I wrote this in the tags of another post but I think it deserves its own post really idk
I just finished watching tip toe. Which was heavy af and also definitely far from perfect (centering cis white gay men, normalising TERFs etc). It was hard to watch. But also the key message from it was fucking right - it is way more dangerous now to be queer in the UK than even 10 years ago.
And it was validating to hear that, yet terrifying. Because I've kind of felt it, but not been sure if it's just me, bc for years I've not been Just Queer. Since Covid started I've been masking and increasingly visibly disabled. And I've faced way more hostility and discrimination for that than I ever have for being visibly queer and trans. And it has reached the point that I have a lot of anxiety now just stepping outside my front door - I hate talking to strangers, I can't meet people's eyes as I walk down the street. I live in fear of verbal abuse and having shit thrown at me, or having my mask pulled from my face or being treated worse by my colleagues or handymen or anyone else I need to come into my home. Everywhere I go, it's like I can hear the world calling me a freak.
And through all this the queer community hasn't been there for me. It has to be said. Despite our history with the AIDS epidemic, so many have been happy to ignore the dangers of Covid (which are higher for us!!) and comply with pretending its all over as per the government. It's hard to feel connected to my own queer identity when it isn't safe for me to attend pride - the one place I'm supposed to belong.
My point being, society has seemed hostile for a while now, but I thought it was all The Other Minority Stuff. But actually, in the back of my mind, I think I also knew it was getting harder to be queer. Because bit by bit I've retreated back into the closet. I don't correct people on my pronouns. At uni, I don't use they/them at all - "my worksona" I call her. I'm very careful who I reveal my sexuality to. I feel a deep seated dread when I have to present my deed poll for admin purposes, and am outed as trans. I do my makeup to look more feminine, so people don't ask questions.
Less than a decade ago I was out and proud. I'd skip down the street on the way to the gay bar with rainbow hair and a flat chest and surrounded by a gaggle of queer friends. Now? I tip toe, and the gay bar isnt safe for me on seceral counts. And you can be sure as shit it's all connected.