#situation

So I’ve been talking to this boy for a couple of months and it has been going fine.We rarely see each other because he works longs hours and I have a quite busy life,but to make up for this we call frequently Im I’m talking all night all day until he goes to work.During these calls he would make little sexual comments that would make me uncomfortable,as someone who isn’t a very affectionate person and also because we just started to really get to know each other so to me it seemed very lustful .I brought this issue to him as I really liked him and what we had going on and he apologized and I believed we could move past it but he started to make these jokes again .Now this wasn’t the deal breaker for me I moved past it because some people are just really flirty I guess .The thing that threw me off was that he started acting very controlling and insecure ,making comments like “I’ll let you be otp wit who you otp with” when I would be to busy to call him almost as if I had no life outside of him.I started to feel very trapped and felt as if I had to invalidate my feelings to satisfy his. We would have very good times but he would frequently start very small and petty arguments about things ranging from where I am to who I follow to when I get up. I just feel very drained and emotionally tired I wonder since this is just the talking stage how would a relationship be. He has talked about past relationships and how they have caused him to be insecure but why is that being pushed onto me? when I have done nothing to negatively affect our relationship. Should I break it off?or stick it out and see if this is something we can resolve.

Ps: I am 17 and this is the closest I’ve come to a serious relationship as I usually prefer my solitude and peace

Ps: please hold any negative comments this is my first time using this app and truly would just like advice🩷

Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (100% confidence)

Top comment: “NOR He is trying to manipulate your emotions, and that’s a very bad sign for the future. You deserve better girl”

Notable comment: “NOR. Break it off. Feeling uncomfortable and trapped never leads to a good relationship. He's got some red flags, including doing something you already asked him not to do. With these sorts of people, the good times are never worth it. Your feelings are telling you something real. He ain't it.

When I was around your age, sometimes my mom had to remind me that I could break up with somebody just because I wanted to. I didn't have to have a "good reason" and it wasn't my responsibility to tend to someone else's insecurities. I didn't owe someone anything beyond basic human respect.

And these were guys that weren't even as toxic as yours is acting. Now, I know he's young. This guy has some serious growth to do. He might turn out to be a decent guy later on, but right now, he needs to learn what's appropriate. You don't have to stick around and attempt to teach him. That will hurt you.

Protect your peace. Wishing you the best!”

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