I Don't Have One

"they identify as animals" thats nice, sharon

"no but they actually think they are animals" theres a war going on, sharon

For example, you're using a public bathroom, and there's no toilet paper left for the toilet you're using. If someone was waiting outside and is about to use the toilet / stall you were just using, it's fair to warn them first "hey there's no toilet paper left in that one" so they can use a different toilet if they'd prefer (or maybe grab some paper towel from the sink first if they'd personally rather improvise like that).

Another example of this is in many places it's common for cars to flash their lights at oncoming cars if there's any sort of danger or obstacle in the road ahead, like a flooded road, or an accident, or rubble/debris in the road.

Or say you used to work somewhere, and the work environment was really toxic (verbally abusive boss, co-workers who are bullies, they repeatedly "accidentally" paid you less than they were supposed to even after you called them out on it, etc) and someone you know is going to apply working there or was just offered a job there, it's fair and considerate to warn them about your experiences.

Or maybe you took a class that was way harder than you thought it would be, and had a much higher rate of people who fail or drop the class than you anticipated, it would be fair to warn a friend and/or classmate who says they're going to take that class.

Women are perceived as maturing faster in order to expect more of them or downplay abuse against them. But no one suggests trusting young girls' intuition more because of it.

Black children are perceived as grown when it's an excuse to kill them for being scary or sentence them as adults for crimes. But no one suggests that those adultified black children be allowed to vote.

Disabled people are seen as incompetent enough to be bullied but also competent enough to deny them support.

Authoritarian parents use their children's perceived incompetence as justification for the authority, but also see them as competent when expecting good grades, expecting an unfair share of household duties, or expecting them to parent their younger siblings.

Legal age restrictions often treat someone as underage when they want to decide what to put in their own bodies but adults when sentencing them for crimes, when making them fight wars, or when defending old perverts who want to have sex with them.

Voss spent 25 years as a hostage negotiator, meaning that his job was to talk to guys on the phone who had literal guns to innocent people's heads. He KNOWS how to compassionately de-escalate a conflict and have productive, constructive conversations with people who are highly activated and reactive.

And there is an additional problem, which is that leftists are often uncomfortable being authorities themselves and acting like it. (Not saying this was true of any previous posters! It is simply a common Thing.) Leftists like being inclusive and being relaxed on rules. But the only way to make a truly safe space is to protect it, and that means having someone who is willing to say “no.” People feel safe when leadership has their back.

Sometimes you have to tell that woman that if she keeps picking fights she won’t have any allies to fight them. Sometimes you have to tell that guy that no, really, you have to shower sometimes, and the Stink Cloud is why people don’t want to hang out with you.

Like for the majority it really is "oh i'm hungrier and moodier than usual"

If, before you get your period, you feel furiously angry, suicidal, irritated by every tiny thing to the point you want to murder someone, stuck in a black hole you'll never escape from. If you are experiencing extreme emotions for what seems like no good reason, especially if you get your period and those extreme emotions just go away. You're probably not just PMSing , you may have PMS's feral big sister PMDD and it's treatable.

Keep a stock of comfort items handy for these times like easy to prepare meals and a list of things that can emotionally distract you like games, arts/crafts, or books.