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the “trans men have male privilege” take is baffling to me. when you were asked about it, the examples you gave were just that we face… *less* hate crimes.

trans women are demonized and sexualized. trans men are erased and demeaned as “delusional women”. we both get hate crimed and raped and murdered for our existences. we’re both legislated against.

we arent enemies in this. all transgender people are targets, and whatever “male privilege” trans men have isnt real enough to protect us. its about as helpful as being “one of the good ones.”

a high bar to clear, and one that will decapitate you nonetheless.

im genuinely extremely disappointed that this blog is perpetuating this meaningless discourse when its such a great resource. ive learned a lot, and its truly upsetting to have to unfollow, but i cant get behind any blog willingly- although probably unintentionally- dividing trans people when we’re all at such risk.

I don't know why people feel the need to come into my inbox with "feminism has gone too far" shit either but hey, here we are.

Y'know, this may be shocking to you but facing less violence is a privilege. As is facing less hypervisibility, certain trans/misogynistic barriers in healthcare, often being paid better (which results in less trans men/mascs in sex work! which also helps with the less violence aspect), having a general better social standing within the trans community because of the trans/misogyny you can wield against your TMA siblings and no worries of facing things like v-coding!

Those aren't pointless things. You view them as pointless because they don't affect you as much and/or simply because of the privilege you wield.

I never said anyone was an enemy; you said that, just now, not me. You've decided that having privilege means you must be an enemy instead of considering you could be a fucking ally and work to understand and break down your privilege and use it when you can to help your siblings.

Of course your privilege won't prevent transphobes from coming after you. But that doesn't negate said privilege.

I'm Black and I've heard this type of shit, word for word, for years from Black men who don't want to hear about misogynoir. Yes, yes, we're all in this together and yet you can't stand hearing that others might be dealing with more oppression on top of the oppression you share and that you might be able to help if you got your head out of your ass.

It's all "we're a community" until you have to include other axis' of oppression (like race, disability, transmisogyny) and then suddenly, politics have gone too far and are "dividing the community."

I've been open about being a trans/feminist since I started this blog. I've been open about being an intersectional feminist and wanting to dissect how bigotry interacts with sex education. If you're disappointed, that is only because you have not been paying attention.

And because you believe it's "divisive" to talk about how oppressions intersect instead of facing the fact that what's really divisive is when people refuse to even acknowledge that privilege exists and thus isolate other oppressed people within their own communities.

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sans was a special case because people preferred his original design (short and not conventionally attractive) however the “refusal to engage with any other character” was very much still there like look at all of the AUs that were made specifically because of him.

the amount of mischaracterisation a character has to go through in order to truly count as a sexyman (and there’s about 20 sexymen proper) would cause most people to have a brain aneurysm like it sucks so bad.

times have drastically changed since the onceler, and the range of characters people hype up is far more diverse than it once was. the time period in which a character was most popular (between 2012 - 2018) is the most fundamental part in making them a sexyman.

this is why any sexyman poll made after the one that killed queen lizzy is completely null to me. 90% of the characters in them are just regular fan favourites like get this common real life dude out of there. if you could talk about liking a character with a coworker and not get viciously made fun of by them then that character is not a sexyman like that’s the full truth of the matter.

(this is also why anime boys like reigen and komaeda often count. hate for anything anime-based outside of the internet was especially egregious before 2020)