#transmed

I fear you guys just don’t get the life experience of being a trans man (who used to be perceived as a woman and still is by some people) who likes only women. I am never going to be a cisgender man and I don’t want to be. I am a man in most social scenarios but in romantic ones I am a butch. Living in our heteronormative society, being on T but with no surgeries, I feel more aligned with the butch romantic experience than cisgender men.

Women who are attracted to me still like female bodies. I haven’t had any surgeries and I don’t want them. I’m simply on T, which means I am seen as a man by society…with all my clothes on. I’m a man with a female body. Both of these things exist at the same time, it’s just part of my lived reality. This means I’m seen as a man to broader society, which is my goal, but I still have a female body which effects how I navigate the world. This includes in healthcare/reproductive rights and also sexually.

I’ve seen the claim a few separate times now, and each time the only support that this claim has behind it is the “logic” that:

1. Truscum were a group of trans people with bad ideology

2. Truscum were almost entirely trans men (citation needed, even though I’m just going to take it as true for the rest of the post)

Who else (to the people making this comparison) are a group of almost entirely trans men with bad ideology? Transandrobros!

Which is… an interesting way to try to make a connection. Because if we look at what the ideology actually is, the fact that it’s just “bad” ideology, or ideology a particular person doesn’t agree with doesn’t exactly marry these two concepts together.

If anything, the people arguing against the idea of transandrophobia employ more of the tactics and follow more of the ideology traced out by truscum.

Truscum ideology was about defining who is trans by way of, basically, if they’re trying hard enough to become a stealthing trans person. If you weren’t trying to pass as a cis looking person of the opposite binary gender as to what you were assigned, then you weren’t really trans by this ideology. Nonbinary? By truscum ideology, that’s just a fake identity made up by cis people who want to feel special.

Where, exactly, does this mesh at all with what people are taking about when we talk about transandrophobia?

In my experience, as a nonbinary transmasc, who in arguing about transandrophobia existing has used my own experiences as counterpoints and counterexamples to people’s assertion that there’s male privilege given to all trans people who were AFAB…

I’ve been called a theyfab (a slur popularized by truscum)

I’ve been called a trender (truscum term)

I’ve been told I’m obviously not trying hard enough to pass (the definition of truscum ideology)

I’ve had my name mocked for being ambiguous instead of masculine (seeing the trend here yet?)