The Chronicles of a Closeted Cardiophile

Some squat beats💓

The ambulance sways as it speeds through the night, lights flashing across the interior.

She lies motionless on the stretcher, skin pale, eyes closed.

“No pulse.”

The paramedic immediately positions his hands at the center of her chest—one over the other, fingers interlaced. Arms straight. Shoulders locked above her sternum.

Compressions begin.

Hard. Fast. Precise.

“One, two, three, four…”

Her body moves rhythmically beneath each push, the force deliberate—deep enough to circulate blood, controlled enough to maintain pace.

“Keep it at 100–120.”

The count continues, steady, relentless. Sweat forms despite the cold air. The ambulance jolts slightly with a turn, but his hands never lose position.

“Switch in ten seconds.”

Another paramedic moves into position.

“…eight, nine, ten—switch.”

Seamless. Hands replace hands without losing rhythm.

Compressions continue.

No pause. No hesitation.

I've been apart of this beloved community for a while now, and not a day goes by where I'm not grateful to have met everyone. Unfortunately, there are also a number of users who have left for reasons unknown in the past, but a number of them are due to discomfort being felt from the responses, reactions and interactions from and by male users, especially, who lack consideration and even the concept of consent.

With this dishonor driving users away and sometimes causing female users to feel misandry based on their own experiences in the community and online elsewhere, I wanted to make a request and once again try and help present and future female users feel more safe and powerful to push the inconsiderate and the disrespectful back, especially because there really are a lot of female users on here, including ace users, who have remained strong and active for as long as they have without needing or feeling the need to quit for good, or come back much later with a chance of deciding to leave again.

I wanted to know if any female users active today would be willing to make a list or something that will give advice to present and future users to help them power through and find some stability and comfort in their place in the community, without fear or concern. I know there's diversity in this community, too, pertaining to sexuality and gender, and to those who fall under such identifications, most notable that of asexuality - as this community has a big ace following - and being a lesbian user, your input would be just as vital - if not more so - for my request of sharing advice with the wider community.

Thanks for reading in, and thank you to those who decide to give my idea a shot. If we need a way to make this community safer for everyone, we should try the concept of uniting.

You may feel bad because it's a niche community but don't:

You don't have to give a reason

You don't owe them anything

You have the content they want

You're the one in control

I dealt with a lot of people who completely ignored my boundaries in the beginning. Ignoring my asexuality and sending inappropriate, sexually-charged asks, one even following up along the lines of "i know it's bad so you can't be mad at me." Like, if you know it's bad then why send it to me?

It's entitlement. Straight up entitlement of, predominantly male, cardiophiles who believe that they are owed content because of how niche the kink actually is. Hilariously enough, they usually have super strict boundaries (regarding their sexuality) that they demand be respected and yet trample all over the boundaries of others'.

It wasn't until I made it painstakingly clear that I will block any and all bad actors with no second chances did they stop. The threat of being cut off from the content they want is usually enough for them to pack it in. Sucks that I have to do that but people seem to forget that I make this content for me primarily and no one is going to take away my agency in how I relieve stress.

If others enjoy the content I make, then yay! But I'm not a content farm and I'm glad to have reached a point where everyone is respectful of the boundaries I've set.

However, it is super hard and I don't blame anyone for leaving -- Be it temporary or permanently.

Do what is right for your own mental health; be it turning off DMs/anon asks, blocking people or leaving.