#system userboxes

#OHHHH THIS IS WHAT AMMIE WAS #man i wish she were around to see this

these tags were left under our house host term by @crys-ambivalenttowardrbs . it hit us hard. it made us happy to know that we'd been able to give a recognized name to something others experience, especially when the person in our own system, who coined it for themselves, struggled for so long to define their role in words.

"man, I wish she were around to see this."

we've echoed that sentiment so many times, about so many we've lost; it makes us emotional reading it over trying to write this. they would have loved this, if only they could see it. it's even harder now, because we lost the person who coined that role, split up into multiple for a lot of different reasons. though we love the newcomers dearly, there's still that sense of loss for the person they were.

everyone focuses so much on how, in the typical way, headmates can't die, so they skim past the fact that you can still lose them because it's 'not the same'. we've always hated that. loss is loss, no matter what way. sometimes you can get them back. sometimes you can't. it doesn't change the fact that it hurts when they're gone.

we wanted a way to let others know they're not alone in grieving. a way for those left to show that the ones they lost weren't just forgotten, they're memorialized, whatever that means to them. a way to commemorate the alters that didn't make it through to the other side.

this post is dedicated to ammie. it's dedicated to those in our partner system that we never got the privilege to meet before their collapse. it's dedicated to all the members of our system we've lost over the years, and to those we never got to meet properly before they slipped away. it's dedicated to every single part, alter, headmate, fragment, that every plural has lost in their journey.

we understand that holding on is hard. we know. but your system will love and cherish you, and what you did for them, long after you're gone.

already coined? consider this an alternate term/flag! <3

[USERBOX PT: the first userbox says "this alter's role is being a carnivore."

the second userbox says "this headmate's role is being a carnivore."

the third userbox says "this part's role is being a carnivore."

the fourth and final userbox says "this user's role is being a carnivore." /End USERBOX PT]

[FLAG PT: the first flag is from the alter template created by k9coded (deactivated tumblr account). there is a rhombus in the center of the flag with lines stretching out from each side to the edge of the flag. then there are fourth individual sections separated by the center rhombus. in the first section on the top left is a medium dark red, lighter than crimson but not by much. the second section on the top right is a lighter red. the third section on the bottom left is a dark, crimson red. the fourth section on the bottom right is a red similar to the petals on a rose, a deep red but not dark in tone. the rhombus in the middle is split into two sections, the left being a beige color and the right being a cream color.

the second flag looks exactly as the one described above, except a symbol of fangs being in the center of the rhombus. it is colored black. /End FLAG PT]

[DESCRIPTION PT: "carnivore: an alter who is ready to lash out at a moment's notice for any perceived slight, similar to an avenger but considerably more short-tempered. they are under the "harmful" umbrella of alter roles." /End DESCRIPTION PT]