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1. We would miss you. 2. It’s not worth the regret. Either by yourself if you failed or just simply left scars, or the regret everyone else feels by not doing enough to help you. 3. It does get better. Believe it or not it will eventually get better. Sometimes you have to go through the storm to get to the rainbow. 4. There’s so much you would miss out on doing. 5. There is always a reason to live. It might not be clear right now, but it is always there. 6. So many people care, and it would hurt them if you hurt yourself. 7. You ARE worth it. Don’t let anyone, especially yourself, tell you otherwise. 8. You are amazing. 9. A time will come, once you’ve battled the toughest times of your life and are in ease once again, where you will be so glad that you decided to keep on living. You will emerge stronger from this all, and won’t regret your choice to carry on with life. Because things always get better. 10. What about all the things you’ve always wanted to do? What about the things you’ve planned, but never got around to doing? You can’t do them when you’re dead. 11. I love you. Even if only one person loves you, that’s still a reason to stay alive. 12. You won’t be able to listen to music if you die. 13. Killing yourself is never worth it. You’ll hurt both yourself and all the people you care about. 14. There are so many people that would miss you, including me. 15. You’re preventing a future generation, YOUR KIDS, from even being born. 16. How do you think your family would feel? Would it improve their lives if you died? 17. You’re gorgeous, amazing, and to someone you are perfect. 18. Think about your favourite music artist, you’ll never hear their voice again… 19. You’ll never have the feeling of walking into a warm building on a cold day 20. Listening to incredibly loud music 21. Being alive is just really good. 22. Not being alive is really bad. 23. Finding your soulmate. 24. Red pandas 25. Going to diners at three in the morning. 26. Really soft pillows. 27. Eating pizza in New York City. 28. Proving people wrong with your success. 29. Watching the jerks that doubted you fail at life. 30. Seeing someone trip over a garbage can. 31. Being able to help other people. 32. Bonfires. 33. Sitting on rooftops. 34. Seeing every single country in the world. 35. Going on roadtrips. 36. You might win the lottery someday. 37. Listening to music on a record player. 38. Going to the top of the Eiffel Tower. 39. Taking really cool pictures. 40. Literally meeting thousands of new people. 41. Hearing crazy stories. 42. Telling crazy stories. 43. Eating ice cream on a hot day. 44. More Harry Potter books could come out, you never know. 45. Travelling to another planet someday. 46. Having an underwater house. 47. Randomly running into your hero on the street. 48. Having your own room at a fancy hotel. 49. Trampolines. 50. Think about your favourite movie, you’ll never watch it again. 51. Think about the feeling of laughing out loud in a public place because your best friend has just sent you an inside joke, 52. Your survival will make the world better, even if it’s for just one person or 20 or 100 or more. 53. People do care. 54. Treehouses 55. Hanging out with your soul mate in a treehouse 55. Snorting when you laugh and not caring who sees 56. I don’t even know you and I love you. 57. I don’t even know you and I care about you. 58. Because nobody is going to be like you ever, so embrace your uniqueness! 59. You won’t be here to experience the first cat world emperor. 60. WHAT ABOUT FOOD?! YOU’LL MISS CHOCOLATE AND ALL THE OTHER NOM THINGS! 61. Starbucks. 62. Hugs. 63. Stargazing. 64. You have a purpose, and it’s up to you to find out what it is. 65. You’ve changed somebody’s life. 66. Now you could change the world. 67. You will meet the person that’s perfect for you. 68. No matter how much or how little, you have your life ahead of you. 69. You have the chance to save somebody’s life. 70. If you end your life, you’re stopping yourself from achieving great things. 71. Making snow angels. 72. Making snowmen. 73. Snowball fights. 74. Life is what you make of it. 75. Everybody has a talent. 76. Laughing until you cry. 77. Having the ability to be sad means you have the ability to be happy. 78. The world would not be the same if you didn’t exist. 79. Its possible to turn frowns, upside down 80. Be yourself, don’t take anyone’s shit, and never let them take you alive. 81. Heroes are ordinary people who make themselves extraordinary. Be your own hero. 82. Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections. 83. One day your smile will be real. 84. Having a really hot, relaxing bath after a stressful day. 85. Lying on grass and laughing at the clouds. 86. Getting completely smashed with your best friends. 87. Eating crazy food. 88. Staying up all night watching your favourite films with a loved one. 89. Sleeping in all day. 90. Creating something you’re proud of. 91. You can look back on yourself 70 years later and being proud you didn’t commit 92. Being able to meet your Internet friends. 93. Tea / Coffee / Hot Chocolate 94. Sherlock season three. 95. Cuddling under the stars. 96. Being stupid in public because you just can. 97. If you are reading this then you are alive! Is there any more reason to smile? 98. being able to hug that one person you havent seen in years 99. People care enough about you and your future to come up with 100 reasons for you not to do this. 100. But, the final and most important one is, just, being able to experience life. Because even if your life doesn’t seem so great right now, literally anything could happen

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different kiki! for some reason queer people just love this word.

"kiki" was a term used in mid 20th century US queer communities to refer to a queer woman who wasn't a butch or a femme. it was meant as a derogatory term. wiktionary has a list of cited quotes featuring the term:

"For example, Faderman views butches, femmes, and kikis as roles imitative of heterosexual models and not part of primary, unique lesbian sociosexual identities. […] In the 1950s and 1960s, this sexual identity is complicated by the flourishing of butch and femme roles, as well as […] . For their part, butches and femmes found these women “kiki” – neither butch nor femme, women who didn't know what they really wanted, women who were giving in to society's expectations regarding dress or behavior. […]"

Wiktionary has a quote from Odd Girls and Twilight Lovers: A History of Lesbian Life in Twentieth-Century America but its kind of weirdly cut, so here's a longer version:

When a young woman entered the subculture in the 1950s she was immediately intitiated into the meaning and importance of the roles, since understanding them was the sine qua non of being a lesbian within that group. While some women saw themselves as falling naturally into one role or the other, even those who did not were urged to chose a role by other lesbians, or sometimes their own observations forced them to conclude that a choice was necessary. Being neither butch nor femme was not an option if one wanted to be part of the young or working-class lesbian subculture. Those who refused to choose learned quickly that they were unwelcome. In some areas the issue was very emotional. Shirley, who lived in Buffalo, New York, in the years after World War II, remembers being in a working-class bar and admitting to a group of lesbians there that she thought of herself as neither butch nor femme: “They argued with me for a long time and when they couldn’t convince me I had to be one or the other, they threatened to take me outside and beat me up.” Although the issue seldom led to violence, butches and femmes were often adamant about rejecting what they called the “confused” behavior of “kiki” women, those who would not choose a role. One New England woman remembers: "We used to have parties and play games like charades. The butches would be on one side and the femmes would be on the other. There was one couple who’d have to flip a coin to decide who was going to be on what side, and we used to think they were the craziest people." Another New England woman recalls that “kiki” also referred to two butches or two femmes who were lovers. They often had to “sneak it,” she says, because of the hostility of those who were committed to roles. Membership in her group demanded that one select a partner who was heterogenderal, that is, who took the opposite role, at least in appearance: “If I wasn’t going to choose that, I couldn’t be in a gay bar. I couldn’t be with gay people.” In New York kiki lesbians were also called “bluffs”—the word being not only a combination of “butch” and “fluff” (another term for femme) but also an indication of how such women were regarded in that community. Even in Greenwich Village, which in the 1920s had been a melting pot of all manner of straight and gay people, the pressure to make a selection and to stick to it had become very stringent. One denizen of the Village says that already by the 1940s one was expected to be either butch or femme. “Those who did not conform were contemptuously referred to as people who didn’t know their minds.” Such strict role divisions continued throughout the 1960s in much of the bar subculture, even during the era of “unisex” among heterosexuals; they are testimony to the essentially conservative nature of a minority group as it attempts to create legitimacy for itself by fabricating traditions and rules. One woman, who is 5’ 10” and of stocky build, remembers going to a lesbian bar in Springfield, Massachusetts, in 1967, that had two restrooms. “I stood in line for a couple of minutes and then the girl in front of me said, ‘You have to get out of here. This is the femme line.’ She pointed to the signs on the rest room doors. One was marked ‘butch’ and the other was marked ‘femme.’”

I just wish we would be more honest about the history of butch/femme. As I said in that post, I think the radfem hatred for the terms wasn't great, but people talk about these terms as if they are holy labels descended from heaven which could never possibly be anything but queerly liberatory, & I feel like a lot of people enjoy larping as 50s butches and femmes without ever reflecting on the actual culture these terms came from and the real problems that were present, and still are today.

oh yeah, if you've ever heard someone lecture about how futch isn't a REAL identity because it doesn't have the Rich Profound Revolutionary Queer History of butch/femme, it's just this bullshit repackaged as far as i'm concerned.

actually, continuing on that quote from above, the author talks about how many people in these lesbian communities honestly did not really care about being butch/femme and were just doing what they needed to in order to exist in the community:

The roles were also undercut by the fact that although most young lesbians went along with them, they actually had little intrinsic meaning for many of them. The roles might be merely the rules of the game that you followed if you wanted to be one of the players—or as J.C., who was a Texas “butch,” phrased it, “I looked around and thought, if that’s the way you get to belong, I need to do it as good as they did, so I made myself remember to open car doors and light cigarettes and all of that.” Because they were to some only roles, they were reversible under certain circumstances. One might be a butch in one relationship and a femme in another, depending on how willing one was to accommodate a partner’s preferences. The roles could even change in the course of an evening, as Ann tells it: "Once I went to an L.A. bar to meet this butch, and I was dressed femme. But she wasn’t there so I decided to go to another bar. On my way, in the car, I changed to butch. Butches had a lot more opportunities in the bars and I just wanted to meet another woman." To such women appropriate role behavior was simply a nod of acknowledgment in the direction of subculture propriety that indicated that one knew the rules and belonged. Sometimes there were complex factors operating in the choice of a butch or a femme identity. Surely some women selected one or the other not because of peer group pressure, but because that felt sexually most natural to them. [...] Roles were in a sense the path of least resistence within the communities of young and working class lesbians. They provided the subculture with a conformity and a security that answered longings that mirrored those of heterosexual America, in which all members of the subculture had been raised.

it should be noted that the butch/femme framework was deeply classed & middle- and upper-class queer women seemed particularly averse to the idea of presenting as masculine, even though there were some wealthier queer women who openly presented as masculine. their arguments were often not based around the way this subculture would treat femmes who loved femmes, butches who loved butches, or those who didn't want to play either role, but rather their own personal distaste for working-class culture, blatant queerness without attempts at assimilation, and anxiety over whether or not queer "female" masculinity was purely the result of lesbophobia & heteronormativity. not all women considered "kiki" were middle or upper class, but those queer women were far more likely to (for a variety of reasons) reject the roles, while working-class queer women often had to choose between playing the role or not having a community.

these terms can be meaningful and part of a rich history and important for people today, and also be part of a long history of queer people paradoxically trying to break away from cis-hetero society yet compulsively recreating its dynamics under our control, leading us to recreate the very same conditions of exclusion, stereotyping, exorsexism, and oppositional sexism that were built to harm us in the first place. butch/femme can be meaningful terms without us treating them like sacred rites. we truly do not need to gaf this much about policing the boundaries of these terms; we are just clinging to some of the worst parts of our community's inheritance.

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