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I just unexpectedly inherited a house. The mortgage is less than our rent so we are going to move there. However it is very much my house, but I can’t afford the mortgage on my own even though it’s way less… do you have any advice on how to split finances? I’m not sure how to proceed here.

First off: condragulations! This is all very exciting.

I'll link to our advice on splitting finances below. But the basic advice amounts to this: have him pay you rent as a tenant. And that rent should be proportional to y'all's income. So for example, if your income is $100/month and his is $300/month, then his rent should be 2/3 of the monthly mortgage (nice round numbers for ease of mathing). Then just put his rent toward the mortgage.

When and if you get married, keep the monthly payments proportional with your income, but consider adding his name to the deed of the house. That way he'll have partial ownership. In the event of a divorce, he'll be entitled to a portion of the equity in the house. Or don't! You could keep it as an asset in your name alone. Just know that for the sake of fairness, a judge might require you to pay him out of the home equity if you ever get divorced.

Anyway, that's our advice! Here's more:

Season 4, Episode 2: “We’re Moving in Together but Don’t Plan To Get Married. How Can We Split Finances Fairly?” 

A Guide to Sharing Finances with Someone Other Than a Romantic Partner 

How Dafuq Do Couples Share Their Money? 

I'd also recommend having an official document about rent, leases, etc. That way if something happens you have your ass covered in case things go south in your relationship. Better to work out the details now while you still like each other than have to do that on top of a messy breakup.

Absolutely loving the way McCoy sort of short circuits when Spock gives him an honest compliment.

Bonus: McCoy accepting the compliment without talking back or trying to make it into a joke.

Skills like gardening and food preservation and people around who can teach those skills can be a really important part of food security

In particular, access to gardening can really increase the quality of people's diets in areas where fresh vegetables and fruits are not as available.

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And then someone breaks this solemn silence and says: