#overcominghate

Love and hate are two prime emotions that humans feel. How do we go beyond love and hate? Let's start with the fundamentals.

According to our ancient scriptures, all that exists in the nothingness of our universe is Brahman. Science explains the same in the Law of Conservation of Energy ¾ all that exists is energy. Furthermore, the nothingness of the universe does not mean emptiness. It means that matter and consciousness are temporary; they appear and disappear into the absoluteness or the totality of this nothingness.

But what is absoluteness?

Absoluteness in totality is the raw, pure energy that provides the ability and the capacity to do work. So, in the ultimate reality, all that exists is energy, which is indivisible, something that we can neither create nor destroy but transforms into a subset or other forms of energies, which are interchangeable with each other.

Energy vibrates on different frequencies condensing and splitting into waves and particles. Spiritually during ancient days, it was said all that exists is Brahman. That which is the Creator as well as the creation. The Creator is that which possesses the supreme ability (Parabrahman) and retains its nondual characteristic, whereas all other abilities prescribe duality to the subset energies. Like we are a composite unit of three forms of energies in body, mind, and soul

Although energy remains united in its continuity as one and not two, it starts separating from its non-duality, absoluteness, oneness, nothingness, and togetherness into its dual ends. On the one hand, we have love, the highest frequency in the form of emotion, and hate being, the frequency on the other hand. Love and hate ¾ the two extremes in duality.

Duality is temporary. Both must appear and disappear like good/bad, truth/lie, hot/cold, divine/devil etc. Anything that exists anywhere, whether the sun, moon, earth or anything, is all transient. It is temporary. We appear, and we disappear. And the cycle of energy goes on vibrating at different frequencies. Creation-Destruction-Recreation. Life and death. Death is a new beginning of another life.

This separation of energy goes into opposites even though all these relative factors are connected as one because energy is indivisible. But in a break, we perceive them as opposites.

The mind is mechanical. It can mainly function subconsciously in the duality of this and that, here and there, for its likes and dislikes in selfishness. In duality, we also have inner vibrations of love and hate. These divisions are merely psychological, where love is the highest form of spiritual energy in higher consciousness, and the other is the lowest form. Therefore, hatred can only arise if there has been love before that.

You can only hate a person whom you have loved earlier. Otherwise, you cannot. You would be indifferent towards them, you may dislike them, but you would not hate them since hate is connected to love as one.

For instance, a wife may love her husband today. If she finds him with another girl tomorrow, assuming her to be his girlfriend, she might hate him. If she discovers that the girl was just a colleague or an employee a day later, love reappears. It is simultaneous. It keeps constantly changing because the mind is frivolous. The root of both these extremes is absolute energy in its nonduality.

In the nothingness of this universe, relative factors express their respective intensity; the suffix of "-ness" - oneness, togetherness, wholesomeness, divisiveness, etc. It will always be from its higher to lower degree or frequency. Mind being helpless cannot function without duality. It needs to be still and spontaneous, meaning without any thoughts to be in nonduality or purity.

If you go into the duality of love, it has many gradings. It keeps diluting. You have lust often mistaken for love, and after that, we have jealousy, expectations and demands out of love. There are too many psychological factors - labels and attachments. It is more of a compromise in possessiveness.

We usually say, "fall in love" and not "rise in love". Because when you transcend in love, you go towards higher consciousness, you go towards that absoluteness; you go towards the oneness. In psychological love, you only fall in love, going towards the other extreme. It brings more misery rather than lasting joy.

Hatred is simple; When you hate a person, you hate a person, whereas there are several gradings in love, and the intensity keeps depleting, going downwards. Besides these gradings, love has too many conditions, demands, etc. In relationships based on psychological emotions like love and hate, we do not have the depth or that togetherness we yearn for.

However, spirituality goes with absoluteness, that beingness in pure awareness, in higher consciousness. As you reach higher consciousness, you enter your super-conscious area – the soul. This soul, the witness, the observer, goes beyond pure awareness. Your beingness in selflessness becomes the prime way. Then, there is no duality between love and hate; you have gone beyond that.

When you enter the realm of spiritual love, which is beyond love and hate, your essential nature beyond duality emerges. You are no longer sentimental to a few. You become sensitive to all. Then there is no differentiation between a Hindu, Muslim, Christian or Buddhist. You see all in oneness.

This love is pure. It is no longer an emotion because emotion has to do with the mind and not the spirit. It unites its separation from love and hate into its oneness, fullness, and wholesomeness, which is absolute, eternal, infinite and without any segregation.

The mind cannot evaluate, analyze, or compare anymore since it is in its purity, simplicity, and absoluteness. The mind becomes silent as you start going towards higher consciousness, going beyond the factors of psychological love. You are going into spiritual love beyond the other extreme of hatred.

Try to discover what spiritual love is all about and how it goes beyond the emotions of your conditioning, demanding, comparing and expecting.