#actually abused

many disabled people cannot escape abuse without putting their health and care needs at risk.

many disabled people cannot escape abuse because they have no money, or they're not allowed to access it independently.

many disabled people cannot escape abuse because they can't talk or otherwise communicate to tell someone they are being abused.

many disabled people cannot escape abuse because they don't understand what abuse is or because they don't understand that they are being abused.

But I never got to have a life before trauma. That person was killed before they were alive. All that remains is a broken shell from where a child was ripped out with violent teeth.

You don't have to earn the right to call the suffering you went through abusive.

I keep seeing people say, "I don't think I have a right to say I was abused because it was never physical," and "I don't have the right to say I was abused because it wasn't that bad," and most infuriatingly, "I don't have the right to say I was abused because I know I was loved."

Please. I am begging you.

I was abused in countless different ways for a long long time, and I am telling you, you are allowed to call your situation abusive.

You don't need permission, and I don't care if someone else 'has it worse.'

You are allowed to call it abuse.