Random Adventures

Rape Escape

Easy and very effective

Requires nothing but your body

I don’t think I made it very clear but last month I was sexually assaulted by someone who I thought was my friend (I don’t want to talk about it don’t ask), and it’s… really fucked with my head. 

Had I known this a month ago I would have been able to get away. 

So, essentially, I’m really pleading with you to reblog this so everyone who follows you doesn’t get stuck in the same position I was with no way out. 

It took me about a half hour to get down with practice, but once you get it, it’s an intuitive movement.

I’m really tired of seeing people broken up into labels of absolutes.

People are not just “good” or “bad”.

People are not a list of labels. 

People are complex, situations are complex.

I know, that makes it a lot harder when you want to just write off everything someone’s ever done as bad – but that’s not how people actually are, and it would do everyone good to stop pretending they are.

I am tired of hearing about the fear people have in putting themselves out there. And it is a scary thing! Putting yourself out there means subjecting yourself to people who want a really good reason to tear you down, who will jump at the first chance to feel “good” by labeling someone else as “bad”.

I reject this. I reject the idea that there should be fear in speaking up and talking about experiences and trying to reach an understanding of a situation.

I’m unhappy to see people spitefully urging others to cut off ties with their friends under the guise of “well, that person’s just inherently bad, so if you talk to them you’re bad too.” That is fucked up. You definitely have the right to let the friend know you don’t want to hear about whoever troubles you, but you do not at all have the right to decide who their friends should be. This includes guilt trips.

Anyway, just try to be more aware of others. Everyone else is a person like you. They might not have the same experiences as you. They might not understand how their words are harmful, or how what they’re doing is wrong. They certainly won’t if you never tell them.

Most people are trying to be good, but they’re going to mess it up sometimes. Try to keep that in mind. Even when people do really fucked up shit, sometimes they are trying to do good. “The road to hell is paved with good intentions” and all that.

Nothing gets solved, no growth happens when you put people into a box from which you’ll never let them escape.

Yes, you absolutely must be careful about people who have tendencies and patterns that are harmful to you. Sometimes people try to overcome those patterns and they fail, and you have to distance yourself from them: that is the sad reality of life. Sometimes though, they can overcome it. But they certainly won’t if the first thing you do is write them off after a fuck up. 

So y'all who follow me might know I’m Chinese and live in Singapore. At the moment, Singapore is doing fine with the whole Covid-19 deal, no one’s really panicking anymore and things are handled pretty well here. Basically, amidst the pandemic issue at hand, I’m a Chinese person who’s lucky enough to not have to deal with paranoia and nonsense from ignorant assholes IRL.

That’s not the case for my Asian friends in a lot of other places. Not even just the Chinese people, but also anyone who apparently “looks Asian enough”. I’ve had a pale skinned Native American friend, A NATIVE AMERICAN IN MICHIGAN, get mistaken for Chinese and had slurs and insults hurled at them by some terrified but clearly stupid people. Still, the target is the Chinese community in general, and anyone who looks like us are just unfairly dragged into the mess.

The racism the Chinese community is facing right now is horrendous and disgusting and very undeserved. Racists have used the pandemic as an excuse to mistreat my friends overseas, and people are letting it happen. Why? Seriously, why? Do people really honestly, logically think that the virus comes from a person being Asian? That an Asian person is automatically carrying it? Have some common sense.

Please don’t turn a blind eye to it just because it may not be affecting you. Please support your local Asian, especially Chinese, businesses if you are healthy and it is safe (and allowed) for you to go outside. Please don’t automatically take a step back from an Asian-looking person on the streets if you see them. Trust me, they notice. Please don’t let innocent Asian people get beat up on the streets for no real reason at all if there’s anything you can do to help. 

The Tinman gave up his heart

And the Scarecrow...

“She deserves to be punished too.”

“I’m not saying I support rape, but-”

“Sorry to say - she deserved it.”

“She put herself in harm’s way”

“But if she was fingered, then that’s not rape.”

“She ruined their lives.”

“Yea, but did you see what she was wearing?”

“Boys will be boys!”

“She should know better than to drink at a party…”

  “He should’ve enjoyed it.”

“She must’ve lead him on.”

“But she orgasmed. That means she liked it - “

“Women can’t rape because…”

“Be grateful it wasn’t a man!”

“I’m sorry she hurt you but don’t call what happened to you rape, it’s an insult to the REAL victims…”

“You weren’t raped, you’re just lesbophobic.”

“She’s his wife, it’s her job to please him.”

“Oral isn’t rape.”

“Well he wasn’t armed, she could have walked away.”

“Guys can’t be raped, they love sex!”

“She didn’t fight back; it wasn’t rape.”