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I can’t do anything right. I’m so stupid/ugly/useless. I suck. No one likes me… If it would break your heart to hear them speak to themselves like this, why is it ok for you to speak like this to yourself? You are their example. Hurt people hurt people… but healed people heal people. What cycle do you want to pass down? Be the example. It starts with you. Show them. #rolemodels #parenting #parentingishard #selflove #selftalk #selfrespect #selfcompassion #parenting101 #blendedfamily #blendedfamilylove #internationallifecoach #healedpeoplehealpeople #internaldialogue #innerwork #innerworld #hurtpeoplehurtpeople #positiveselftalk #selfdevelopment #lifelessons #quotestoliveby #quotestoinspire #loveyourself #loveyou https://www.instagram.com/p/Cm7Uch4IDHz/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

I have a head cold, so I’m miserable and off the charts anxious about another ear infection. . I had to get a kid out of the house early drive an hour and still arrive late because of a required lengthy poop stop. . Oh, and I was taking my kid to his third day of neuro-educational evaluation. . You bet your sweet bippy that when we got a lunch break and I rolled over to @outback I gave my kid my phone and you tube and I watched a movie on my tablet. And I’ve got no shame at all about it. . I needed the break. HE needed the break. . He was so patient waiting 3 hrs for my emergency ent appt. And then a 1.5 hr drive home (thanks beach traffic) that a trip to @target for a reward was in order. . After the stop for milkshakes. . In the span of 9 hrs I did all the things I dislike doing (rewarding behavior with food; buying more crap to clutter my house; ignoring my kid during a meal). . And I’m fairly sure I don’t regret one damn moment. . I hope Friday has some peace and quiet in store for you. . It’s PNO at our local Y - so I’m watching the sunset and ignoring everything. And I needed it. . . . #parentingIsHard #ScreenTime #heAteHalfMyLunchToo (at Outback Steakhouse) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cb05IBFAhes/?utm_medium=tumblr

Porch settin to recharge some batteries. We talk lots about self care for Moms. But it seems about impossible to make time for some relationship care when you have littles. We were lucky enough to have some time away this weekend. . Tbh, it’s the most time I’ve spent with my spouse in six years. Time that we weren’t juggling obligations or trying to cram some quality time into 4 hours. : One of the things we talked about was how we have changed in 6 years; And remembering to really listen to each other. And it was kind of exhausting. And kind of wonderful. . And it really drew into sharp focus how much we delight in our parenthood, but how draining and demanding trying to be a good parent can be. . My biggest struggle still is losing any time alone. So making time to spend w my spouse feels like an imposition. Like I get put last. And I’m trying to reframe my reaction to that. . Any brilliant advice for magically having more time and energy so you don’t feel spread so thinly? . I’ll even take bad ideas. Anyone? . . . #introvertProblems #selfCareForMoms #parentingisHard (at Jekyll Island Club Resort) https://www.instagram.com/p/CbqUesjpZ57/?utm_medium=tumblr

Do you feel prepared for the challenging days? I believe knowing how to operate, within Survival Mode, is one of the most crucial mental health skills that is so often overlooked. Sometimes instead of telling people that their best life is coming, we need to give them tools for making it through THIS day. Survival mode requires a combination of emotional, cognitive and planning skills that can be overwhelming to execute in a moment of panic. When the plan is just to never enter Survival Mode, we set ourselves up for failure. What ends up happening is we don’t plan for Survival Mode and then when we need to enter it, we do so with little thought, in a reactive state. This adds to the panic and uncertainty, often associated with Survival Mode. It also contributes to the guilt and shame we feel around being in Survival Mode because we see it as a failure instead of a necessary part of our mental health. J. Milburn Get the Guide to Survival Mode Plans by clicking on the purse icon in the corner or going to the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentingishard #survivalmode #maternalmentalhealth #postpartumdepression #postpartumanxiety #postpartummentalhealth #parentingsupport #dadmentalhealth #postpartumrage #emotions #feeling #recovery #cptsdrecovery #ptsdrecovery #parentmentalhealth #survivalskills #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #parenthood #selfcare #notbroken #motherhood #dadlife #parents #parentlife #mentalhealthrecovery #selflove https://www.instagram.com/responsive_parenting/p/CYOkF_FLPMo/?utm_medium=tumblr

Give them something TO DO instead of something NOT TO DO... and share the power. Shared power leads to decision making skills vs resistance. #parenting #parentcoach #parentingishard https://www.instagram.com/p/CVNWzIJgx0u/?utm_medium=tumblr

Do you feel prepared for the challenging days? I believe knowing how to operate, within Survival Mode, is one of the most crucial mental health skills that is so often overlooked. Sometimes instead of telling people that their best life is coming, we need to give them tools for making it through THIS day. Survival mode requires a combination of emotional, cognitive and planning skills that can be overwhelming to execute in a moment of panic. When the plan is just to never enter Survival Mode, we set ourselves up for failure. What ends up happening is we don’t plan for Survival Mode and then when we need to enter it, we do so with little thought, in a reactive state. This adds to the panic and uncertainty, often associated with Survival Mode. It also contributes to the guilt and shame we feel around being in Survival Mode because we see it as a failure instead of a necessary part of our mental health. J. Milburn Get the Guide to Survival Mode Plans through the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentingishard #survivalmode #maternalmentalhealth #postpartumdepression #postpartumanxiety #postpartummentalhealth #parentingsupport #dadmentalhealth #postpartumrage https://www.instagram.com/p/CVGlDDjLnyN/?utm_medium=tumblr

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