#actuallyosdd

i think that most advice from the internet is like... if you have did go to therapy and i bet thats useful if u can have it but if you cant, its so isolationg. especially with an individualistic (every man for himself) culture, people often tell u to just... go to therapy bro. dont bother me about it.

here are fr some tips as someone who has a lot of problems and is not in therapy:

prioritise staying alive. it can never get better once you are dead.

take your time with it. you dont need to post alter intros or have a plural kit. you dont need to have a journal. take time to be comfortable as you can even if the circumstances are very bad

depending on your amount of control and interaction with your system, introduce people who don't have a lot of life experience to new things like food, new colours and textures and places. this especially applies if you have a bunch of alters who only really know the environment of their abuse

build community. its really really really hard but do try. having friends kept me alive. it still keeps me alive.

learn about healthy relationships - we all have internet access. learn about boundaries and triggers and talking to others healthily. a lot of people with did will struggle with healthy relationships even if they make them. learn and do your best to act with it

treat your body like a rental or a pot plant or an animal if needed - even if it doesnt seem like yours, you gotta feed and water and walk it bro. u need the sun. you need enrichment and interaction.

ignore the discourse if youre struggling - it actually doesnt matter and will make you more sick. thinkning about endo vs trauma or like.... idk... labels discourse can be a major stressor that can lead to warping your sustem presentation or repressing and harming bits that arent conforming well

engage in things that are irl like building mini legos or clay - it can help make outside a better environment and shit, aklso can help ground.

find your own triggers and talk about it with ur system. write notes or yap.

find joy in being alive and being a system. despite what reddit or youtube or whatever will tell you, as things improve they will get better. and u should look for joy and funnies when you can

dont give up

LISTEN TO YOUR SYSTEM. THEY'RE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO BE RIGHT. THEY LIKELY ARE ASSHOLES OR INSANE JUST LIKE YOU. BUT YOU LIVE TOGETHER.

healing is easier as a team.

Knight

a protector in a system who feels as if their role is comparable to that of a knight in any way. they could feel responsible for protecting a "royal" figure, a city, their people, etc.

Sword (or Swordknight) (left)

a knight who is primarily offensive or active in their role as a protector; the blade that wards off incoming harm from the system.

Shield (or Shieldknight) (center)

a knight who is primarily defensive or passive in their role as a protector; the shield that blocks the system from incoming harm.

Dark Knight (right)

a knight who aligns more with the image of a "dark knight" than a traditional knight. this may be a knight in dark armor, or any other personal interpretations.

the idea that all parts need names to be considered "fully elaborate parts" is a dated one, and one that I frequently see individuals much earlier on in their recovery perpetuating.

if your parts have their own names, that's great. if you named your parts and your parts are comfortable with that, that's also great. plenty of people, however, do not have parts with names, or only some of their parts have names. this does not have to do with whether or not that part is "elaborated enough" to be a part -- a name does not make up an entire identity, it is only one facet of an identity.

most importantly: blog avatar is by bekoyashi on instagram

chimera is a bot/app built for systems! it started as a "i wonder if i can do that?" project, and it is slowly inching towards being a real usable thing of its own. feel free to send asks if you have questions or comments or something :) click here for how we tag

also, this is a solo* developer project!

here are some chimera features that we're proud of! - member variants (easily save + swap avatars!) - front shelves (identify main fronters separately) - subsystem support (post is a wip) - proxies (custom statuses, blurry fronts, anons, flexibility)

we have an unrealistic goal to get a closed-beta build of the website done by june (when SP goes down)... wish us luck lmao