spike!!

This is a blanket post because I am talking about fat white people, a beautiful group irregardless who taught me alot about self love and autonomy but that is why I am reminding you what I reminded my dear friends growing up.

You are a real minority but you are white first. And it shows in your values from how you came up. It shows in critical lack of class solidarity. It shows in the privilege to not have to unlearn baseline insecurity, harassment behaviors, racism and misogyny.

This is no chastisement, just a reminder. If people like you taught me things, its my turn. The hillbillies I grew up with taught me that they were white first and fought for and with me because of that truth of privilege.

This is the class expectation I expect from black people and white people who follow me. One side is handling these expectations better and it hurts all of our growth.

She's fat and gets the guy and no one bats an eye.

She's fat and the hottest chick in the sorority and that's normal.

She's fat and an actress and she gets good roles.

She's fat and she's funny and she has character depth and growth.

She's fat and the main character and no one mentions her weight once.

(and also that one fucking person who said that intersex people shouldn't count as queer because "it's not a sexuality or gender"?????)

anon how does it feel to be the realest motherfucker out there

I didn't realize how much time I spent wondering when the hell my period was going to show up, and if it wasn't going to show up and I was going to have to worry about that again when occasionally, I was capable of being regular and not having that be an issue, until suddenly I was on T and not having a period was considered a good thing and proof that it was working, and every doctor wanted my periods to be stopped and asked if they were, instead of fretting about how it had been too long since I had one.

I didn't realize that literally every time I put on a dress, I noticed that I didn't have as pronounced of a waistline as perisex cis women are "supposed" to have until I went on T and watched that waist melt away completely and that was a good thing that meant I was responding well to HRT.

I didn't realize that loads of the time when I was singing with my choir and struggling to hit a higher note, I thought about how probably, I was an alto because of my higher testosterone levels, until I started singing bass instead.

I didn't think about just how often my mother commented on my facial hair and how I should get it waxed, or how much I was aware that me choosing to leave it and not do anything about it was considered an unusual, GNC choice, until I was on T and everyone was congratulatory and excited when they saw that I had facial hair. Now that was a good thing that people celebrated.

And so on and so forth.

I don't want anyone's takeaway from this to be "going on HRT cures being intersex" because like, a) every variation is different, some of them are still going to have effects on cross-sex HRT (for lack of a better term), and some mean that it wouldn't even work at all, b) I have not stopped being intersex either. Like, it's not an issue or thing I have to think about currently, but I would like to have children some day, and PMOS is going to be a huge issue then and make that a lot harder.

Rather my point is that if you're a person with PMOS, and you feel like you aren't really intersex, or aren't intersex enough, or sure, you're intersex, but like, you're the bottom tier of the community, and all those people with real variations are above you. You only think that because you're used to PMOS. The ways that it impacts your life ever single day have become invisible to you. You don't notice them because that's always been your life. But if one day, they went away? You would absolutely notice. There would be a massive, gaping hole where your PMOS was. You would suddenly realize that actually, it was taking up so much space in your brain, and was a constant thing in the back of your mind that perisex people don't have to think about. And this also goes for every other intersex variation. I imagine loads of intersex people deal with thinking "yeah, sure, it's a problem for other people, but I don't really have it that bad." Yes, you do. You're just used to it.

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Sachenbian

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Sachenbian is a combination of the terms; sapphic (WLW/QLW), achillean (MLM/QLM), and enbian (NLN/QLN). Someone who is attracted to women as a woman, someone who is attracted to men as a man, and someone who is attracted to enben as an enban.

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many cops make no effort to use alternative communication with Deaf people even after we have identified ourselves as Deaf.

audism is also the fact that our signing is considered threatening and something that warrants murder. audism is the fact that our signing is labeled as gang signs and is used to justify murdering us. (and, for the record, actual gang signs also don't justify murder)

audism is the way Deaf people are accused of lying to "get out of things" when we identify ourselves as Deaf.... which is then used to deny us accommodations like interpreters or written communication.