#tw programming mention

Number names should not be kept purely to systems who have been through OEA. People could have a number of reasons to use them

Not to mention, that makes it easy to target OEA if people are being shitty. Just my opinion tho

- can never fully mentally mature

- were made to mature too young

- know and remember nothing or just snippets

- know and remember everything or most things

- can't currently access therapy for safety or personal reasons

This one needs no explaining

It's the last paragraph, plus the "resetting" the system part (PROGRAMMED SYSTEM TERM)

I also haven't gotten clear answers on how to identify the difference between programing and being heavily conditioned (I mean to the point where you shut down completely and do everything your abuser says heavily conditioned) so if anyone wants to have that conversation feel free to say something and we'll dm you

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I cannot help, as I'm not a programmed system and know nothing about them tbh, but I shall post this in hopes you manage to find someone who can help ^^

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This exact fucking attitude is what pushed me away from calling myself asexual. This exact attitude is why I dropped the asexual label for YEARS.

I want to project MY AroAce experience onto characters. If projecting MY AroAce experience onto an AroAce character makes me Aphobic because I'm not sex and romance averse is BAD, then maybe YOU'RE the Aphobic one.

I survived severe trauma. I have certain programming (RAMCOA) that makes me latch onto people. I have BPD, which causes me to be hyperromantic and hypersexual, and I feel NO sexual attraction and I feel BARELY any romantic attraction at all.

But because I'm hyperrose due to trauma and I clearly like romance and sex, that COMPLETELY wipes out my AroAce identity. It doesn't matter that I've only ever felt romantic attraction twice in my whole life towards my partner systems, it doesn't matter that I don't feel sexual attraction, I'm not AroAce enough to you, even though (as you've stated), being AroAce is a fucking SPECTRUM.

Me wanting fanfiction or art that is remotely similar to MY AroAce experience is BAD to you people because how DARE I not be sex averse or romance averse. And completely ignore the fact that sex and romance averse people can ALSO have sex and a romantic relationship.

Maybe YOU'RE the one spreading Aphobic rhetoric.

AroAce people DON'T have to justify their likes in fiction to you. We should be allowed to have something that shows how complex our identities are. We should be able to tell our stories and our experiences.

And furthermore, as someone who IS dating a fictive of Alastor (who helps run this blog), I think I SHOULD BE allowed to read fanfic that involves Alastor. Because guess what, FICTIVES CAN BE SOURCE DIVERGENT.

The fact you fucks can't even THINK of the potential fictives that split from anything that may not have the same sexuality as their canon counterpart is creepy and ableist. I'm sorry, not everyone is going to fit in your little box. Fuck your boxes. I'm AroAce enough.

THIS POST IS ABOUT AROACES, NOT ALL ASPEC IDENTITIES, PLEASE DO NOT DERAIL!

at the time we just silently blocked and didn't say shit about them (because (A) again, found out just days earlier, and (B) this was the same timeframe as the snowchester bull that happened), but. holy fuck man.