My name is Jose and I just want to chill

“stop traumadumping to your friends tell this to your therapist” my god they paywalled human connection

why are you even having children when all you want to do is get rid of them legally when they hit 18

i don't think you can separate this white north american attitude from the idea of ownership and property that's built into capitalism. seeing your kids as little moochers that you own. thinking that your kids are "taking advantage" of you or pulling one over on you by "slacking off" is just an extension of the notion that work = morality. so "teaching" your kid that "life is unfair" and "you have to work or you'll have nothing at all" is the right thing to do. yeah life is unfair, do you have to be too? did your kid ask to be born? did your kid sign a contract with you? its so twisted

the funny thing is that from what i've seen the more you treat kids this way the more they will treat YOU this way, so if you make everything in the family transactional they will start to approach your relationship transactionally. then these parents will turn around and whine about how their kids just try to hit them up for money and nothing else, no love no care, sorry who raised them to value money above all else? wasn't me

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