The Brazen Queens

i’ve literally seen posts that say people should stop saying stuff like “abortion is a woman’s right” because its trans exclusive or causes dysphoria or whatever and like. yall. no. it is not transphobic to acknowledge that abortion restrictions target women and are based in misogyny, because they are made with the lawmakers’ definition of a woman in mind, not ours.

like i highly value inclusive and gender neutral language and trans people should definitely ALWAYS be part of the conversation of reproductive justice and bodily autonomy, and when talking about pregnancy in general i think trans inclusive language should be used, but the (cis) men who create and back these laws do it for the express purpose of subjugating women, and they are running under the assumption that every women has a vagina and every person with a vagina is a woman. these laws are made to control women’s bodies specifically, even if other bodies are also put in danger.

this is sooooo fucked up. i’m livid

A woman with a voice is by definition a strong woman. But the search to find that voice can be remarkably difficult.

It 100% goes towards buying bottled water for residents. The government has cut off aid to us and these charities are all we have.

I do have one request though! On the page provided it asks for your affiliation (if you have one) and if you guys could put ‘kaijuno’ in that box, it will help me know how much money you guys have raised!

My first boyfriend (we were both 19) started out like a fairytale. He was so sweet, always texting me, wanting me to call before I went to bed so he could tell me good night, call in the morning so he could wish me a good day - and then he proposed to me three months in, with a replica of Galadriel’s ring from the Lord of the Rings books. I said yes, in all my naivete.

A month later, he started pressuring me into getting an apartment together - I said no, I wanted to finish school, and I didn’t want to have to work full time at the retail job I was working. This, apparently, shattered him. He started yanking on his hair, crying, shouting that he couldn’t believe I would say no. Didn’t I love him? Didn’t I want to be with him? Before I knew it, I was on my back, crying, trying to shove him off as he went at it, ignoring my protests. I still remember how horrible it felt laying there afterwards, silently crying as he cleaned himself up.

A few months later, when I finally confronted him about it, he couldn’t believe that I was accusing him of rape. He wasn’t that kind of person. He was so hurt by my refusal to move in with him that he couldn’t see my distress. How could he be a rapist? It didn’t matter how hurt I was, it mattered that I dare accuse him of such a thing.

Once I left him, he would call me between 50 to 200 times a day, depending on if he had work, as well as sending me letters via email. I would never find someone who cared about me like he did. How dare I try to leave him. He was the best someone like me could ever dream of having. He eventually started stalking me at my job. He would drive to my parents’ house at 2 am and wake me up from my bedroom window, asking for me to let him in so we ‘could just talk things through’. My telling him to leave me alone was not enough. My blocking his number was not enough. He finally stopped harassing me when I moved an hour away for school, but I firmly believe that was only because no one would tell him where I went.

them: 

So idk if others have noticed this before - but it’s the first time I’m seeing this, hence the post.

There’s a website, https://www.photosugar.com, which apparently mirrors all pictures, gifsets etc. people post on their tumblrs (and also other social media sites like twitter and instagram, if I understand it correctly). An eample for a tumblr user, with my name: https://www.photosugar.com/tu/lordhellebore

Now it won‘t turn up anything but a 404 error in my case, because I sent an e-mail to the contact address, which is [email protected] with the title “My content on your website”:

Hello, it’s come to my attention that you are mirroring all of the posts containing pictures/gifs that I post on my tumblr. I am asking you to stop pulling the content from my tumblr and to delete me from your website. tumblr username is „lordhellebore“ Thank you.

I got a reply consisting of the single word “removed” after just one day, and as you can see, it worked perfectly fine with the informal mail I sent. So if you want them to stop mirroring your tumblr, it seems all you really need to to is this.  

I can’t test the site for all of my mutuals, but I’m tagging a few whom I found on there by random trial & error, and I suggest you look yourself up if you see this post and dislike tumblr mirrors (even if this one is only for pictures, not text).

@janiedean, @ladytp, @vaysh11, @lunavagantt, @einemelodieimwind, @robb-greyjoy, @youbuggingme, @ysilme, @rex-luscus, @bai-xue, @viendiletto, @electricalice, @contessa-de-leusse, @memetic-mutism, @bluecichlid, @mrs-storm-andrews, @ladymothwing, @prismatic-bell, @kittykatknits, @tinkili

….basically, whomever I’m trying at random, it seems that you’re on there.

Tagging some people who might wanna know about this:

So, my library blog was on there, but not my main. Still, what the fuck?!?!

I entered a few friends’ names in and found these people:

@kittenofdoomage @superprincesspea @sis-tafics @yourvoiceislikearose @crispychrissy @moonlitskinwalker @squirrel-moose-winchester @curly-haired-disaster @dean-winchesters-bacon @anticipate1003

GUYS READ THE POST ITS IMPORTANT!

Tagging my people who might be interested: @princess-of-erebor1992 @deanssweetheart23 @sofreddie @shawnmend-yes @wordsandshawn @shawnsinmyblood @through-thesilver-lining @holyfuckloueh @givenchyshawn

You can see every pic/gif you reblogged and posted, it says when it was posted and, when it comes to reblogs, it says the person you reblogged it from and the person who originally posted it; it also says who reblogged and who liked it

Now, I don’t know about you but I really don’t want my blog in there and that’s why I’ll be using the link to remove it once I finish this

So, I did a quick research on a few mutuals whose usernames I remembered from the top of my head

@nestablebirds @calumsstrash @livelifesosily @beyond-ladders @5secondsofsomerhalder @egyptiangoldhood @lavieenbananabread @calumspeachy @mxre-calum @babylon-cal @planetxrobot @sunster14 @lordofassgard @ashtonsunshine

I found your blog there

This creeped the shit out of me

Like @classy5-sos did (thank you so much btw), I typed the name of some blogs I remembered

If I tagged you, you’re there

@morejinplease @leanonsvt @screaminghoseok @gamerwoo @agusttholly @papi-chulo-bucky @steph-oliveira @1-800-273-82 @call-me-hurricane-irene @stilinski-lover-24 @minmiin1d @rain-monster @trulymadlysydney @wolfgamzee @thatblackmullet @kooksluv @voidkitsune24 @pirisoriltarrawa @badgyaldene

Whether we’re mutuals, or if we’ve never talked this is important

@cerulean-shark @rosengreen @whyarewewlwlikethat @were-all-queer-here @earendil-was-a-mariner @elfinfen @egobarriart @i-have-no-gender-only-rage @flurgburgler @gandalfwho @glorfy-the-bright-haired-ellon @hope-filled-artist @janitorofangband @lady–of–greenwood @verymaedhros @vampiraptor @veryconfusednoldor @nelyafinwe @norse-potato @m0rket @moringottos @maedhros-right-hand @poet-of-arda @cwote @em-cu

OBGYN: Yeah, you are exhibiting all the signs of Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. I’m so sorry.

Me: Huh? Oh, yeah. Insulin resistance, impossible weight loss, pre-disposition to type II diabetes, painful AF periods. Likelihood of bleed outs. Crap. That blows.

OBGYN: Yeah, well that too.

Me: *blinks* What?

OBGYN: Well, PCOS makes it very difficult for a woman to conceive and carry.

Me: BWHAHAHAHA. Yeah. No. No babies. Ever. Never wanted them. At all. Maternal instinct is not strong with this one. Only upside today.

OBGYN: Well then. Not exactly problem solved, but we’ll run with it.

Me: So about the MIND-SEARING PAIN and occasional HEAVY AF BLEEDING. When can we deal with that.

OBGYN: Not until you are 35.

Me: Dah fuq?

OBGYN: Not my rules. Hospitalization won’t even consider any treatment unless it’s life or death until you’re 35.

Me: Why?

OBGYN: Because you might want to have a baby.

Me: I’m 31. I didn’t want kids when I was 11, I didn’t want them at 21, and I sure as shit don’t want them now. Can’t I just sign a form that says “I don’t ever want a baby take it out, take it out now”?

OBGYN: Nope.

Me: Why?

OBGYN: Government rules. No removal of baby making parts before 35 unless your life is in immediate jeopardy.

They think that forcing everyone to continue their pregnancy, whether they’re able to or not, will not have any negative effects on that person’s mental/physical/emotional health.

So having the baby is “natural” while using outside means to abort the baby is “unnatural” and thus MUST carry more risk because of being not-natural.

I think it’s a combo of general lack of education (most people know very, very little about pregnancy in a scientific sense or medical sense–for crying out loud, some congressmen thought you’d see the baby if you put a camera down the mom’s throat) and the fact that pregnancy itself is often only presented as a risk of sex in that “you’ll have a baby, then!” which reduces pregnancy down to the outcome, ignoring how long it takes and the effect it has.

There needs to be a lot more education about the duration and effects of pregnancy. Like, my mother had a comparatively easy one…until a month til the due date when apparently I decided to threaten her life by making her blood pressure go haywire. THEN they tried to force her to dilate and it didn’t even happen with a nurse’s idea of “scream at her that this should be working” and had to give up on that and go to a C section. The epidural needle then made my aunt faint (she pretended she’d lost a contact to not panic mom) and mom doesn’t recall much else.

THEN after all that, they couldn’t boot her from the hospital fast enough once she was awake and coherent post-surgery, an attitude a lot of pregnant women face. Thankfully we had no complications other than me being a little shit who only wanted to drink a tiny bit once an hour or so, but allegedly I was an easy baby outside of that.

I mean, there are so many women who DO have complications after being sent home after having a baby, “naturally” via the vagina or via C-section. And a ton of them have no idea what to do because again, no one really talks about this shit. People act like the only issue with having a baby is “losing your figure” when there’s a whole lot more going on there.

This of course isn’t helped at all by anti-abortion laws that make it harder for people with life threatening or potentially life threatening pregnancies to get an abortion. Texas saw an increase in maternal mortality rate after they put in all of those TRAP laws a few years back.

Not just the mistreatment in the hospital and other reproductive violence - such as forced epidurals, “the husband stitch”, forced C-sections, etc - but the mistreatement of pregnant people in their daily lives.

People will touch you without your permission. Grab you, even. Ask you invasive questions. Follow you. Try to do things “for” you.

But also at the same time, complain about anything and you’re just whining and lazy. Can’t stand for 8+ hours? Whining and lazy. Having cramps and pain? Whining and lazy. Can’t lift heavy items? Whining and lazy. Need to use the bathroom a lot? Whining and lazy.

I remember having to defend pregnancy as a temporary disability to numerous people in my life. They just don’t see how or why a pregnancy needs to be treated like someone is significantly injured and hindered. It’s “just” pregnancy.

They don’t even know the lifelong alterations and complications that come with it. It’s not even just “risky” pregnancy but pregnancy in general. I don’t think I’ve ever known a single mother who didn’t have urinary incontinence directly as a result of pregnancy. And that’s on the “lesser” side of the potential problems you can be landed with even with a totally normal pregnancy. Pregnancy literally moves, squishes, stifles, and crushes the organs and muscles in your body, often causing permanent damage and/or atrophy. People don’t think about it, they don’t know it.

I had her after 21 hours of labor. 21. Seriously, I was forced to stay awake, and not allowed to eat ANYTHING. My blood sugar was nonexistent, and they would only let me have water and ice. Thankfully, my daughter and I both made it. But my problems were only just starting.

Not with my baby, no, she was perfect. It was with the healthcare system. You see, since I had “no complications” my OB wanted me to try and have another. Pressured me about it every time I saw him. They were passive aggressive about me wanting birth control, and tried to talk me into having just one more “little blessing”. It got to the point that I switched offices.

It wasn’t only that either.

You see, babies get all of their nutrients from the mothers. My daughter took anything I wasn’t supplying in spades from my body. When my wisdom teeth FINALLY came in they were hollow. I have crippling migraines, bone spurs, and a cracked tailbone that all resulted from the pregnancy. And yes, I’m slightly incontinent. Everyone thinks it’s funny when you sneeze or laugh to hard and pee when you’re pregnant. It’s not funny when you’re post pregnancy anymore. People just think its gross.

My life changed forever. In some ways good, but in a lot of ways bad. I’m 25 and feel like I’m 40, but doctors just say I’m out of shape. The reality is that we need them to learn more about post pregnancy outside of the baby blues. Its terrifying to see all the other 20 somethings with tons of energy and no issues and wonder what’s happened to my own body.

Irony is my sister was 100% healthy while I, the ‘perfect baby’, am now permanently disabled. I say WAS healthy because after she had a baby she’s suffered horrendous ovarian cysts and…endometriosis. And now HER gyno is telling her another baby will ‘cure’ that.

I asked for a tubal ligation during my c-section and was told no, because my baby might die and then I’d want another, right? 

huffpost Aaron Persky — the judge who sentenced former Stanford University student #BrockTurner to six months in jail for sexual assault — has been voted out of his position. He is the first judge in California to be successfully recalled since 1932.

This website:

republican men:

Lesbian: No thanks, I’m a lesbian.

Same person with a penis: But I identify as a woman.

Lesbian: That literally changes nothing.

Trans Rights Activists: This is transmysogyny. Stop fetishizing genitals. Stop reducing women to their genitals.

Reproductive rights and justice has always been a cornerstone of the feminist movement. But lately I’ve noticed too many women being silenced when speaking out about reproductive health issues. Why? Because it’s being posited by many within liberal feminist circles that centering feminism around reproductive rights is not inclusive towards trans women.

Reproductive rights is now once again taboo within many feminist circles because trans women feel invalidated by statements such as “no uterus, no opinion.” Women who center their feminism around reproductive rights are often called out for not being “trans inclusive.” This is completely ignorant to the fact that reproductive rights issues do very much impact trans men, who also have uteruses.

“No uterus, no opinion” is inclusive to trans men. It is inclusive to non-binary folks who are biologically female. It is inclusive of the people to whom reproductive rights issues are actually relevant.

And trans women, having been born biologically male, will never have to worry about these issues that are specific to people who were born female. That is simply a fact. A trans woman will never need an abortion. A trans woman will never have to deal with polycystic ovary syndrome. A trans woman will never have to worry about whether or not their health insurance will cover their birth control. A trans woman will never need a papsmear. A trans woman will never give birth. A trans woman will never have to deal with the intense stigma that surrounds menstruation.

Does that mean that trans women’s issues don’t matter? Absolutely not. Trans issues should absolutely be discussed as well. But not at the expense of women’s reproductive health.