my trans and queer thoughts

"love is love" until it lives in separate beds

"love is love" until it is queer platonic

"love is love" until it does not comply with compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity

love IS love, for aspecs, for sex sepulsed folk and for platonic relationships

"love is love" apply to more than same-sex relationships in a world where romantic and sexual relationships are considered more valuable

“Love is love” until it doesn't comply to your romanticised just-made-for-each-other narrative

“Love is love” until it is not monogamous

polyamorous people are also a very neglected part of the lgbtq+ community and just as much a victim of amatonormativity as asexuals and aromantics. they too should be respected and included in pride!!!!!

Also feminism is about gender equality and while it doesn't center men it absolutely does include them to some extent, if your idea of fixing society is for women to just stay away from men then you're never gonna abolish patriarchy you're just gonna isolate yourself in a weird little political lesbian circlejerk centered mostly on continuously purging the impure.

also also many feminist issues like sexual assault, spousal abuse, diet culture, etc do also affect cis men, albeit to a lesser extent than women, and we as feminists should be fighting against those things happening to anyone, because they're bad.

Stop trying to make gender essentialism “good” or “right” because it never will be and you are only causing harm to people.

Fatness, like singlehood, is seen at large as a state of failure. Everybody is supposed to want to be [thin / partnered], and if you are not, that is a personal failure on your part, and you are pathetic and mock-worthy. The popular idea is that of course everybody wants to be [thin / partnered], and everybody is striving towards the goal, and anybody who is not [thin / partnered] is either temporarily inconvenienced on their way to correctness, or has something fundamentally wrong with them. And because [fatness / singlehood] is something that is treated as fixable, if you have not fixed it, then there is something wrong with you—and thus discriminating against you is acceptable, because your [fatness / singlehood] is based on your own bad choices.

The world is, in some cases quite literally, not built for fat or single people. If you are fat or single, the world is much more difficult or expensive to live in, because it is structurally designed for the assumption that you are thin or that you have a partner. The normative Person, after all, is thin and romantically partnered. If you are not thin or not romantically partnered, there is something fundamentally less human about you.

[Fatness / singlehood] is something embarrassing, something worth mocking others over, something that reflects your fundamental unworthiness. Every fictional hero is thin, every fictional happy ending ends with romance. Everyone in your life is either quietly or not-so-quietly worried about you.

My friend telling me that the honeymoon phase ended and that's why they drifted stung so much because that was the opposite of my experience. I only grew to love them more and started desiring their presence more as the years went on. That they essentially got bored and the excitement puttered out feels so fucking awful seeing as I was just as enamoured with them, if not more so, as the first year we were involved with each other.