#manipulators

Step 1: if anyone seems too good to be true it's a red flag. Remember water melons

Step 2: if the person whom you are crushing or seeing seems to get to know u fast, or want to know everything about u at the starting of dating it's a red flag.

Step 3: this is especially for my ladies. If a man wants to charm you, he will do anything and everything in his power to get you noticed. So always be aware of your surroundings and observe him.

There are many types of narcissists in this world or around you. (This is again for my ladies)

1. The infamous one: self obsessed to the point where everything is about him, if you say about your achivement he brings up his achievements and dismisses yours.

2. Victim narcissists: he is always a victim, he plays it as this world had treated me so bad and I'm trying to overcome it. He uses his family member, mother's, sisters to make him feel like a victim.

3. Abusive narcissists: he will abuse u with a smile, how to figure it out. Backhand comments, making u feel stupid, dismissing your ability. Things related to ur intellect, empathy and other stuffs he will abuse it.

Manipulators: well we all know how a manipulator would test his victim.

Yes it's by testing your boundary.

Let's say he said something about your appearance and ur first instinct is to explain it why it is or change it. Congratulations u are his victim now.

How to protect yourself from all of these negative predators or mental/psychological disordered people.

1. Always put yourself first.

2. Never change your methods or way for a person whom u met few weeks ago. (If you have a schedule at Sunday 6 pm to play videos fckng play the video game), (if u just want to take rest on Sunday just do it. Don't adjust your plans for someone whom u don't even know completely )

3. Give time (actually this should be first anyways) take it slow as fuck. People who are trying to pretend to someone they aren't, wouldn't last long. The max is 3 months they will pretend. ( So your goal is to take is as slow as possible)

4. Never share your vulnerabilities, if he is sharing his vulnerabilities so quickly its bcz he wants to manipulate u.

5. Always observe your surroundings, esp the person with whom you are interacting with. If you ever get a ick on his behavior or how he speaks focus more on it.

6. If you know he's manipulating and u are trying to manipulate him. Well it's a dangerous game so play carefully.

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk. See you soon with another psychological post or any random post about random topic. Until then bye bye.

You will know this when you see it. The second you begin setting boundaries and cutting off access to those who have only ever benefited from taking advantage of you, they'll start with their guilt-tripping maneuvers, trying to appeal to some perceived weakness through your feelings.

He only makes promises when he can really keep them. Like on the plane when Mycroft asks him to stay clean he doesnt promise it. He only promises when he 100% intends to keep that promise. He knows he cant 100% stay clean, as an addict you can never really do that promise because relapses can happen. I love that about him. He takes promises literal (is that an autism thing?) I take promises also very literal, if i promise something i keep it, and i only make promises that im able to keep, because the word promise really means something to me. Its like a bound contract.