#require()

All of the best things in life require a degree of embarrassment, or at least the possibility of it. Dancing, singing, sharing art, cooking food, having sex, holding hands; there is risk in it all. You could burn dinner or sing off key; no act of self expression or love is exempt from this danger.

Belonging is a practice that requires us to be vulnerable, get uncomfortable, and learn how to be present with people without sacrificing who we are.

my closet cosplay of me as one really big sunflower seed

Exploration is how you discover what works. Persistence is how you make the most of what already works. What does your situation require? More exploration or more persistence?

A woman has to be intelligent, have charm, a sense of humor, and be kind. It’s the same qualities I require from a man.