The Healing Mindset

Betrayal trauma is nothing nice. The entire time, you wanted to convince yourself that something other than what actually was happening was being shown to you. Looking back on it, you realize that not only were you betrayed by them, you also betrayed yourself.

Deep down, you knew what was happening. Your body was giving you the signals. Your mind was constantly monitoring something. But you brushed it off.

You wanted to see the best in the situation. You wanted to give the benefit of the doubt. They had other motivations...

You look back at yourself and say "what was I thinking..."

I get it.

And I know how little it helps now to say "well at least you'll be more aware next time...". But there is truth in that.

As you look back, you are able to recognize when and where you ignored the sensations. The alarms that your mind and body were sounding while you were in their presence. This isn't to say that you must be on guard 100% of the time, but you will be better at recognizing the patterns in the moment.

When something feels abnormal, you can address it at that point. If the same patterns continue, you can bail out much sooner rather than staying and betraying yourself again.

A spiritual rebirth...

These energies come upon us every so often and it can be painful to live through during the time we are being upgraded.

Leaving environments and people better than you found them. Keeping an eye on your energy to make sure you're doing the best you can and knowing when you need a break. Realizing when it's time to abandon a certain path for something more healthy and embodied.

The things that get taken away from us when it is time to progress in life are sometimes the things that we have come to take solace in. Habits, connections, even physical objects. We NEVER want to let these belongings go because they are familiar to us. We've come to build our identity around their presence in our lives.

However, when it's time for us to "level up", the Universe will forcefully remove that which is keeping us stagnant.

Because we're creatures of habit, we fight. We hold on tightly because we want to keep all of what we currently have as life is attempting to show us that there is more for us to have. Better.

Some of it may require work. Some of it may not. But keeping ourselves stagnant just because we are "comfortable" could eventually become the biggest source of discomfort as time progresses.

If you've been disconnected from your body, becoming more embodied can be somewhat stressful or shocking to your system.

Take it a little bit at a time then practice more consistently.

Catching yourself in these moments can be very difficult but it is worth it. Over time, you begin noticing that you speak to yourself in a much more positive tone.

You begin noticing that your inner narrative changes from one of trying to hurt you or force change to gently working with where you are presently to ensure gradual progress.

Let's face it. Life has put us all through the wringer lately. As soon as we make progress in one area, another area causes us problems. Right before the most positive elevation, we experience an upheaval that causes us to lose focus and to be distracted mentally and emotionally.

Listen to yourself. Listen to what comes from within. That's important.

"...your life is taking off." Get ready. You've been doing to work to seal the past where it belongs. In the past. No longer focusing on what went wrong, why it went wrong, what could have been done differently, etc.

"...your life is taking off." Get ready. You've been doing to work to seal the past where it belongs. In the past. No longer focusing on what went wrong, why it went wrong, what could have been done differently, etc.

Life has a way of convincing us that things need to be overly challenging or hectic for them to be worth it. Or, that you must suffer immensely all the time to feel like progress is being made. This couldn't be further from the truth. If you've chosen a simpler and more laid-back route for yourself that works for you, allow that to be what it is.

Don't allow someone else's insecurities concerning your desired goals, and your path to get there, to cloud your own confidence in your ability to move ahead if your journey happens to look different from what they "think" it should look like.

They don't know your why. They don't know your motivation and your drive. Even if you tried to explain it to them, they wouldn't get it. That's okay.

An undertone that I have picked up on lately is just this. The growth that we are doing is happening in the background and surprises us when we least expect it. We may notice that we're calmer in a situation that used to give us great anxiety. Speaking to people may become easier. You may notice you desire to be more disciplined without forcing yourself.

Betrayal is part of life. It's easy to brush it off. "Oh, I didn't really care that much anyway..."

I get it.

It can be easy to bury the nonsense that they brought into your life through their betrayal. Your mind and body remember, though.

Your brain is always monitoring for you. That feeling of something not being right? Yep, that's your brain working behind the scenes.

If you're with individuals who continue to hurt you through micro-betrayals, do what you need to do to protect yourself. Your brain is taking note and you're entering a level of defense mode whether you realize it or not. You deserve more than to subject yourself to that.

Welcome to August.

You've worked on getting out of your own way. Good job.

Now, growing to your full potential is what you owe it to yourself to do. No holding back.

You've learned the skills needed to maintain your centeredness and clarity of mind. Peace.