#reflectionpractice

To use reflection practice in a healthy way, there has to be a moment where you offer yourself total unconditional love and forgiveness, it’s hard but without that moment where you truly love yourself through the guilt, you will increase your anxiety. J. Milburn What are the benefits of engaging in regular reflection practice? - Change your inner dialogue - Develop tools that encourage emotional intelligence - Begin to heal your inner child - Gain a greater understanding of your own perceptions, based on your life experiences. - Develop a deeper understanding of your child’s perception. - Deepen your child-centred perception of your child(ren) - Learn how to engage in reflection practice without over-analyzing or guilting yourself into change. - Feel more confident in your parenting choices - Learn how to give yourself and your children grace Join me on a year of Reflection Practice! Patreon Responsive Parenting Community Members get access to the weekly reflections and insights, as well as bi-monthly Real Parenting Moment Reflections. You also get access to all the workshop sessions and resource packages through the VIP membership, which is only 10$’s a month… for EVERYTHING 😱 Learn how to use reflection to process all the complex, confusing, frustrating and overwhelming moments in your parenting journey. Reconnect with your inner child so you can better understand and connect with your child ❤️ Link in bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #reflectionpractice #reflection #parentingjourney #healingjourney #patreoncreator #patreon #innerchildhealing #attachment https://www.instagram.com/p/CTVravcnIhD/?utm_medium=tumblr

This is a post from a few months ago… and it seems that it needs to make a reappearance❤️ This is a vulnerable post that I questioned posting…. My mind is already swirling with all the possible negative feedback I could receive but I NEED parents to know “you are not alone ❤️” I don’t find this easy most days and my mental health impacts my ability to parent and parenting impacts my mental health 🤷‍♀️ There are very few answers for how to actually reduce all these external factors so I focus on giving myself grace ❤️ 5 Ways My Mental Health Impacts My Parenting At Times 1. Lowers my emotional capacity = struggle with emotional regulation 2. Increases my stress and anxiety = Causing me to hyper-focus on anxious thoughts about my kids 3. Reduces my ability to stay organized = this impacts every aspect of our lives from housework to homework. 4. Impacts my social abilities = very difficult to make mom friends and go to social events. 5. Triggers = non-stop triggers coming at me all day long that I can’t escape from or scream at to go away. 5 Ways Parenting Impacts My Mental Health 1. So much guilt…. Being responsible for 3 lives. 2. Lack of adequate rest and sleep. 3. Self-care and personal down time is significantly reduced. 4. Having so much to organize and stay on top of is stressful. 5. Worrying about my children is a next level of anxiety. How has your mental health impacted your parenting? How has parenting impacted your mental health? @responsive_parenting Read more about the tools I use to support my mental health, while parenting, in my latest e-book 👇 
Finding Your Calm: A Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation Link in bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #reflectionpractice #survivalmode #parentmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealth #postpartummentalhealth #trust #oktomakemistakes #safeplace #mistakeshappen #unconditionallove #attachment #healingjourney #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #mentalhealthawareness #parenthood #motherhood #parentlife #ptsd #mentalhealthmatters #dadlife #selfcare #suicideprevention #mentalhealthrecovery #selflove #emotions #calming #coregulate https://www.instagram.com/p/CZm-NrGlxz3/?utm_medium=tumblr

Can a self sustaining utopia exist? We visited a site that seemed to have experimented with that claim. It was now in ruins. But it was also claimed a place that was prepared for the arrival of 3rd Reich. Whatever the story, the beauty of nature was mesmerizing because for some reason very few people set foot in this remote place. #fridayvibes #reflectionday #reflectionpractice https://www.instagram.com/p/CZUckZ1FGp3/?utm_medium=tumblr

Did you know…. “Trying to be a “perfect” parent is actually linked to anxious insecure attachment quality…. So “Good Enough” is actually better than “Perfect” from an attachment perspective .” J. Milburn What does that mean? It means that balance and grace aren’t just bonuses you try to give yourself, they are mandatory and necessary with Responsive Parenting. Really, it’s about being responsive to yourself, as well as your children. It really is necessary. If you are feeling overwhelmed with your role as a parent, most minutes of most days, you may be trying too hard. Sitting down and reflecting on what aspects you can give yourself more grace in, can actually help you to meet the needs you do think are most important, more effectively. Every parent who I mentor is trying 10 x harder than I ever do at this parenting thing. Many of you are trying to follow every recommendation you find, and so many contradict each other. A parent who is constantly doubting themselves may not be providing that secure base a child needs. Consistency can look very different for every home. As an example, we don’t believe in fighting about bed time so our children mostly go to bed when they want to. People contact me wanting me to tell them how to get their child to WANT to go to bed by 7:30. It’s hard to have it both ways. Often you have to choose one or the other. We choose no battle and late bedtime… maybe you choose battle and earlier bedtime… see it can look very different from home to home. Reference: Attachment and Development by Susan Goldberg (2000) @responsive_parenting As a way to support Parent Mental Health Awareness, I am permanently reducing the price of our 2 Reflection Practice tools in order to make them more accessible to more people. 52 Weeks of Reflection Practice Guided Journal was 15$ now only 10$ Guide to Survival Mode Plans was 10$ now is only 5$ Go to the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #reflectionpractice #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #attachmenttheory #secureattachment #insecureattachment #attachmentstyles #attachment #goodenoughparenting #goodenoughmother #motherwound #innerchild #innerchildhealing #iamenough #parenthood #motherhood https://www.instagram.com/responsive_parenting/p/CYKgRggrpRJ/?utm_medium=tumblr

“Our inner voice can be a powerful guiding force in our lives. This voice develops in childhood. Depending on a variety of factors, our inner voice can be a source of strength or a burden, at any given time. Practicing things like gratitude and positive affirmations can retrain your brain to have a growth mindset, instead of a mindset focused on deficits.” J. Milburn This is from week 2 of our 52 Weeks of Reflection Practice for Responsive Parents Guided Journal. We are reflecting on our inner voice. What are the messages that play on repeat in our brains? Where did they come from and how do they impact our parenting journey? Purchase the 10$ PDF download and join the FB group, starting Jan 3rd. #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #reflectionpractice #reflection #parentingjourney #healingjourney #innerchildhealing #attachment #innervoice #selfworth #iamworthyoflove #parentingishard #lovingyourselfishardsometimes #unconditionalselflove #affirmation #motivational #keepgoing #parenthood #child #change #journaling #selflove #reflections #motherhood #childhoodmemories #parentlife #children #dadlife #selfcare #memories https://www.instagram.com/p/CYKDIlMrCA9/?utm_medium=tumblr

This is a vulnerable post that I questioned posting…. My mind is already swirling with all the possible negative feedback I could receive but I NEED parents to know “you are not alone ❤️” I don’t find this easy most days and my mental health impacts my ability to parent and parenting impacts my mental health 🤷‍♀️ There are very few answers for how to actually reduce all these external factors so I focus on giving myself grace ❤️ 5 Ways My Mental Health Impacts My Parenting At Times 1. Lowers my emotional capacity = struggle with emotional regulation 2. Increases my stress and anxiety = Causing me to hyper-focus on anxious thoughts about my kids 3. Reduces my ability to stay organized = this impacts every aspect of our lives from housework to homework. 4. Impacts my social abilities = very difficult to make mom friends and go to social events. 5. Triggers = non-stop triggers coming at me all day long that I can’t escape from or scream at to go away. 5 Ways Parenting Impacts My Mental Health 1. So much guilt…. Being responsible for 3 lives. 2. Lack of adequate rest and sleep. 3. Self-care and personal down time is significantly reduced. 4. Having so much to organize and stay on top of is stressful. 5. Worrying about my children is a next level of anxiety. How has your mental health impacted your parenting? How has parenting impacted your mental health? @responsive_parenting As a way to support this healing journey and Parent Mental Health Awareness, I am permanently reducing the price of our 2 Reflection Practice tools in order to make them more accessible to more people. 52 Weeks of Reflection Practice Guided Journal was 15$ now only 10$ 👇 https://responsiveparentinginspirations.com/products/52-weeks-of-reflection-practice-for-responsive-parents Guide to Survival Mode Plans was 10$ now is only 5$ 👇 https://responsiveparentinginspirations.com/products/a-guide-to-survival-mode-plans #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #reflectionpractice #survivalmode #parentmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealth #postpartummentalhealth #trust #oktomakemistakes #safeplace #mistakeshappen #unconditionallove #attachment #healingjourney #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork https://www.instagram.com/p/CYEhc24rG5r/?utm_medium=tumblr

To use reflection practice in a healthy way, there has to be a moment where you offer yourself total unconditional love and forgiveness, it’s hard but without that moment where you truly love yourself through the guilt, you will increase your anxiety. J. Milburn What are the benefits of engaging in regular reflection practice? - Change your inner dialogue - Develop tools that encourage emotional intelligence - Begin to heal your inner child - Gain a greater understanding of your own perceptions, based on your life experiences. - Develop a deeper understanding of your child’s perception. - Deepen your child-centred perception of your child(ren) - Learn how to engage in reflection practice without over-analyzing or guilting yourself into change. - Feel more confident in your parenting choices - Learn how to give yourself and your children grace Join me on a year of Reflection Practice! Learn how to use reflection to process all the complex, confusing, frustrating and overwhelming moments in your parenting journey. Reconnect with your inner child so you can better understand and connect with your child ❤️ Get the 52 Weeks of Reflection Practice Guided Journal through the Link in my bio @responsive_parenting Join the FB group with your order# #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #reflectionpractice #reflection #parentingjourney #healingjourney #innerchildhealing #attachment #innerchild #innerchildwork #healinggenerationalwounds #newyear #innerchildhealing #childhood #reflections #parenthood #motherhood #parents #parentlife #dadlife #fatherhood #awareness #knowledge #selfawareness #selflove #selfreflection #alwayslearning #grow #selfcompassion #memories https://www.instagram.com/p/CYB8Ex-ryrx/?utm_medium=tumblr

Children need a safe place When you were a child and you made a mistake, did you try to hide it from your parent(s) or did you go to them for comfort, support and guidance? If you did go to them for support, comfort and guidance, what did they do to let you know they were a safe place? If you often did feel the need to hide your mistakes, why do you think that is? What could your parents have done to make you feel like they were a safe place for support, comfort and guidance? This is an example of Reflection Practice. We do 52 weeks of this in The 52 Weeks of Reflection Practice Guided Journal. We go through all the little and big parenting choices we make and learn about how we got to those choices. Why we made them and if we want to make the same decision again or not. As a way to support Parent Mental Health Awareness, I am permanently reducing the price of our 2 Reflection Practice tools in order to make them more accessible to more people. 52 Weeks of Reflection Practice Guided Journal was 15$ now only 10$ Guide to Survival Mode Plans was 10$ now is only 5$ Go to the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #reflectionpractice #survivalmode #parentmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealth #postpartummentalhealth #trust #oktomakemistakes #safeplace #mistakeshappen #unconditionallove #attachment #healingjourney #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #childrens #parenthood #compassion #knowledge #journaling #motherhood #calm #parentlife #mentalhealthawareness #dadlife #toddlerlife #ptsd #mentalhealthmatters #holdingspace https://www.instagram.com/p/CYAODzerKs9/?utm_medium=tumblr