The Healing Mindset

We never really realize just how much we hold ourselves back by the obstacles that are within us. Once we discover these, uncover the roots, and rid ourselves of them, we can get the rewards that we set out for.

It's daunting. It may not be pleasant, but it may be necessary to get what you truly desire in life.

It is much easier said than done, but if you find yourself in a dysfunctional relationship, pattern, or environment, do not get attached. Do not feel as if you can "fix" this situation. Oftentimes, the problems at play in situations like these run much deeper than you can ever be responsible for. You will drain and hurt yourself by continuing to try to heal the sickness that is at play in these situations.

Keep going.

Allow yourself to become accustomed to the space that has opened up for you. You don't necessarily have to fill it again, but this time, you can choose to fill it with good things.

Don't get in your own way! We can get so accustomed to things going bad for us in some way or another that we begin dreaming up all of the potential possibilities and subconsciously moving ourselves toward one or two of them. When you're grounded, you can be aware of what may or may not happen and keep yourself locked in toward your goals.

Don't keep yourself stuck in that negative cycle. It is not worth it whatsoever.

Sometimes, the most unexpected miracles and blessings will appear in your life. It's possible that these gifts are as a result of something you did for yourself months or years prior. Or, they could just be because you've put yourself on a good path and manifested them. Whatever the cause, give thanks and continue on that path. You're doing great.

This is what sets you apart. Therefore, when you are in a place where you are getting treated in a way that is less than what you deserve, you know that you can abandon that situation and go somewhere where you can and will be appreciated, even if that just means being on your own for a while.

The effects of this can be delayed for weeks if not months. Down the road, you will see the fruits of your labor. Rewards coming your way that you won't immediately remember doing the work to receive. Know that you did it, though, and that you have what it takes to continue to capitalize on what you have built.

Make moves. Yes, you want to know where you're going and you want every detail ironed out, but it's okay to just move this time. Trust yourself to be able to make it up as you go along. This has a negative connotation sometimes, but you are dynamic enough to make this work. You can depend on yourself.

A person who is codependent won't recognize their unhealthy patterns. However, they will quickly point out the issues they have when you are not able to provide them with the supply that they need and when you set boundaries with them. You know that the boundaries that you set are healthy and reasonable, but you can't get that accross to them.

You explained it correctly. You were clear enough the first time. They are intentionally misunderstanding you to mess with your head. Do not keep going back.

You're able to return to a healthy and stable baseline. You don't have to worry about how long things will take to get back to normal. Even when things are not normal, you are capable of stabilizing and making the space for peace when you know you need it. Trust in yourself. You're doing a great job.

Despite this, pay attention to your body when times are "good". Notice that you still feel somewhat disconnected from the other person. Over time, you will begin to disconnect from yourself. You lose yourself in this toxic pattern until you find yourself angry at them more than you ever thought you would be, which they will continue to use against you the more you lash out. Outside of that, this dynamic is incredibly unsafe and unhealthy for you.