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When is a good time to tell your mom that you want her to take you to see a therapist? We are the kind of family who is cheap and who always try to solve our own problems. How can I tell her that I need to be able to tell someone things that I can't talk to her about ?

In this video, I'm talking you through the 7 subtle signs of childhood emotional neglect. Some of these subtle signs may mean you currently are or may have suffered from CEN (childhood emotional neglect) or what some simply call childhood neglect. In this video, and in some other videos I'll link below, I will be speaking to recovery and healing from emotional neglect or childhood neglect from your parents. Not all childhood emotional neglect looks identical for everybody, and your symptoms or effects may look different than a friend or sibling. This type of neglect can sometimes lead to childhood ptsd, and can effect you in your adulthood, or other symptoms. So if you are one who may suffer from neglect in your childhood from your parents or maybe a teacher or a guardian or someone else, I suggest you watch this video so you can better understand both your problem and recovery and healing journey. 

Here are the 9 Signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect: https://youtu.be/q7Nlxwgy79U 

Want more recovery tips on childhood emotional neglect? Here's a video I made about how to overcome it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HtDIF... 

Going home for the holidays can be triggering for so many, and lead us to resorting to old childhood behaviors. We can adopt practices that we used to do when we're around our family or friends from home, or we can go back to self harming thoughts and actions that we thought we healed from. You may find your family triggering or you may be triggered by old places that you have negative relationships with. Let's be real, families can be tough and family relationships can be tough - and depending on our childhood relationship with our families and parents, whether it be neglect or emotional damage or just fear, we can find ourselves feeling uncomfortable. Your family may trigger your anxiety or your depression or your eating disorder and so many other things, or perhaps other triggers may be set off. Let's talk about why we may be triggered during the holidays or when we go home to our family and ways that we can fight the holiday blues or holiday stress or holiday anxiety - let's jump into it now!  

How to deal with toxic family members or toxic parents during the holidays: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XTLcY... 

Why do I feel depressed or sad during and after the holidays? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SnDuI... 

Daddy issues is not a diagnosable mental illness, it’s not even a term that was ever used in any of my psychology classes, or continuing education courses. The reason for this is because any “issues” we may have with our caregivers (like our mother or father or even aunt or grandparent) is boiled down to attachment. So instead of calling these struggles “daddy issues” we should really call them attachment issues, because that’s what they are. Unfortunately when it comes to attachment and parental research, it tends to focus on our mothers and their role in our development, but fathers play an important role as well. When we are children they teach us about boundaries, by being more of the risk takers or rougher when it comes to play, they show us what we can and cannot do or what we are okay and not okay with. They help us understand risk, fear...