#caedalterous

Shout out to erasgender, erassexual, erasromantic, erasplatonic, erasfamilial, erasaesthetic, erasensual, erasqueerplatonic, erasalterous, eraswaveric, and any other eras- people.

You are not broken. You are not wrong or a traitor. You are not "spreading misinformation/stereotypes" about queerness being a choice or an event that happens later in life.

It is okay to feel as though you have lost your gender or attraction or whatever else due to trauma.

It is okay to feel as though your gender or attraction or whatever else has faded with time or spontaneously disappeared.

You are real. You are welcome here. You are beloved. You belong in the queer community.

Caed- or Caedo- A feeling that one was previously able to experience a particular kind of attraction, but that ability was lost due to trauma or negative events.

Alterous attraction is described as neither being (entirely/completely) platonic nor romantic, & is an attraction best described as wanting emotional closeness without necessarily being (at all or entirely) platonic &/or romantic, & is used in the place of -romantic or -platonic (so say bi-alterous instead of bi-romantic). Someone can be both alterous & romantic &/or platonic & can have varying degrees on attraction, ultimately feel discomfort / unease / or just a sense of inaccuracy in calling it wholly romantic or platonic. Similar to queerplatonic/quasiplatonic/quirkyplatonic attraction but not quite the same.

Term coined by: Unknown

Caedalterous/Caedoalterous:

[image description: a flag with five stripes. The top stripe is a dark blue, and the next three stripes are all slightly lighter shades of blue. The bottom stripe is black. Centered on the bottom of the flag are three partial vertical stripes, each a fifth of the width of the flag. The outer two stripes are grey and are two fifths of the height of the flag, while the middle is white and is three fifths the height of the flag]

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Designed by: Me

Color meanings: Fading colors representing loss of attraction, as well as white, gray, and black which are associated with aspec flags.