Bangkok)

Then, second week of April came, and it’s Songkran!!! After all these years, finally, I have experience what it’s like.

Everything was amazing about songkran, and I’ve met a lot of people from different cultures, religious beliefs and attitudes towards life, it was definitely a moment of melting pot of culture. It was also the glory days where I could share my country, culture and my beliefs in life. Aside from it, I’ve met someone special. Although, I don’t know yet the real score between the two of us, but I’m happy although I feel pain and sad, sometimes. Hello?! It’s part of life! To wrap things up about Songkran festival, it was both  a shining moment and at the same time, a sense of shortcomings, well, of course it’s part of the ingredients of life. It’s not always sweet, sometimes bitter, soury, or a bit spicy. But the soul searching continues. Third week of April came, it was the time of separation anxiety, again! Because, we’re only human, and we have to survive life. We went to our separate ways although, we still communicate with my colleagues, and made a codename/family name. Third week of April was also the time that I have finally decided to quit my job, for some unfathomable reason. It was painful and heartbreaking, but you just have to move on with life.

As for the last week of April, my family came to visit me. After almost a year of not seeing them, literally. Although we communicate through facetime or facebook, it was the moment of feeling like home, again. My tears almost fell when I saw my mom. It was a defining moment when words are not enough to describe how you felt at that time.

(Wandering at Noong Nuch Garden at Pattaya with my family)

Then I became a short-time/part-time tour guide to them. It was exciting, fun, but it was also tiring because you have to take care of everyone. I enjoyed the company seeing them and it was in those moments too, that I feel like an adult and independent, even if I still feel like their youngest baby. I miss my family. Well, I guess, just like everyone else who happens to live far from their families too. But I made this choice, and there’s always a purpose why I am here.

As for the month of May, well, it’s an exciting month too… but my creative juices are not working now. I’ll update as soon as possible.

xo, Alex.

Tonight’s dinner were sumptuous and amazing, as I got the chance to experience first hand, in tasting an authentic Chinese cuisine, cooked by my Chinese friends, which I sort of long for too, since most of the Chinese food back in my country were too commercialized, well, maybe, some or not. And yes, there will always be that pinch of comfort in the world or culture of Asians, as it boils down to spiciness of food, and of course, rice. Perhaps, it’s the bottomline in every parts of Asia.

On the other side of the context, upon munching the delicious Chinese food, an exchange of culture, traditions and beliefs were on the hot seat during the course of the meal. It was an avenue of learning the ways of life and beyond it. And until, we came up to the topic about religion. As for my part, I shared some glimmers of my religion. Well, we all know, mostly everyone, I think, that Philippines is the only country in Asia, is dominated by Christians and the rest are the other denominations of other religion. At the course of the chat, some of my foreign friends were actually atheist or perhaps an agnostic person (it’s hard to identify whether they know about God yet they don’t believe in it, regardless of it, it’s what it is.), a few questions were thrown and some of it were perhaps the common thing. To cut the long story, we focus more on the context about the restrictions (from divorce, premarital sex, eating and drinking unclean whatnots, and laws), and from what I have learned, indeed, there are many restrictions when it comes to religion. I, as a Christian believer have thought to myself that, in religion, it is truly truly difficult to live and follow of what has been written. I myself, have committed errors, shortcomings, well, ‘sins’, to be exact, and regardless of it, I keep on doing it even if I already know the consequences. Weird as it may seem, but it’s the truth, just like everyone else in the world.

As the course goes on, I ask my friends about why they don’t have any religion yet they know and believe the existence of God. An answer stroked me, 'you may have a religion, but you don’t have the heart to believe’. True, it makes sense, you may have it, but you don't have the heart in it. So, what's the point in believing when you don't have the heart, right? some say, as 'religion can never save you of whatever obstacles that you will encounter, it’s the faith’. Well, yes, and perhaps, maybe or no.