temple of shame

I feel like certain parts of the queer community like to argue about the "correct" labels for other people and relationships, and I feel like they're ignoring a large part of the point of labels? Like sure, there's shorthand for explaining things to third parties, but often it's really just, how do you want to make people feel? And if you don't want to make people feel seen and affirmed, maybe think about that? (This is about people in one's actual life or like randos online, not like Peter Thiel or something)

I know this is an unpopular opinion and places shouldn't change behavior based on me, but. If I didn't get an interview for a job, I don't want your rejection email. I know I didn't get the job and I have probably forgotten about it. I don't need 30 million emails to tell me I'm still unemployed, I'm very aware thanks. And the subject line is always vague so I feel like I have to read the damn thing.