The Fine Print

Hello loves!!! I've missed you all, and thanks to all those who read The Art of Rough Sex and gave me such good feedback. I appreciate all of my readers! These past few weeks have been all over the place for me: Hurricane Sandy, losing power in my house for almost 2 weeks straight, laptop possibly destroyed, and so much more. I can honestly say that one person kept me sane through all of that and I love him for that. But enough about my personal life, lets get to the topic for The Real Deal today! I will be looking into 8 Male Pleasure spots that you may or may not know about. I will be talking to the guys today but ladies you should still pay attention though!

I know you don't want to know where other guys want to be touched, but the thing is, do you even know where you want to be touched? Most guys have only two places they usually think about being touched: their penises and their balls. I mean, come on. Women are always complaining that guys head straight to their vaginas and breasts the second the clothes come off, and they want something more. Are you sure that you don't? Of course you do, and so here I am to help you figure out where you want your girl to touch you before she heads to the parts that'll result in an eruption. So, without further ado, here are 8 Male Pleasure Spots, in no particular order:

1- Neck

If you don't know it yet, women love being touched, kissed and licked in this area, so chances are you'll enjoy it just as much as they do. The next time your woman is on top in the bedroom and comes close to your face, elongate your neck and let her do her thing.

2- Hair & head

No, I'm not suggesting that she lick your hair, but having a woman run her hands through your hair or squeeze her fingertips all along your scalp will help you relax and prepare for whatever else she wants to do to you.

3- Ears

Given that they're clean, having a woman lick and nibble on your earlobes, or even doing something as simple as telling you some nasty things she wants to do to you, can have a lasting effect on your erection. On to other areas that women would love to explore...

4- Perineum

Located between your scrotum and your anus, this area can provide plenty of fantastic sensations for you. The next time she's greeting your penis with her mouth and hands, encourage her to apply some pressure with her fingers and/or her tongue. You'll be surprised at how much you'll like it.

5- Nipples

Now, this is not for every guy. Some guys love to have their nipples manipulated; others can't stand it. The only way to find out is by letting a woman try it. Let her lick and perhaps suck them. Who knows, if she enjoys doing it to you that much, this might be your "in" to getting her to try it on another woman next.

6- Fingers

If a woman has ever sucked your fingers, you know that it almost feels like she's sucking your penis. The next time you're engaging in foreplay, stick your middle finger in her mouth and let her suck on it, and see what comes up.

7- Anus

Some guys get freaked out about their backsides, but if you just open your mind, you'll discover that that’s where your G-spot is. Whether you let her lick the rim of your anus or place a finger inside and make a "come hither" motion, you'll discover that letting a woman have her way in that area will make your sexual experiences that much better.

8- Back & coccyx

Sometimes lying on your stomach and letting your girl run her hands and tongue up and down your back is the best feeling in the world. From massaging you, to giving you the chills by lightly running her tongue down the baby hairs on your back, submit to your girl and let her enjoy rubbing your back and your tailbone.

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Hello loves!!! I’ve missed you as much as you miss me. I promise I will be blogging weekly again, unless I really can’t get to a computer one day. I’ve had things going on in just about every aspect of my life, but things are starting to turn around. So anyways, today on The Real Deal my topic is The Art of Rough Sex. I will be speaking as if to straight men, but this goes for anyone who wants to engage in this kind of sexual encounter. Some people shy away from it because of what they think it entails. However, rough sex need not involve violence (unless you both are into that sort of thing), it can be, however, whatever you want it to be and you can take it as far as you and your partner are willing to go.

Making love is an integral part of most couple's lives and while some couples stick to the basic peaches and cream variety of sex, others opt to venture into more dangerous territory, hence rough sex. Mildly sadistic behavior has become a widespread phenomenon in the bedroom and today's sex tip is all about showing your woman who the boss of the bedroom is. Uh, that would be you, buddy.

She Moaned Yes!

Now before you delve into all the sexual and potentially torturous fun that you're all giddy about, keep in mind that this kind of sex must be consented to beforehand. Whether it's your long-time girlfriend, wife or a one-night stand, you have to ensure that she's into the mildly painful event that may come up in the immediate future. And if it's a first for both of you, establish a safeword that either of you can use if you feel that things are going too far. Believe it or not, there may be things that you're uncomfortable doing to her. The safeword must be a word that you would never use during lovemaking, something like "pineapples” or “truck driver”.

You can either approach the topic during talkative and mild foreplay or you can talk about it when there's no sexual escapade occurring. When you're kissing her, you can start out by holding her hair tightly by the back roots and ask if she enjoys the feeling of it whilst kissing her mouth. If she moans, then you can talk a little more about the adventurous things you'd like to do with her. The point is to make sure that she's up for it, otherwise, you might just end up on the receiving end of a bad reaction.

Roughin’ It Up

Pain and pleasure are not that different in that they both release endorphins (neurotransmitters -- the body's natural painkillers). Experiencing sexual pleasure releases endorphins and so does a spanking. Endorphins are likely released amid experiencing pain in order to soothe the mind. But then again, the pain I'm referring to doesn’t have to be intense. It all depends on what the two of you are up for.

For the tame

Light spanking: If she hasn't yet experienced the ultimate sensation of spanking, approach the act in a gentle manner. Start out by petting and rubbing her butt in a playful manner and lightly slap her butt, immediately returning to petting it. Gradually slap her butt more often and with more intensity. Keep the constant blows to her buttocks at a rhythmic pace -- this will have a potentially transcendental effect.

Biting: If done right, biting can provide for some incredibly erotic pleasure. Slowly kiss and eventually start nibbling on different parts of the body including (but not limited to) her neck, shoulders, hips, outer thighs, and buttocks. Depending on her reaction, begin biting with more intensity, but don't break the skin -- that's not your intention.

Hair pulling: At times, my girlfriend purposely puts her hair in a ponytail or pigtails during foreplay so that I could pull on it while I'm making love to her in the doggy position. Then again, there are those times when she leaves it down and I place my hands at the back of her head, pull her head back by the roots of her hair so that she's forced to lean back while she's on top and I get to penetrate her to the fullest extent. Try it.

Hold her down by wrists: There are times when she wants to move her hands all over your body, but don't let her. Pin her arms down by the wrists and don't allow her to move them at all. The best place to do this is up against a wall. The next time she enters your lair, hold her wrists above her head with one arm and use the other to place your fingers inside of her while you kiss her intensely. 

For the wild

Handcuffs: It's one thing to pin her hands down, it's a whole other ballgame when you handcuff her to an inanimate object like the bedpost. What's even better than handcuffs is cloth ties. Tie down her arms and legs and have your way with her. You can spank, tease, or even torture her by massaging her entire body with a vibrator. Point is that she's completely submissive to your whim.

Whipping: Obedience at its finest calls for a little bit of discipline. Instead of simply putting her over your knee and spanking her, why not show her that she's been misbehaving by giving her a little whipping? If you do it just right, she'll be throbbing and begging you to take her.

Choking: Because choking reduces the flow of oxygen to the brain, and results in somewhat of a hallucinogenic state, it has developed into a fetish for many people. Although it could be dangerous, if you simply hold her neck rather than actually choke her, it could provide that sensation of submission and control. Please be very careful and proceed with caution when it comes to asphyxiation.

Hard to get: This is most women’s number one fantasy. She acts like she doesn't want to make love and you force yourself on her. Again, I have to emphasize that this is acting and she has already consented to this act beforehand. She tries her damnedest to push you off of her and keep you from penetrating her and you try your hardest to get inside. After removing her clothes (some women enjoy dressing up in tattered clothing so that their men can rip it off) and finally getting inside while she's whispering and moaning "no," make your way to her ear and whisper, "yes..."

Of course, there are more ways to get rough with your significant other, but these suggestions will definitely open up a venue to a host of other ways to enjoy a little rough sexual behavior.

Hello loves!!! Sorry that I'm a day late, this week has been kinda up and down, then side to side for me lol. To anyone reading this, if you don't already do so, please tune in to my radio show The Love Hour at wrnu.info Tuesdays from 6-8pm! Without further ado, welcome to The Real Deal with yours truly, Lady Love. Today my topic is about how to keep a relationship afloat and on course. Many people think that finding someone compatible to get into a relationship with is the hard part of falling in love, but what they don’t realize is that it takes a different sort of effort to stay in love. There are plenty of barriers that make it challenging to maintain a healthy and happy relationship; stress, communication problems, and jealousy are only just a few. Here are four ways to get ahead of the barriers before they make your relationship drift too far to bring it back.

1. Plan quality time

The thought of having to plan to share quality time together might not seem much fun, but when life gets busy (which it always has a tendency of doing) your relationship shouldn’t have to run the risk of decline simply because you took the power of a date day/night for granted. When you slot in activities after a day’s work or look ahead to enjoyable weekend pursuits, the two of you get to share looking forward into the future, together. There’s a chemistry that develops, an excitement for what’s to come, because you never quite know what great things can happen when you make a point of creating such valuable opportunities.

Planning quality time sets your relationship up for success. Making fun plans was exactly what the two of you did before you got committed in the first place; do you really think your relationship can withstand an absence of such continued attention? Yes, there are important things to be done… but if you don’t reaffirm the bond you’ve created with each other, no chore or errand will be worth the risk of separation. Here are some easy ways to get started:

* get outdoors

* try a sport or hobby that’s new to both of you

* do a couples-oriented activity

*  cook together

* go out with another couple (make sure they’re fun!)

*  plan a trip

  2. Learn to communicate difficult feelings

A chapter from the book, “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus,” is about learning to communicate difficult feelings, and how it is one of the cornerstones of keeping a relationship from drifting away. But all too often, it is a skill that falls sadly to the wayside. Why is it so hard for couples to express emotion without it being at their partner’s expense? “When we are upset, disappointed, frustrated, or angry, it is difficult to communicate lovingly”, says author John Gray, PhD. “When negative emotions come up, we tend momentarily to lose our appreciation, and respect. At such times, even with the best intentions, talking turns into fighting.”

Since you’ve got an entire lifetime to practice healthy emotional expression - not to mention unlearn unsuccessful communication strategies that you’ve picked up along the way - there’s no better time to start than now. A great area to start with is being selective about when you ‘discuss’ provoking topics. When voices rise and conversations turn ugly, politely request an time-out by saying something like, “I’m having a hard time being rational and I don’t want to offend you because I’m upset. I’d like to cool off before we continue our discussion.”

3. Avoid using sex as a weapon

All too often, a bickering couples sex life has to get dragged through the mud when they fight. An innocent victim of power struggles, jealous fits, or whatever other relationship issue that truly deserves the blame, sex becomes the weapon that couples use to get back at each other over hurt feelings and resentment. Granted, when you’re ticked off at your boyfriend or girlfriend, the last thing you probably want to do is give them the satisfaction of sexual pleasure, but the fact is there’s no sense in creating permanent barriers in the bedroom over petty problems in your day to day life.

The truth of the matter is that sex shouldn’t ever be treated like a chore, or as a duty, but when you don’t learn to communicate difficult feelings (see #1) effectively, grudges fester and important conversations get left unsaid, and your sexual connection slowly gets chipped away at because you’re withdrawn or upset. When problems arise, talk it out, negotiate a solution, and then go make up. How? You guessed it - work out the last bit of tension after your fight is over in a more mutually beneficial sort of way aka make up sex!

4. Don’t avoid problems because you’re scared of being single

People stay in bad relationships longer than they should because the fear of the pain of dating seems scarier than the pain of a bad relationship. People prefer to cling to the familiar, even when it's painful, rather than attempt to stretch themselves with the hope of expanding their happiness.

Sometimes the fear of the unknown prevents people from exploring issues that could threaten the relationship that they’re in. Although it’s scary to consider having to start over with someone new, the common denominator in all your relationships is you, and an unwillingness to face problems head-on is a pattern that can make any couple drift apart.

So go ahead and take a good look on yourself, your partner, and your relationship. If you see something you don’t like, consider yourself fortunate for uncovering it so early. When there are issues that need to be addressed with your partner, do so in a positive and constructive manner; if they’re willing to face reality with the same dedication you are, you’ll have little trouble finding strategies to deal with them.

They say it because it's what you are. It angers me when I see people that I share a similar skin tone with out in public acting a damn fool. One, because this society is to ignorant to realize that Black is not race or a culture but a color, also a term no different than African American or Negro, used to classify the race of the displaced Africans who lineage has led to our birth in the United States. It does not mean that anyone of brown or darker skin who is not white. There are classifications and distinctions for them. Two, at the end of the day, since we are all classified as black in this ignorant society, we are judged by the individual, not by the majority. I support this statement by saying, do you think Barack Obama has changed the perception of Black Americans when we can go on any corner, block or avenue in an urban community and find a baker's dozen of ignorant gang members who stand as the symbol of organized chaos. Yes, I'm upset this morning. 

To be honest with you my anger comes from a simple incidence at McDonald's this morning. Hispanic American is trying to take an order. Black American gives the order as he's talking to Pookie and Ray Ray on the block. When the order is captured incorrectly, he yells out to the before mentioned Hispanic American, "yerp!" to get his attention. The Hispanic American does not respond, as I'm pretty sure when he took his ESL classes "yerp" was not a word that he learned and was trained to recognize. When the Hispanic American notices that the ignorant call for attention is directed at him, he responds. The Black American ask that his order be corrected. The Hispanic American relates the changes to the order to his co-workers in Spanish. You know what the Black American had the nerve to say? 

"These muhfuckers should learn to say the language right, my nigga. I'm saying, you working in these here states. Speak our shit abundantly."

YOU HAVE GOT TO BE FUCKING KIDDING ME!!! Besides the obvious ignorance with the Ebonics and misuse of words, I hate when Black Americans use this statement. Should I remind them that we don't generally speak correct FUCKING English ourselves. Also, I thought nigga was a term of endearment. YET, every time I hear it....ie music, explanations, movies....it's being used an acceptable substitute to the word nigger that NO ONE SHOULD BE SAYING!! I don't understand why so many people have accepted these negative forms of communication and expression as the Black American "culture." Why don't they see that they are just as much the problem and even further away from the solution.

Voting for Obama on November 6 does not make you a proud American or a good Black person. Being educated and being able to communicate and enriching the society with knowledge they did not have and are currently not receiving because most of you Black Americans are not receiving or distributing the knowledge you have. Sorry, you probably didn't get that. let me rephrase. You niggers don't know shit and continue to show that by representing your disillusioned "culture" in your clothes, attitude and language.....my nigga.

Perfectly nourished nails its natural essence fueling the blame. Aim directed at your heart but your mind runs this game of right and wrong. All along the way you deal with vindictive actions being boomeranged  in your direction. No protection can protect this force field, especially if you are always the product it feigns for. 

You ever sit back and marinate on the thought of it is me not everyone else? Besides pointing fingers at the chaos that comes in your peaceful world. People react based off your reactions, so if everyone around you rather hound you with bad intentions... Something says you better look inside instead of pointing that perfectly nourished nail their way. 

You cannot find the answers because you have yet to ask yourself the right questions! People everywhere are not evil and out for your demise, please believe I have encountered many positive vibes on continuous ongoing basis. 

So face it... Something is not sitting right at home, you can only be the judge of your reasoning. Reason with third eye views to gain a different perspective. Outline your future and goals be your own detective. 

Perfectly nourished nail... 

Watch how you point that finger.

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Good evening beautiful people! Kiannah here and I know I've been m.i.a for a few weeks, but I was in serious need of a hiatus just to get my son together for school and now that he's all settled in and adjusting well, I can focus on one of my favorite things writing in THE FINE PRINT/TRES BEAUTEOUS! I decide that I want to change things up a bit in Tres Beauteous same subject backgrounds, but on a schedule for each Tuesday like they say change is good (who is the "THEY" btw I've always wanted to know...LOL).

So here is the schedule: 1st Tuesday- Health Product Review 2nd Tuesday- Beauty Product Review 3rd Tuesday- Interview Day 4th Tuesday- "You inspire Me"

*Oh if their is a month where we have a 5th Tuesday then im doing a freestyle kinda post...

Hello loves!!! I have been away for too long, but it was a well needed break. I know a bunch of my regular readers missed me because they messaged me and texted me every Thursday asking me why I didn't post anything. Well the wait is over! Today on The Real Deal I will be focusing on things that people do that ruins their 20's. It's an age where most people start to become mature and move from adolescence into adult-hood. For some its easy, for others its a day to day struggle. I was inspired by a tweet by my friend Edeline (@idontknow_ede on twitter) so shout out to her! So this article online at the Thought Catalog caught my attention because I wanted to know if I did any of the things on this list. Try and guess how many apply to me! lol

15 Ways 20-Somethings Ruin Their Twentys

1. Letting themselves get out of shape. If you’ve ever watched The Biggest Loser and questioned the contestants desire, based on their struggles — you’ve never been out of shape. You’ll find that the rumors are true, and your metabolism moves slower than a snail at the DMV as you get older. If you continue washing down brownies with Mountain Dew and discounting the value of working out, you will pay. I assure you that once you’ve officially gotten out of shape, it’s so much harder to get fit. The mere sight of a treadmill will make you want to run anywhere but on it.

2. Spending substantial amounts of money on farfetched concepts. Buying several lottery tickets, playing the slot machines and joining pyramid schemes are all poor decisions, with slim chances of making profit. (Heads Up: 99% of well-dressed individuals who approach you with a business proposal/job opportunity just want you to help them build an unprofitable pyramid.)

3. Staying involved in destructive relationships. In middle school and high school, everyone dated everyone — but your 20s should see stricter standards and principles enforced. There’s no sense in being with someone whom you can’t picture yourself happily with in the foreseeable future. Don’t get me wrong, fixing damaged relationships is great; but trying to glue back a thousand broken pieces while getting cut in the process is unhealthy.

4. Cohabitating with a lover whom you’re not married to. Often couples convince themselves that moving in together is a splendid idea, when that’s not always the case. Sure, some live happily together, but it’s not for everyone. Be certain that you’re not rushing into things. It’s not as simple as sharing a shower, owning his and hers robes, and having sex frequently. Many characteristics are revealed, and obnoxious habits are exposed. Living with a significant other too early can be detrimental to the entire relationship.

5. Accepting and embracing drama. When you graduate high school, the cattiness and immaturity proceed to follow some. We have to refuse to be a part of any high school level shenanigans. Hearsay, gossip, he-said-she-said — all those bastards got a diploma and followed some miserable souls well into their 20s. It’s a matter of rejecting the slightest hint of drama, and wisely refusing to speak, act, or feel anything based off of it.

6. Settling for a subpar job that makes you miserable. Hard work and dedication, no matter who the employer, are admirable traits. If you find yourself performing unhappily at a place, be certain that you’re just doing so as a means to get by until you can pursue your personal goals. Every opportunity to take a shot at your dream career should be greeted passionately by you. Too often people forget that the 20s are an ideal decade for trial and error. Test things out, then fail or succeed.

7. Putting excessive amounts of value in attention received on social networks. Gauging your popularity and significance by the amount of likes your Facebook statuses got. Feeling physically unappealing because your Instagram photo — which you spent an absurd amount of time selecting an effect for — didn’t get a satisfying amount of compliments and responses.

8. Being a pushover. Little things like accepting the wrong drink at Starbucks, or pretending not to notice someone cutting you in line aren’t crucial. The issue is the snowball effect that follows. People see that you’ll give an inch, so they’ll greedily take a mile. In today’s world, it’s hard to be nice without somebody trying to take advantage of your kindness. Establish firm limitations that people know better than to cross. It might take temporary sternness, but in the long run it’ll pay off.

9. Taking pride in being widely considered a b-tch or a d-ck. Why being loathed (for good reason) has become a fad is beyond me, but it’s definitely a thing. It’s fantastic to be who you are, but to consciously treat people sh-tty and then brag about having “haters” is just dumb. Nobody is invincible — so continuously pouring gasoline, lighting matches and burning bridges will come back to haunt anyone eventually.

10. Being self-destructive. Continuing personally damaging conduct, with no intentions of stopping can have a lasting effect on your 20s. Getting arrested, pissing off friends, being irresponsible with finances — these are just a few of the seemingly infinite ways to ruin one’s self.

11. Passing on spontaneous adventures and the opportunity to experience new things. If friends are taking an impromptu trip to a nearby city, pack a small bag and roll with. These little things are what make the decade. Beyond the inside jokes and perspective on classic stories that you’ll miss out on, you’ll lack good times. If serious responsibility isn’t withholding your presence, then nothing else should be. Attend gatherings, give unfamiliarity a chance and build a résumé of awesome memories.

12. Remaining bitter. If you’re still angry with the ex from over five years ago, or badmouthing the company that didn’t hire you — do yourself and those around you a favor by stopping. The anger is unhealthy to hold on to, plus it makes you a misery to be around. Bitter passes are typically handed out to the freshly dumped, or recently rejected — but in time you must forgive or forget. Whichever you choose; be firm on it.

13. Making yourself difficult to love. By being shutdown and over-complicated, you create a seemingly impenetrable shirt, doused in cupid repellant. We all struggle in our own unique, disastrous ways — the key is to fix them. Making yourself available, approachable and open/honest will work wonders for your love life.

14. Being a pessimistic, opinionated hater. Yeah, that’s something we all want to be around in our spare time. Every movie out isn’t terrible, every song isn’t garbage. This personality type is in for a reality check when eventually nobody wants anything to do with ‘em.

15. Spending large chunks of time dreaming about a utopic, perfect world in which everything is just peachy. Having high hopes and aspirations for the future is a great thing, it’s just important to draw the line of frequency somewhere. Picturing a fantasy land in which you own nice things, are surrounded by beautiful people and have Uncle Scrooge sized piles of money isn’t going to bring those things to fruition. The dreaming is the easy part, it’s the living that requires some heavy lifting and effort.

Sister…daughter…friend…lover Cousin…niece…aunty…mother Take a look at your face Tell me what you see What’s opposite you in the mirror Is more than skin deep There’s a powerful women Who endures strain and strife Who deserves nothing less Than the best things in life To be a wife A loved one who’s esteemed most high Who always walks with her head up to the sky Don’t let these cowardice males Take anything away from you There are real men out there with love in their hearts And there’s always a space for you Look at your face There should always be a smile there Regardless of your shape, color, Size or texture of hair

But sometimes ladies You forget to compliment yourselves So the reassurance you don’t get from you You seek from someone else The pain from your past And insecurity of your now Gets invested in a man That claims he loves you But really doesn’t know how So you fall in love with him Hoping he’ll be exactly what you need But please beautiful, Take another look before you proceed Look at your face That smile isn’t authentic I know it sounded good when he uttered those words But do you think he really meant it?

Yet you give him a chance You make him your man You tell him to show you he loves you And he does it With his hands Now look at your face That bruise on your cheek shouldn’t be there Now you want to leave this man But you’re far too scared So you let him call you a bitch And pull you by your hair Laying in a pool of your own blood Crying to God that it’s unfair You’re sore, in tears And as you just lay there That man is in the other room And he doesn’t even care.

Look at your face

Please tell me that you’ve had enough Please tell me that you’re ready To get away from this man To go pack up your stuff Look at your face, that isn’t love Those marks on your neck isn’t something that love does You shouldn’t have to go to work With a new pair of shades There should be no blood from your lip Look at your face I know that’s not something you want to see I know in your heart that you want to be free I know it’s hard to let go You’ve invested a lot But when is enough, enough? This shit’s got to stop You have to leave now Put your safety first Please sister, I don’t want to see you in a Hearst Look at your face That strength is still there Look deeper until you find it You don’t have to be scared There’s a woman in that mirror Who knows she’s too good for this Keep searching until you find her Look at your face… Hopefully what you see Will remind her

You’re still beautiful sister Just look At your face

So....I'm very much aware that it is not Friday and that I have not posted in 3 weeks if I'm not mistaken. Things have not been that hectic in my life. I just didn't want to bore anyone with forced sarcasm and wit. I wanted to speak truthfully when I did decide to post again. I am currently dealing with an issue but due to professionalism and company policy (since I'm typing this at work) I won't go into too much detail. I was going to title this post Working hard at Hardly Working but I figured a title that long wasn't worth what I have to say. With one week left in summer vacation I just wanted to express my feelings on this past summer and the people that I have been blessed to share it with. Just bare with me. This is not a Welcome Back newsletter post. 

To light skin. Thank you for showing me a side to life I did not know existed and helping me understand (or remember) what is looks and feels like to be adored. I will never forget the many days and nights I spent with you just watching your eyes spread wide or dilate from excitement and the mere mention of us spending time together. I admire you for being able to make it through the storms you faced and slowly mature and grow into the young woman you are becoming. I enjoyed the time we shared together and I look forward to our future. One thing. All that whining and complaining shit......has got to stop! Prince said it best. Act your age, not your shoe size. Please understand that asking people to treat you like an adult does not come with much appreciation or acceptance of YOUR responsibilities. It's not my job to remember what your schedule is. You have to learn to stop taking things so seriously and appreciate the little things for that is where peace and tranquility solely lie in this cruel and unjust world. I pray and hope that your continued growth includes fixing known issues. There is no point in acknowledging that there is an issue.....and doing nothing to fix said issue. That's just exhausting. At the end of the day, I'm glad that you have become a mainstay in my life and look forward to whatever life has in store for us.

To you Mohawk. I'm very proud of the man you are slowly becoming. Yes, I said slowly. You're moving like a snail in a race with gazelles. I'm not even sure if you've noticed that I have given up trying to instill a sense of urgency into our life because I'm too busy trying to place in my own race. Unfortunately, we may not be old but we damn sure are not young. Technology is allowing more people to fight for the jobs and positions that you are after so you don't have time to not go for what you want NOW. We have been blessed to live in an age where every single day someone can become a millionaire. I remember when we were younger, we used to talk about buying cars and going to Atlantic City and Vegas. We've accomplished those things and it's about time that our sights move on to bigger and better things. But I can't hold you hand through this. They say, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. You're a very smart and capable person. You just to get out of your own way and see what it is that you are supposed to do with your life....and then DO IT! You deserve so much more than what you are currently receiving from life.... champagne rooms included lol. 

Mommy. I miss you so much. Getting this tattoo was the best thing I think I've ever done because it allows me to think of you everyday for positive reasons (there weren't too many negative reasons). I know that I didn't hold up my end of the bargain by leaving college all those years ago. But as we approach the beginning of Fall semester....with the knowledge that I will be walking in May next year....I just wish you were here (physically) to share in this with me. While other people blog and post and step out into the limelight to stroke their own egos, I did it because I innately knew that with my birth with most of your opportunity to do the same for yourself. I did poetry because I knew you enjoyed it. I stuck with radio because I knew you you admired it. I love the music you grew up listening to. Everything I do, I do to show the world that your sacrifice was not in vain. I feel so alone in this life sometimes. Like no one but these words you and grandma ever truly understand this enigma wrapped in a riddle that is T. Mitch. And now that i know that I will be receiving what was most important to you I feel like I have finally gotten back to where I am supposed to be in life. And before my co-workers begin to ask me why I'm crying....I'll end this by saying I love you now, loved you then and always will. 

Good evening beautiful people! I thought long and hard on what to write on today and the one topic that always comes up every week and is screaming for me to talk about is oral hygiene. Yes very simply, take care of your teeth! Its no great mystery that you should brush your teeth twice a day if not three times IF you can squueze it in; so someone please tell me I constantly run into people who have somehow missed that lesson as a child, teenager, and/or an adult? 

If their is anything most people know about me is I take serious pride in keeping my teeth and everything going on in my mouth together. When you talk don't think that the person or people you are talking to aren't checking out your mouthpiece as I like to call it. Nobody wants to hold a conversation with someone who has plaque buildup, bad breath, or jacked up teeth, on sorry we don't and do not be fooled into thinking otherwise. Im sure we could come up with a ton of reasons as to why a person has any of the above but the one that comes to mind is simply neglect and laziness. Now, keeping with the theme I always like to go with, I want to lidt a few simple things you can do to keep your mouth together not just scold you...I say you  but it can be anyone you know so please do not be offended just take notice and handle your scandle honey.

Step 1: Brush your teeth everyday, it takes five minutes twice a day to keep that plaque away...and please please do not forget to brush your tongue, your tongue is where all those smells lie so if you don't brush it then it almost defeats the "brushing" purpose.

Step 2: Purchase an oral kit, this kit can be found at your local dollar store and it contains the toothbrush, mini hand held mirror, plaque remover, tongue scraper, and floss. When I say say this is such a great investment it truly is a GREAT investment, so head out and get one now.

Step 3: Visit the dentist twice a year! Even if you do not have insurance you can look into offices that charge based on your incomeor you can visit a dentistry school where check ups, cleanings, etc are free or extremely reasonably priced.

T.G.I.F. everyone. I feel pretty bad about leaving you without your weekly dose of sarcasm the last few weeks. I've been extremely busy and honestly I wanted to get away from blogging for a minute. I put a lot of self reflection and thought into these entries. These are my true feelings about real people so it can be quite draining to keep this up weekly. But I appreciate those that look for the entry every week and it is you that motivate me to continue expressing myself. I wish I was coming to you today in better spirits. Contrary to popular belief, I'm a very sensitive individual. I don't take kindly to disrespectful comments about me and I hate feeling unappreciated. The one thing I have always prided myself on is knowing my place in life. I'm not one of those people who doesn't know what they are doing or where their future is going. I have a very good idea of where I'm headed. This benefits me when I'm asked for advice. I've lived a little so I've seen things that others who "think" they've had experiences couldn't imagine seeing. Today I'm going to vent to those eyes wide shut babies. 

First, to you internet thugs. You know, the person who talks very sweetly to you on the phone or through text and then goes on social media and is sarcastic and disrespectful? Me too. Can't stand them. The last thing I want to see on my TL is some smart ass tweet or status update and an arrogant #hastag from someone who was distraught and upset and defeated hours ago. India Arie told the world "I Am Not My Hair" and honey, You Are Not Your Tweets. Social media is an engine that is most useful by people who are in the world living and have something of media to socialize about. It is not a place to put a mask on and hope that you can hide who you really are and how you really feel behind pre-meditated proverbs with a 140 character limit. Your life is of no more meaning because you have hundreds of thousands of followers. Birds of a feather flock together. The next time I see a tweet that in some way, shape or form references me, I'm going to end your life on social media. My balls have seen more of this world than your subconscious has allowed your mind to dream about allowing your eyes to see. 

Second, please go somewhere where you will not be disturbed by anyone, take a notebook and pen, sit down and see if you can learn the difference between what you want and what you need. As mentioned earlier, God put me and a select others on this earth and sprinkled us over the globe like Planeteers to tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. You want yes men, text someone else when you're feeling down. Call the people who value you smiling and accepting mediocrity over you frowning but accepting your reality. Continue to make me the bad person because, "you didn't have to say it like that," or "Wow. Thanks for being a jerk about it." If you wanted it sugar coated you should've asked a fellow naive person who would rather see you suffer and struggle on your own then help you seek any form of reconstruction on the damaged structure that is your framework. There is nothing, NOTHING!!!!!!, worse than a person who recognizes their flaws......and chooses to do nothing to change them. I don't pity people. I tell them they are pathetic. Don't like it? Go find someone to tell you what you want to hear.

Hello loves, sorry for the delay. I've had a loooooooong week so far lol. Today I will be venting again on The Real Deal. The topic is things that annoyed the hell out of me this week.

1. This unattractive, annoying and very weird little girl that doesn't even go to my school (is here for some program) has been getting on my last nerve. I'm starting to think she is stalking my friend lol. She is extremely awkward, and must be socially inept or something cuz she is very strange. For example, one day she asked my friend to login to the schools Wi-fi on her phone. While he is doing that, she turns around to me (keep in mind the most I have said to this girl was hi a few times in passing) and says "My nipples have been hurting for the past few days. What does that mean? What do I do?" I honestly looked around, realized she was talking to me, then I said "I don't know you like that, thats wayyy TMI." She kept asking so I was like "Is your period coming soon? cuz they can hurt right before your period." She said, "I dont know." I have never known a female that didn't have some kind of idea about her menstrual cycle so I was shocked and I walked away lol.

2. I absolutely HATE when people give me dirty looks, and I have been getting them alot. Mainly from this one lil girl at my school. I haven't done anything to her, or said anything to her for her to have an attitude with me. Its super annoying too cuz I see her freaking EVERYWHERE!!!! However, if she keep looking at me like that, she might catch me on a "idgaf" day and ima say something to her. lol she don't want it!!!

3. Subtweets are two sided. They can be funny/cute but lately bitch ass niggas (that need a life that doesn't include twatching when you aren't even following me) are using subtweets to try and be gansta. Look, talking shit on twitter through a subtweet don't make you a G. How bout you @ me!!! or better yet, say that shit to my face!!! Cuz you can always talk hella shit thru media (texts, fb, twitter) but when I'm standing in front of you its a WHOLE different story. So all I ask is that you man up or shut the fuck up.

4. Last but not least, I hate when I'm walking with a group of people and two people pull away, start whispering and looking back at the rest of the group. That makes me feel like you talking shit about someone in the group. If you need to say something, then just say the shit!!! If you really just needed to say something to that person you pulled aside, text them or somthing, at least when you are with a group of people! Cuz that is just rude.

Good morning beautiful people, for any new readers welcome to Tres Beauteous and I am Kiannah otherwise known as Ms. Kitts. The summer is winding down, and I do hope you are you enjoying it and getting as many memories together as possible. Do make sure you have as much fun as you can because before you know it Fall will be rolling in along with cooler temps...but enough of that lets get to today's topic. I had the pleasure of going to the 2nd anniversary event for Johntines Boutique owned by Tia Jackson. The store is located in Brooklyn, NY at 332 Malcolm X Blvd, it is easily accessible by the A or C trains (Utica avenue stop), and just a 5 minute walk from the station. As I approached the store the sound of upbeat music was playing and people were outside laughing and talking which is always a good sign. Now being who I am I brace myself just in case im not pleased with what I see therefore no major letdowns but I absolutely fell in love; from the interior which displayed pink and white walls, to the fixtures which were sturdy and showcased the wonderful clothing, to the bathroom lol yes I survey everything and yes I was very satisfied to say the least. Now, so often I've been to grand openings and anniversary events and the items that you see online are not on the shelves well that wasn't the case for Johntines...I saw many of her online items in the store along with a few new ones that I liked. She also had a $20 rack for our budget conscious divas which naturally can be appreciated...so far so good, yes? I spotted a few people I knew and then I stepped outside and was greeted with a warm smile and kiss from the owner herself, Ms. Jackson was warm, funny, and inviting which put me at a further ease...she also made sure I got my swag bag which was filled with wonderful goodies and offered delicious cupcakes and champagne (how can you not love her). As I stated I was very pleased with everything I saw, there were a few  minor quirks that I saw nothing worth mentioning that I suggested to Ms. Jackson we'd talk about just to offer my opinion, but other than that that anniversary event and the store was a complete success and Johntines Boutique receives 4 1/2 lipsticks from me. Now if you couldn't tell from my title the store caters to plus size women sizes 12-24, so if you or anyone you know is looking for trendy clothing and accessories then definitely take a trip to Johntines, and please tell her I sent you, you can also check out the items online at HTTP://www.johntines.com or give the store a call if you have any questions at (347) 240-5584. The store hours are: Tuesday - Friday 12:30 - 6:30p.m. Saturday 12:30- 6:00p.m. CLOSED SUNDAY & MONDAY.

Hello loves!!! I know its not Thursday but welcome to The Real Deal with yours truly, Lady Love. This will be more of a venting session/rant than anything else so please bear with me lol.

Lately, I have been taken for granted by quite a few people that I consider to be my friends. That shit sucks big time! I'm a very generous person when it comes to my friends. I will buy them food if they are hungry, I will go out of my way to help them with various things and I have even paid bills for some of my friends. Now when I need help, you would assume that these people would help a sister out right? WRONG!!!

For example, one friend asks to borrow like $20 like every other week for a couple months. I'm still waiting for that $120 back. That could buy a fucking textbook for class! Another friend has used me for manual labor on a few occasions, but when I needed help with some manual labor, she made mad excuses! There is one friend I have definitely gone above and beyond for: paying phone bills, court fines, etc. I could be an asshole and ask for all that money back but that's not my style. I knew that all the people I helped really needed the help at the time, but it would be nice to get back even some of what I have given. Its crazy that you can always be there for someone when they need you, but when the tables are turned, you are all alone in your moment of need.

The real pain is when you support people in just about everything they do, but they can't return the fucking favor! I always support and promote anything that a friend of mine is doing. Most my friends should know that I do this blog and have a radio show on WRNU, but most never read a blog entry, listen to my show, or help promote! They might not see it as a big deal but it really does mean a lot when you have your friends showing interest in the things that you are passionate about. I know that T. Mitch knows what I'm talking about here cuz he is dealing with the same thing.

Like I said on twitter the other day, I am gonna stop being so nice and go back to my evil ways. That "I don't give a fuck" attitude will be in full effect unless it has to do with me or mine. You want me to help promote your endeavors? How bout you scratch my back then I'll scratch yours. I really hope nobody gets on my bad side cuz things could get ugly! I'm definitely going to start cutting off people that don't understand the concept of "Treat others as you would like to be treated."

I proposed a question of motion

It was my token of appreciation

I asked did you want me to give you my all

And all the rest fall in place

In place of emptiness we would have happiness

Least thats what I expected

You’ve been neglected of good love, true love

You said you were threw with love

So I threw my self at you

You caught an once of what I gave

Returned a smile of approval

I thought I knew you

Thought I had you figured out

I wished you were about me as much

as I was about you

Til the day I saw both our hands were tied

Yours with another guy

Minds held with my face

All I know is I wanted the gates to open to our home

But you took it to another zone

Should have known, hurt people hurt people

I tried to but a twist and make us a sequel

Took time to show you how you should be treated

But you needed an extra body to test it out on

I was blind and dumb

Sometimes when we hard at work with trying to improve our love

We lose sight of whats going on above us

Or below for that matter

Felt like a king knocked off his throne

Armor and all

But like any fall there is a rise

Besides I need a breathe of fresh air and a new start

So with my hands tied I walked out

With my hands tied I drove off

I regret the memories made

Forget trying to reconcile

Its on to better things

But this time,  someone elses hands will be tied on

Braking down my pride

I hope they all for a long ride

And I hope this pattern of hands tied subside