you know, i& don’t think it’s talked about enough the unique experiences with caedgender (and the non-exclusive equivalent, dispargender). thought i’d& give a shoutout/positivity post a go.
☔️ to those who lost their gender due to transphobia, by being denied their feelings as their gender so much that the feeling of gender and enjoyment their gender used to bring them at all has been taken from them.
⛓️💥 to those who lost their gender due to spending so much time masking as [a] different gender(s) that their true gender is missing or only remains as a void.
🔐 to those who lost their gender due to the way their systemhood/multiplicity/plurality affects their gender disconnect.
🐦⬛ to those who lost their gender due to disorders and/or neurodivergencies that include having an unstable sense of identity (like dissociation and BPD) and the struggles and/or traumas associated with lack of a consistent selfhood.
🩶 to those who grieve and mourn the feelings of euphoria and joy their gender has at one point brought to them.
🫥 to those who’s lack of gender affects their other identities, like how they experience attraction.
⛈️ to those who’s experiences being intersex affect their ability to be connected to their gender in a typical or “correct” way.
💫 to those who -dream or -regress as a way to cope with their loss of gender identity, wether voluntarily or not.
🎶 to those who embrace their disconnect in their gender, to those who are indifferent about their gender and the way it feels to them.
❔ to those who collect/hoard genders in an attempt to regain control of their identity despite not feeling connected to any of them.
🧣 to those who pick and choose gender identities that match more with their aesthetic or other identities (like special interests).
🔥 to those who feel their connection to gender is atypical, or that they link/stel/etc. their gender, or otherwise feel that their alterhumanity/otheredness affects their disconnect from their gender identity.
🫶🏻 to those who feel disconnected from the community, to those who feel “wrong” or “incomplete” due to their gender experience(s).
🫂 to those who i& haven’t mentioned in this post.
it’s okay to grieve. it’s okay to be angry. it’s okay to be sad. it’s okay to love yourself/selves anyway. our experiences deserve to be heard too. you’re not alone.








