The Healing Mindset

We can be surprised by life. We mostly think of all the negative ways in which life will hit us, but what about the positives?

Wishing you all the best in your life's endeavors.

You're not alone whatsoever if you feel like life has been throwing you curveball after curveball. It is understandable if you feel discouraged.

Some abusive behaviors can be very subtle. Almost insidious.

Because they aren't the overtly abusive behaviors that everyone is familiar with, a person may feel as though they can get away with these ways of treating you without any consequences, making the dynamic even more difficult to deal with.

It may take you a few tries, but you can trust and believe in your path. Fully.

You've done work that can and will support you through what is in store for you. No questions asked. The effects of that work are permanent.

You'll notice that you show up differently. You respond differently. You recover in a much more intentional way. That is not a mistake.

Give to you now.

Just you. Don't worry about anyone else. Your big love and your big heart can be taken advantage of very easily, leading to hurt.

Give to you now.

Just you. Don't worry about anyone else. Your big love and your big heart can be taken advantage of very easily, leading to hurt.

Some connections can cause you to abandon yourself. You may feel like the connection is your only chance at having something real.

It isn't.

Any connection that requires you to abandon yourself is one that you do not need to be in.

It may not always be readily apparent, but some relationships cannot be sustained on hope alone.

Both individuals have to have the capacity for the relationship to stay alive.

There will be conflict. Does each person have the capacity to repair?

There will be hard moments. Does each person have the capacity to communicate what is going on? Does each person have the capacity to listen to understand?

This is never any fun. You go into the relationship or connection with the best of intentions only to find that the other person is only bent on controlling the narrative and getting what they want. Ultimately, you do not matter in the connection.

You'll show up correctly, make all the necessary changes and try to adjust as you see fit, but nothing ever lands. Your concerns are steamrolled. Feelings, crushed. Voice, silenced.

How we show up to the relationships in our lives is very imporant. Sometimes, we may not even realize that we are shutting out another person because we may be so absorbed in what we're doing ourselves.

This can only last so long before the other person begins to respond. They may be patient for us for a little while until they begin to react. That is the part that oftentimes catches our attention.

Of course, this can happen in reverse - we can be on the receiving end of this.

Trust. Believe. Have faith.

We have been conditioned to believe that only a certain set of outcomes is possible.

A person's past can and will drown out the relationship they have with themselves. If this is going on, then they will very much struggle to form a close relationship with another individual - especially if that is a romantic relationship.

Feel what's coming up for you. But while you are feeling, make sure you are doing at least one thing to build toward the future.

All of what you're leaving behind is in the past for a reason. The good memories will resurface. They are real, but there is strength in holding both sides. Good times and memories were present, but great harm also came from the particular situation that you found yourself in.