A poet can describe love. But some love the idea of it more than the work it requires and lack the emotional spine to sustain it.
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A poet can describe love. But some love the idea of it more than the work it requires and lack the emotional spine to sustain it.

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Childhood trauma can follow people into adulthood in ways they often blame on their personality.
Many adults are still living with patterns that started in environments where they had to adapt to feel safe. They may feel reactive. Guarded. Anxious. Avoidant. Exhausted. And they may not realize those responses once made sense.
Nadia Adessi made this guide to help you understand how childhood trauma can affect you across a lifetime, and how to begin making sense of the patterns you were never properly taught to understandā¤ļø
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Life Is Strange, Beauty Standards, and the Illusion of Control
Iāve realized something about myself lately: I keep using Life is Strange as a lens to talk about real life. Not because Iām obsessed with the game (though I am), but because narrative games have a way of accidentally revealing the cultural waters weāre all swimming in. And this morning, something clicked for me, something I hadnāt consciously noticed before.
The character models in Life is Strange reflect the body image trends of the era they were created in.
Yes. Body trends. Because beauty standards arenāt timeless truths; theyāre trends that shift every decade, dictated by industries that profit from our insecurities. And when Life is Strange was being developed, the dominant trend for girls and women was still thinness, the lingering shadow of the early 2000s.
Iām not even accounting for the exact release date. Iām talking about the cultural climate that shaped the design choices. Moving into the midā2010s, society was just beginning to accept more diverse body shapes for women. Men werenāt getting that same treatment, and honestly, Iām focusing on girls because the fashion, beauty, and wellness industries have always targeted and exploited girls more aggressively.
If you need proof, look at the cultural artifacts of the time:
Americaās Next Top Model debuted in 2003, teaching girls that thinness was the price of worth.
The Biggest Loser turned weight loss into a televised spectacle, harming contestants for entertainment. Some nearly died. And the fitness/wellness industry hasnāt magically healed since then; itās still toxic at its core.
Now, with social media, itās even more dangerous.
Bodyābased content performs well.
Fitness and wellness content performs even better.
And anything tied to money or āselfāimprovementā performs best of all.
So people create content not to help, but to gain influence, because influence equals income, and income equals autonomy. Some creators speak with authority, eloquence, and confidence, but theyāre pushing misinformation because itās profitable. Theyāre building cultālike followings under the guise of āhelping people,ā when really, theyāre chasing power.
Not everyone is like that. I learned math on the YouTube platform and tested out of multiple classes because of it. But the creators who genuinely help rarely have a million followers or highāretention editing. Theyāre not optimizing their humanity for the algorithm.
And this is why trends are dangerous:
Theyāre not organic.
Theyāre engineered.
How Life Is Strange Reflects These Trends
Look at the girls in the first Life is Strange:
Max, Chloe, Victoria, Rachel, Brooke ā all thin.
All designed within the same narrow body ideal.
Alyssa is the only girl with a larger body mass, and sheās the one constantly bullied. Max spends half the game rewinding time to save her from humiliation or harm. Daniel, one of the few boys who doesnāt fit the āideal,ā is physically assaulted by football players in the hallway. Letās call it what it is: assault. With video evidence, those boys would face charges.
But schools rarely protect kids. They protect reputations. They protect parents with influence. And parents who encourage their sons to āwhoop someoneās assā rarely consider the reality: if that same son accidentally kills someone, thatās manslaughter. Violence has consequences. Always.
The body designs in LIS1 werenāt neutral. They were a reflection of the beauty standards of the time: thinness as the default and as the ideal.
But look at the newer games:
True Colors. Double Exposure. Reunion.Ā Ā
The characters have actual bodily distinctions. They look healthier, more realistic, more human. The shift is intentional. It mirrors the cultural shift toward body diversity, a shift that took far too long.
Iāve met so many adult women who used to look like Max or Chloe. Thin because of stress, pressure, or survival. And as their lives improved, as they found stability, love, better jobs, more meaningful days, they naturally got thicker. They look healthier. They look happier. Because they are.
Beauty Is Subjective ā And Always Has Been
People act like thereās one universal ideal, but thatās projection. Attraction is personal. Some people love tall women, thick women, muscular women, feminine women, masc women. Some people fall for personality first. Some fall for how someone carries themselves.
Iāve always been drawn to thicker women, but Iāve also been fascinated by tall women and muscular women. Ultimately, Iām someone who falls for personality and conversation. And compatibility matters. Gymāfocused women spend hours at the gym, and thatās not my lifestyle. I like walking and mobility exercises that are 30āminute sessions at home, and the rest of the day, I try to remain active in different ways. My life is built around solitude, creativity, and work that requires long stretches of being alone.
Streaming, gaming, and writing are solo pursuits. Even when people are in the room with me, Iām still in my own world. Iāve had friends watch me play horror games, screaming and clinging to me during Resident Evil 7. Itās fun, but itās still my space.
The Real Point: Mental Sovereignty
I know Iāve wandered across topics, but hereās the truth I keep circling:
There is more to life than body image, beauty standards, fashion trends, and insecurity.
At some point, none of it matters.
The tighter you cling to societyās script, the more limited your life becomes.
And āliving lifeā is subjective, too. Everyone wants something different.
But trends are manāmade.
Trends are tools of control.
Trends are designed to make you feel bad about yourself so someone else can profit.
When you realize that, you gain something priceless:
mental sovereignty.
And some people donāt want you to have that.
Because the moment you do, youāre no longer controllable.
Take that as you will.
ANIMAL: A Case Study in Neglect Trauma
I recently watched the film Animal, and I donāt think Iāve ever cringed this much in the space of a few hours. It was the incessant violence (well, the treatment of women is horrible too). I still watched it though, because underneath all the blood and guts (spoiler alert), was an even more ubiquitous and compelling thread of severe trauma. In particular, Ranbir Kapoorās character, Ranvijayā¦
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Depth expands you. Obsession collapses you.
Having depth isnāt proven through someoneās intensity, itās proven through self-awareness, responsibility, and how gently you hold others while holding yourself. Some people donāt love deeply. They cling deeply, and that is not the same. True depth is grounded. If it isnāt grounded, it isnāt depth, itās dysregulation.

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Childhood trauma can follow people into adulthood in ways they often blame on their personality.
Many adults are still living with patterns that started in environments where they had to adapt to feel safe. They may feel reactive. Guarded. Anxious. Avoidant. Exhausted. And they may not realize those responses once made sense.
Nadia Addesi made this guide to help you understand how childhood trauma can affect you across a lifetime, and how to begin making sense of the patterns you were never properly taught to understandā¤ļø
I'm sharing this because this information is very insightful and helpful in better understanding of how trauma, especially in childhood, forms a person and follows it into adulthood.
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From Patterns to Freedom
I snapped recently. I was exhausted from holding space for a ton of people. I then immersed myself in something that was heavy. I played my role perfectly: the encouraging coach. Then, it hit me. I wasnāt just coaching. I was rescuing, caretaking, and inadvertently, I was enabling. I was feeding a pattern because of my pattern of pleasing and saving. I was working harder than the client, and asā¦
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5 Ways Parents Create Emotional Baggage for Children
We recently started a new video series called Baggage Claim, focused on shared baggage in relationships. In this post, I will focus on the very beginning ā the baggage we receive from our parents or whoever raises us. Trigger warning: this is a tough topic, so be aware of your triggers, and give yourself time and space to process this content. When we are born, we enter a system ā oftenā¦
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