#ace rage

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I peeked at ace/mogai discourse, and it was a mistake. I don’t understand these people at all. They hate the split-attraction model so much, like, I didn’t even know it had a name? it’s just so normal to me? (That’s the concept of having both a sexual orientation and a romantic orientation.) And then they turn around and use the split-attraction model to claim that “aces are cishet” which fucking rustles my goddamn jimmies, like, they are calling me, a trans ace person, cishet. They don’t know they’re doing that, of course. They probably think all trans people may politely excuse themselves. But ace people are who I am. When you say “ace people are ___” I am listening, and you are talking to me. You call me cishet, and I am filled with porcupine quills. I did not come this far to be called cishet. Here’s the logic, btw-- “Ace people can be heteroromantic, and aro people can be heterosexual, so therefore aroaces are het.” When called out, I’m sure they say “well I don’t mean all, of course” but that will not stop them from using it to the point of “ace people aren’t LGBT, period” Listen to me now. If you reject SAM, then no ace person is ever het. If you accept SAM, then aces and aros are, between them, all types of sexual and romantic orientation, including bi, het, pan, lesbian, gay, and everything. Saying “ace people aren’t LGBT” or even better, “ace people are cishet” is ALWAYS WRONG if you reject SAM, and NOT NECESSARILY TRUE, AND THEREFORE WRONG WHEN TAKEN IN ABSOLUTE TERMS if you accept SAM.

Did I mention that rejection of SAM is rejection of aromantic allosexuals and I hate it?

Anyway point is, if you try to kick all ace and aro people out of LGBT space-- or try to shit on them-- as a group and on principle, you’re being gross and incorrect and you need to rethink your life.

And wow. Never thought I‘d live to see the truscum vs. tucute behavior come back as the LGBT vs MOGAI discourse, that’s a fucking Halloween miracle for me personally. MOGAI is literally just a different acronym, there isn’t different people in different acronyms, we aren’t split into camps, we don’t have exclusive members, and we’re all exactly cringe as the other. All the behavior you think you hate about MOGAI is the behavior cishets get on all of everyone queer for. You think being NB is new? You think aces are a new thing? You think furries are new? You think sapiosexuality is a new concept? Sorry to bust your bubble but the mystical entity known as “MOGAI” didn’t make these things exist, or even start the terminology, not by a fucking long shot. All you’re doing is pushing queer people into camps and making them strawman eachother until we all fall apart. And, YES, everyone is to fucking blame. I’ve seen this shit behavior from lesbians, NBs, aces, trans people, and all sorts of types and combinations. And everyone’s calling eachother mogai and exclusionists and TERF and cishet and all sorts of things, I’m not even fucking sure who’s participating anymore. All I know is it’s hell and I hate it. Yeah, we can talk about the problematic nature of some stuff, like I’m still not on board with sapio cause it seems ableist but I’m willing to listen...? And some queer people think that pedos and drag queens and furries and cishet women are included in MOGAI and hate the idea of being lumped together, and some people think that intersex people shouldn’t (or don’t want to) be included in any of these things, but fuck, who am I to decide, right? But that doesn’t make MOGAI some sort of magical enemy, it doesn’t make aroace rejection any less reprehensible, and it doesn’t make LGBT the best or most valid term in the world. And last, I fucking love wlw, but why the hell are y’all always at the forefront of this bullshit? What is happening??? It makes it feel like an extension of TERF bullshit, even though plenty of wlw aren’t terfs and are great people... I just don’t get why this keeps happening. And don’t give me any lines like “lesbians are tired of dealing with men’s bullshit” because we are so far beyond that with this. That’s some hard, surface-level reductionist shit and meanwhile we’re out here swimming in the void. Unless that IS the general concept. In which case, I’ll gladly take a trip to the moon and punch Aphrodite in the fucking face. Let me be clear: lesbians (coordinately and as a group) literally attacked me, personally during a critical time in my life, and hurt people close to me that I care about. I’ve also met super chill lesbians who are great and helped me and my network a lot. What I’m saying is that being a lesbian doesn’t make you the goddess of the queers or the arbiter of labels or the holy gatekeeper of what is and isn’t oppression. It gives you no fucking rights at all except the same ones all humans get just for being human. It makes me sad that every time I see a queer person is shitting on other queers on this hellsite, it’s a wlw. If someone can give me an honest explanation I would love it. And if you happen to actually be a terf. Well. Fuck right off and never come back. I’m super done and never coming back to this discourse.

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