Kingofdumbassery

And here’s why.

Cause we’re humans. We’re designed for relationships. We’re designed for contact, for love, for connecting with other people. Whether you believe in God or Nature or freaking Elon Musk, you can’t deny that.

But we’re also designed to protect ourselves. That’s human nature as well. When you get hurt, your brain says “ok shield that part, don’t let anyone else near it”. When your growing up, your getting hurt. No matter who you are, whether you come from a rich family or poor family, have no family or a huge family, have no friends or lots of friends. Someone at some time is going to hurt you. Some people get hurt worse than others, sometimes it’s physical, sometimes mental.

So opening up to someone after being hurt is like letting down your shield while in the middle of a fight, to see if your opponent will stab you. It goes both with and against our nature.

And, it’s a risk we all have to take. You can’t grow closer, you can’t have a relationship with anyone if you won’t open up. That doesn’t mean you have to tell them your deepest secret right away, but build trust.

When, if, they leave, they aren’t taking a part of you with them. If they hurt you, and they’re walking away, you need to let them walk away with whatever it was that hurt you. Because it’s not your fault. It’s not your mistake that hurt you. It’s theirs. The only thing that you should take away is the good memories, and a lesson. The memories of the things that you enjoyed, and a positive lesson. Not a “oh I told them this and they hurt me so that’s going in a safe and I’m throwing away the key now” kind of lesson, but a “ok, I told them this and they used it. That means that this kind of person is not right for me. And I have purpose in life and their purpose was to teach me this”.

It’s no ones “right” to understand you. But if they want to, if they’re trying, sometimes it’s good to open up. People hurt you and they always will, you can’t escape that fact, but the question is whether they were trying to or not. I’m sure I’ve hurt people in my life, I know I’ve been hurt before myself. And I don’t hold it against anyone else for hurting me, and I don’t hold it against myself for hurting them. I’m human and I make mistakes. And if I know I hurt you, I’ll be the first to apologize. And if I don’t know, tell me and I’ll gladly apologize. If someone isn’t willing to do that, they’re not the right person to open up to. If they are willing to do that though…it can be worth it to give them a chances

Whether I know you or not - to anyone reading this - I accept you. Every part of you. The good, the bad, all of it.