Meanings:

Green is the opposite of red and pink, which are colors typically associated with romance, and thus the rejection of those things. It is also represents healing from the shame we often feel as romance repulsed people

The off-white represents being considered ‘off’ or unusual, while the circle represents wholeness in spite of that.

Definition: Someone who, for whatever reason, identifies both as polyamorous and nonamorous.

The colors are blends of this polyamorous flag and of this nonamorous flag. Their meanings as a result can incorporate the meanings of their original flags’s colors (at the person’s discretion; the other flags meanings can be found by clicking the links above), and has these additional core meanings:

Dark Navy: Defiance of norms, both within society at large and within the polyamorous and nonamorous communities, with a reminder of those most impacted by breaking those norms

Taupe: Peace of mind and self acceptance

Dandelion: Vibrancy and resilience

Colors are borrowed from this nonamorous flag, while the format is borrowed from this polyamorous flag. Meaning is derived from both. Indigo: Integrity in spite of societal pressure, particularly those who are most hurt by those expectations, which touches every other aspect of the flag’s meaning

Turquoise: Healing, self-sufficiency, and community, rejection of the idea of being ‘incomplete’.

Amber: Chasing joy, independence, and confidence in our non-monogamy and in ourselves.

Hi there! I'm a little confused by this ask (especially by being nonsam and aroace since being nonsam typically means you don't use the split attraction model and thus identify/disclose only that you're aro or only that you're ace, unless I'm misunderstanding; I'd love for you to explain if you're comfortable DMing me). From what I'm understanding, you're both strictly aro and strictly ace, but you use microlabels to further explain your aromanticism and asexuality. Am I understanding correctly?

Ultimately, I coined the term specifically for people who had a problem with the dichotomy of being a/allo but for whom what little attraction they did feel was important enough that going nonsam wasn't right either. It was a label coined specifically for people who felt torn between labels such as aroace, aroallo, and/or alloace, both to give myself a better descriptor and to connect to others with a similar situation. If you are strictly aro and strictly ace and feel completely at home with the label aroace, the label was not made for people like you in mind.

💚 Aromanticism is not a subset of asexuality. You can be aro and not ace. My blog, while for all aros, has a special focus on aros who aren't ace.

🤍 Tagging posts explicitly about aromanticism and not asexuality as asexuality/asexual/ace/etc, especially while not tagging them as aromanticism/aromantic/aro/etc, contributes to aro erasure and the idea that aromantics are inherently asexual, and is incredibly tone deaf when you consider the audience of this blog.

🖤 Using my my posts about aromanticism, especially when most of my posts are targeted towards nonace aros, to talk about asexuality without making meaningful additions, is derailing. For example: Using a general post about amatonormativity to share your experiences is one thing and probably okay. Using a post telling bisexual aros that they don't need to feel bad for their sexual attraction and that they aren't feeding into stereotypes by living as their authentic selves to talk about your troubled dating experience as a biromantic ace and how frustrated you are with the expectations of sex people have of bi folks is another and very tone deaf. Don't get me wrong, that is a genuine issue and one you should absolutely talk about, but maybe not on that post.

Please stop doing this. It's fine if you as an ace relate to a post, but please be mindful about how you're engaging with aro content. Please stop centering yourselves around our discussions. Your struggles and issues are valid and many of them overlap, but please please PLEASE be careful that you are actually relating to us or boosting our voices rather than speaking over us.

I know it can be tough, feeling like you're giving mspec and polyam folk a bad name for 'falling into stereotypes' due to your aromanticism. You're not at fault for those stereotypes existing, nor do you hurt anyone by existing as you do; you're simply living as your authentic self, and that's to be celebrated! You're a valuable part of both communities, your unique perspective and experiences is a good thing, and if you haven't found peace with yourself and your identity yet, I hope you do soon.