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“She deserves to be punished too.”

“I’m not saying I support rape, but-”

“Sorry to say - she deserved it.”

“She put herself in harm’s way”

“But if she was fingered, then that’s not rape.”

“She ruined their lives.”

“Yea, but did you see what she was wearing?”

“Boys will be boys!”

“She should know better than to drink at a party…”

  “He should’ve enjoyed it.”

“She must’ve lead him on.”

“But she orgasmed. That means she liked it - “

“Women can’t rape because…”

“Be grateful it wasn’t a man!”

“I’m sorry she hurt you but don’t call what happened to you rape, it’s an insult to the REAL victims…”

“You weren’t raped, you’re just lesbophobic.”

“She’s his wife, it’s her job to please him.”

“Oral isn’t rape.”

“Well he wasn’t armed, she could have walked away.”

“Guys can’t be raped, they love sex!”

“She didn’t fight back; it wasn’t rape.”

“You’re still a virgin? Don’t you want t get rid of that burden?”

“If you didn’t want this then you would leave.”

“I’ve never had any complaints. You’d enjoy it if you just stopped being so uptight.”

“You can’t get a guy all worked up and then not take care of what you caused.”

“You were wearing a kilt, of course she’d assume it was ok to check if you were being ‘traditional’ about it”

“But she was so hot! You should feel lucky”

“It was just a kiss, no need to get so worked up about it”

“He was drunk, so she probably assumed that he’d be ok with it. He certainly seemed into it”

shout out to the self-shippers whose f/o is a tumblr sexyman/tumblr sexyman archetype.

shout out to the self-shippers whose f/o is seen as only a “meme” or “cringe.”

shout out to the self-shippers who give their f/o a textbook’s worth of lore because canon failed them.

shout out to the self-shippers who wish the fandom took their f/o more seriously.

shout out to the self-shippers with f/os so obscure, they don’t even have a fandom.

-hydration: carry around a water bottle. a funky metal water bottle you can put stickers on is like $10 and if you can’t afford it just chronically refill a gatorade bottle or smth. Just having water nearby will help. And hydration really, really helps with energy levels for things like...

-exercise: my advice for this always is "find a sport you actually like", but if you're coming off of a years-long depressive sedentary period, start by walking. Like, TO places. The bus stop. A neat tree in your neighborhood. Is there a convenience store nearby? Go get a gatorade (see:hydration). Is there a library or other place where people gather? Even better. This is free and doesn't have to take any longer than 10 minutes at first. And don't go telling yourself "oh it was only 10 minutes it doesn't count" STOP! That is the depression talking! Literally any amount of movement is 100x more movement than you were getting on the couch! You're doing great! And once you're in a good exercise habit, it will help a lot with...

-sleep: ah, the white whale. But remember that literally just lying quietly in the dark is resting, even if you don't sleep (it's science!). Try to be in bed, no lights or phones, at the same time every night and just...chill. listen to some chill music. Try not to get up for a least a few hours. And then, the next day, when you’re wrecked?? Try to avoid napping at all costs. Your circadian rhythm should theoretically stabilize after a few nights of doing this, and resting should become easier. Human chemistry is SO routine based, just keep your schedule as best you can!

Nutrition: yeah this is depression hell. But it's not as expensive as it seems to "eat healthy". Apples, bananas, and oranges are all cheaper than chips and also require pretty much no prep, just shove em in your mouth (and don't give me that shit about caloric content; yes, I know chips are more filling, but they're not going to give you the happy chemicals you need to help depression. If you're so broke you will starve without 100 extra calories from a bag of doritos, your depression has environmental causes much deeper than lack of apples.) If you CAN cook even a little bit: frozen vegetables are cheap af and they slap with some butter and garlic powder. Throw some frozen peas in your mac and cheese. Kale and zucchini are cheap as hell in summer and they are delicious when flash fried with butter and salt. I know taking 5 minutes to cook seems insurmountable when you’re depressed but as my therapist always says, the cure for depression is doing the things depression doesn't want you to do. And it will improve your mood so, so, so much to get some fruits and veggies in you.

ignored by the fandom

hated by most of the fandom

treated like nothing more than comic relief

only given attention when being shipped with another character

Selfshippers who make all the meals for their F/O when they're sick.

Selfshippers who sit beside their F/O and comfort them when they're upset, when they're breaking down.

Selfshippers who do all the work for their exhausted, mentally or otherwise, F/O.

Selfshippers who make all the money, if it's needed.

Selfshippers who like to be the one complimenting and peppering in kisses, not the other way around.

Selfshippers who prefer to be the one laid on at night, their F/O safe and sound in their arms.

While selfship spaces can be more catered to those who are 'submissive', you 'dominant' selfshippers are just as important! Just as amazing! Just as worthy of being here!

Number one person to act familiarly towards Sasori: Chiyo. 

Maybe actually be family if you’re going to call him “”“your cute grandson”“”. Rather than, I dunno, straight up abandoning him, fucking him up and then blaming it on “"Suna’s harsh teachings”“”. Lmao Suna’s harsh teachings my ass, YOUR harsh teachings, you negligent, cowardly bitch. 

She pisses me off so bad, “my cute grandson”. She doesn’t deserve Sasori.

And her “last act to make her wrongs right” was not making her wrongs right- you know, the endless ways she’s hurt Sasori. NOOOOO it’s that she’s never cared about her VILLAGE, THAT’S the most important thing to try and rectify.

Nevermind that “”””her cute grandson””” should be coming first.

Nope, still doing it wrong, even with her dying breath. Never gonna forgive her. And yeah, I DO understand the psychological poohah that’s got her that way. So? Doesn’t mean I forgive her for what she’s done (and NOT done) to Sasori.

Like wtf woman at least own up to it. Really own up to it. Not just “oooohhhhh sad me I care so much and yet that doesn’t magically make him better, ooooh he’s SO UNGRATEFUL FOR THE FACT I STILL LOOOVE HIM DESPITE HIS CRIMES that I basically made necessary for him to commit ooOOOOOhhh.”

Excuse me??? Ugh, I’m gad she died. Good fucking riddance ew.

I SAID IT. FITE ME. I DON’T EVEN CARE I’M RIGHT ANYWAY.

She acts like she’s a victim, wallowing, it’s just all about her. I’m so mad at that wench. WEHH WEHH. Wehh wehh your asshole, bitch, Sasori’s the one who deserves to cry, not you, AND HE’S NOT EVEN DOING IT. CUZ NOBODY EVER LET HIM CRY SOMETHING OUT, NOW HAVE THEY?? HMMMM!?

GEE WHO WAS THAT AGAIN? WHO NEVER LET HIM GRIEVE AND MOURN HIS PARENTS??? HMMMM???? TURNED HIM INTO NAUGHT BUT A TOOL!?!? HMMMMMMMMMM???

Yeah, that’s right, that was you, you skank.

-heavy breathing- I have so much to say about that bitch HOO BOY.

Please understand that Chiyo is an old woman character meant to embody Sunagakure’s old traditions in a way. She’s been raised by them and therefore strictly lives by those rules. She was created to be the opposite of Gaara, old and aloof towards her village. When she referred to “Suna’s Harsh Teachings”, she really meant that, and she was the one to force it upon Sasori so she blamed herself as well. Yes, she was negligent; she was cowardly; but that’s sort of why she was created. To me, she really owned up to it well(though of course not enough to justify the things she did the past to Sasori and the village) by sacrificing her own life to support Gaara, someone young and strong who could make the village better. She knows what she has done to Sasori, but it’s a lost battle at that point, Sasori’s beyond the point of redemption, he’s in too deep. Chiyo battled Sasori not for his sake, it’s too late for anything to be done for him, but the least she could do is end Sasori’s life, a heavy threat to the future of Sunagakure itself. No matter how you slice it, how Sasori never got to cry for his parents, never got to mourn for them properly, he still ended up as a serial killer in the end with a morbid art. There’s no way to make Sasori better, he was a pretty sinful guy.

Chiyo /doesn’t/ deserve Sasori, but that’s why she’s trying to kill him. She’s also the only one who can do it, Gaara’s dead, Kakashi is off chasing after Deidara. She never acted like she was the villain, she only talked about what she had done and how she felt about it. Chiyo talks like that because she knows SHE is the villain, not the victim and plus it was character dialogue. Sasori was the victim, but grew up be the villain, a pretty badass one at that and made me go from ‘haha, stupid ninja’s…’ to a sobbing mess.

I understand Chiyo’s character. I know what she was created for. I was not commenting on her character on that meta level.

He ended up a serial killer in a morbid art due to the way he was forced to cope and the only skills he had the opportunity to learn. Before his leaving Suna, he’d already been finetuned as a killer. You can’t choose what you do when you are dependent on your environment for survival- all shinobi kids are put into acadamies and shit and raised to be ninjas and to want to be ninjas before they can form their own philosophies on the matter. 

That’s done by his environment- every shinobi is in essence a serial killer, unless they are an incredible ineffective one. 

I know she gave her life for Gaara’s to try and do some right for Suna, to rectify those mistakes. That’s part of what pisses me off. I’m not denying it’s one of the morally proper things she could have chosen to do. 

I’m saying that while her giving up on Sasori was the more productive way out (considering no amount of anything can undo the damage that’s been done to him) it’s still not something that earns her the rank of family to the boy. Which she keeps calling herself.

This is not about whether Chiyo’s character has redeeming qualities, or whether she’s a good character in the story. As a character she is realistically written, flawed, interesting. Again- that is not the level at which I am judging her.

I’m calling her a crap excuse for family. And she is. Even at the end, she chose rather to do her best to kill Sasori- even using his parent puppets and you bet she knew what she was doing, because she is a cunning kunoichi and whether it hurt her heart to do it or not, she was waging psychological warfare (yet again) on Sasori. She chose rather to kill him than to show any kind of support.

Would that support have been welcomed at this point? Probably not. Would it have changed Sasori’s intentions to kill both her and Sakura? Oh no, I really don’t believe that it would. Would it have caused some hyperunrealistic magical boy transformation into a tea party instead of a lethal fight? Nope.

None of that is my point. If Chiyo wanted any gain from her actions, (which she did) choosing to save Gaara was the right way to go. She chose to move on from the “failure” that is everything she’s to do with Sasori, and to try and do something right for the Village. To actively sacrifice some, be some form of selfless, where before she’d always decided Suna was beyond hope and not her problem to try and fix. But my point is that this is still no good for Sasori.

And, as I am being SASORI PROTECTION SQUAD 2KFOREVER, I am not talking about whether she’s a decent person or an interesting character- i’m talking about the pain of a person who has to go through such terrible neglect and emotional as well as psychological abuse. About the abuser, a member of his blood family, who consistently continues calling herself his family yet does absolutely fuck all to stand by him and actually be that family. Once again giving him no example of real love, confusing the territories of emotion by giving something that is bad for him the name of something that would be good for him: familial love.

Any other course of action for Chiyo to take during/before that fight would not have magically turned anything around. But the point is that Sasori deserves some real goddamned support- Chiyo could well have focussed on supporting Sasori even during their fight, even without any other outcome, could have told him that she were there for him, even without supporting his actions. Not letting him kill her or anything frilly like that- but to oppose his actions, while still offering her support for him, as a person. Supoorting a person is not the same as condoning their every action. It is not rolling over and letting them do whatever. Emotional support does not require being on the same side at all. She could have offered him acceptance of who he was and had become, acknowledge the shit he went through and how it’s shaped him and her own parts in that (to his face, not to Sakura’s), but instead she judged and condemned him to death for actions he’d been forced into by the teachings of a lifetime that Chiyo largely influenced herself, all for the sake of her village. Which, yay, how noble, but still shit for Sasori- whom has no-one but her left for any family ties. 

Say whatever you want, but a person is raised by his life. Who you are influences much, but does not dictate what you turn out to be. It is not Sasori’s fault that he is as he is. He makes his own choices, but those are influenced by everything he’s had to endure. He’s been conditioned into his very core. None of him acts without the influence of an entire lifetime of trauma. 

And his morbid art is how he’s been taught to cope with the immense trauma of complete abandonement. From what we see, only Komushi interacts with him after he’s like seven years old???? And he’s considered a prodigy, so no doubt there was a shitton of pressure. Suna is one of the less kind Villages- rather unlikely to think a random friendly person would have reached out to Sasori and maybe helped him heal some. In fact we would probably have been shown as much in the manga if such a thing HAD happened.

He’s never been taught to be anything but a lonely killer. You can’t practise what you’ve never learned.

And I’m hating Chiyo for not trying. For not trying, regardless of outcome. I’m not telling her to die for Sasori or anything. Just you know. Apart from giving her life for a random kid (aight, kazekage, but still, not her “cute grandson oh dearie don’t I want to see him again purely for my own sake and do fuck all for him”) she could also have inserted some comments and given Sasori some consideration. It would probably even have rattled him some, if the outcome MUST be Sasori’s death. Or enraged him beyond fuck lmao. Nah, he’d probably be numb and somewhat rattled, as that fight continued on in a way to do pretty much that already, canonically.

Anyway, yeah. I hope that made sense. I’m not attacking her as a character in a story- but as a really crap grandma, who could’ve put in like two cents at the very end for her grandson and not solely for a village that. Sasori is alone. The Village has its entirety. Sasori needed it so much more, is all I’m sayin’.

hidan-chan-my-foot is totally Akatsuki themed and a wonderful ask blog! Love this blog soooooo much 

kaeru01 is an awesome Akatsuki artist!

bone-critter has some awesome Kakuzu and Hidan art

make-a-guess posts a lot of sourced Naruto art, including Akatsuki art!

manartz has awesome Kakuzu/Hidan art

jessi-mini is a friend and has great Kisame/ Itachi art!

custat is absolutely awesome!

multicream has lots of good Naruto art!

chidorgy is epic!

jauntyeyes <- who doesn’t love jauntyeyes, honestly?

rcris123 is a good friend and a good Akatsuki artist! Starting up on her own Akatsuki comic, which is super exciting for me haha! 

15stepsdown heck yeah

lucrecious has a wondrous unique style and some awesome Akatsuki art!

incorrectnaruto-quotes is awesome haha totally recommend 

girlinpajamas is freaking awesome!!!!

electric-firefly has awesome (sourced) art!

takero-art posts a lot of good Akatsuki art!

birdclay has a fabulous Deidara blog!! One of my faves!

sasoreo is awesome!!

too-many-scorpions is a freaking must-have

uchihasavior <- awesome Itachi everything

hoppspindel is a great blog in general!

akatsuki-complex is freakkkinnnng awesommme

dana-chan235 is a good friend and also the author of Akachou, a really nice, long, detailed comic about the Akatsuki. She also makes some really great Akatsuki text posts!

ukirit has awesome Akatsuki art!

hanyouda is totally legit awesome

jam-art is a really prominent art blog in the Naruto fandom

disperfection is also a great friend and a great artist! Author of Akatsuki-Gakuen, another long and wonderful comic about the Akatsuki! 

akatsuki-texts is a funny Akatsuki blog to follow! 

doki-sasori is just a good blog in general!

1-N-F-E-C-T-E-D is wonderful!! 

hakuryuu-rens is awesome!! 

malignedaffairs is just… an amazing artist

marcdjang is freaking amazing, art goals tbh

prussianknight9 is totally rad

hachimitsubani is realllly good omg 

imagineakatsuki is one of my favorites! 

please-notice-me-sensei: Hidan art!! 

wtffanfiction has some really great, horrible Naruto fanfics haha 

akamarulover has some great Akatsuki art! 

eyum-ss is a great Naruto art blog! 

confessanime has good stuff on it!

bunnyarts has good Akatsuki art! 

nnajdraws: awesome Naruto content 

akatsukigakuen- disperfection’s comic blog! 

ninjasgiveyouwings is a friend and an Akatsuki blogger! 

me (bahahahaha jk) seriously though, I have like 15 Naruto blogs haha 

If you've never found yourself as the victim of a cult, or sexual assault, or abuse, the only thing separating you from people who have been victimized by cults / sexual assault / abuse is circumstance. That's it. Sheer luck. Luck over what family you were born into. Luck over who you were surrounded by when you were emotionally compromised or in any way vulnerable. Ect.

You are not better than people who have been victimized. They didn't do anything wrong to ask to be victimized. Anyone can be victimized by these situations given the perfect storm of circumstances. You are not better than people who have been victimized by cults / sexual assault / abuse.

You need to understand that if you are lucky enough to have never been victimized by cults / sexual assault / abuse, it's very little to do with how smart or strong you are or you doing all the "right" things. Someone can be smart and strong and do all the right things and still find themselves a victim given the perfect storm of bad circumstances.

DBH as text posts #9: Elijah Kamski & Amanda Stern