#self-perception

She was strawberry jam. Bright. Messy. Too sweet to hold for long.

The kind of girl who laughed before she meant it, who posed before the camera was even on. She left glitter on the stairs, perfume on your collar, bite marks on your memory.

People called her dramatic. Too much. But really—she was too often ignored. And jam doesn’t scream. It just spills over.

Petunia Milward never tiptoed. She entered rooms like a sparkler in July, hiding her hope in lip gloss and sequins, asking the world—am I pretty now?

She flirted like a dare. She cried like a secret. She wore heartbreak like eyeliner: sharp, shimmering, and easily smudged.

She learned that sweetness got attention. So she poured it. Too much sugar. Too many jokes. Too many selfies. And still—it wasn’t enough.

He didn’t post her. He didn’t show up. He didn’t say sorry.

But she still wore pink. Still bought the glittery notebook. Still called her sisters on nights she wouldn’t admit were hard. Still tried.

Because jam doesn’t stop being sweet just because someone refused to taste it kindly.

She wasn’t ruined. She was real. And one day— she’ll spread her joy over mornings that deserve her. She’ll find someone who brings toast that isn’t burnt. Someone who stays.

Self-image quotes Self-Belief and Confidence 1. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt 2. “You have to believe in yourself when no one else does. That’s what makes you a winner.” – Venus Williams 3. “You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – A.A. Milne 4. “Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see…

Guess what sweetheart!!!!!!!! I finally figured out where the emoji button is on here😁😁😁. You people shall not rest😎 Anywhooo…this morning on my usual routine of trying to get out of bed🙄 I stumbled upon someone saying how much they had struggled to exit Kenya through the Visa application thingy and that they finally did and they are now happily living in the States. I think🤔 what drove me to…

A beautiful reminder to start the day. Put down all that stuff that is outside of your control. All that stuff that doesn’t have anything to do with you directly. Sometimes, it may be confusing to determine what those things actually are, especially if we have been forced to take care of things for others that we should have never had to take care of. This takes practice and conscious effort, but these are the skills needed to ensure you are living your life for you.

heavy and complex question. it’s hard to give any definite statements even based on their interviews over the years. like say with taehyung, his thoughts on weight shifted but we don’t know how he feels about it nowadays. or take yoongi’s feeling for his looks, it transforms very often. 

given that they’re idols following concepts, schedules, get styled with designer couture, wear heaps of makeup, get photoshopped and even CGI’d so heavily, those are dimensions of influenced self-perception we can’t possibly wrap our minds around. 

seeing yourself distorted on screen plus getting outside feedback on that can toss your thoughts around to high degrees. even with working out, the stylists have a say in it. the feeling for their body fluctuates each portion of the day and they see the more extreme ends of it. as it is treated: an idol’s body is not their business, their body IS business.

the sensitivity is extremely alert and they have to think about how we see them 24/7, but through their mindset which is a dangerous thing, especially for idols with controlling companies or vigilant parents. add the unspoken competition between idols’ looks that emerges when one’s esteem is already unstable or under attack. you have so many factors going on, it’s hard to fathom.

on the one hand you get this:

and then, 180°: