#ratblood

Before you come at me with guns blazing let me explain my stance here. I believe some gatekeeping in some communities is not just beneficial, but needed. Specifically in mental health spaces, and some identity-specific spaces.

In the DID/OSDD-1/”Plural” community ,Which I am technically a part of, I’m not a singlet but I prefer fuctioning as one singular person, if I can, I see terms like “gatekeeping” and “sysmed” thrown around a lot, and I have very mixed opinions on this. While one may never know if another person is faking for sure, gatekeeping can be beneficial to keep the wrong people out. If you dont have trauma you don’t belong in traumagenic system’s spaces, period fucking dot. Get the fuck out. Nobody cares that you feel excluded, its an exclusive space for a reason, to get away from people who fake, romanticize and otherwise shit all over the disorder. Its also just so people will get to talk to others with same or similar experiences, people they can relate to. 

In trans communities, if its a dysphoric only space, don’t fucking whine and scream transmedicalism just because people want an exclusive space to talk about their fucking experiences, not everybody who disagrees with you is out to get you, and even if some people are hateful, not all are. If people want an exclusive space they can have it. 

Gatekeeping isnt always bad because it 

1.keeps the nasties out

2. lets people have exclusive spaces

I will now commence to say something that sounds mildly transphobic because that’s what I do constantly,, why is everybody suddenly transmasc like why is it cool now I’ve been bullied my whole life for being different and literally cancelled for identifying as lgbt as the past, and now that it’s a “trend” to be any of it makes me really upset honestly. I’m tired of being called rude for genuinely not understanding because a lot of it doesn’t click right in my head. I have a hard time switching up pronouns and names often for people, and those close to me know this.

The issue with now multiple aspects of my idenity being considered on trend now is nobody. fucking. believes. me. anymore. I’m now questioned and ridiculed to no end so somebody can “prove” my validity. My own family doesn’t even believe me, and think it’s alright to be blatantly transphobic when they’re upset with me. 

Tw r slur)

Am I the only one that noticed that the moment people started reclaiming the r slur for disabled and neurodivergent people suddenly everybody is self diagnosing themselves with every mental and physical disorder on planet earth so they can say the slur?? Ableism much?

Deadass just like can yall quit it I mean people specifically on other websites and apps because holy shit yall will go to any lengths for attention including faking serious mental disorders and pretending to be a POC for some clout and attention like seriously you need fucking help. That example was just some of what one person I’ve known who was a literal child has done. Faking shit like anxiety, depression, tourettes, DID, ADHD, ADD, etc is sadly really common online, and it sucks.