I've looked over some of your posts, I understand you may be seeking to learn about it or open to respectful conversations. This would then fit for sharing with this account I think.
We(as a system) made a Rentry for anti-radqueers or those who are misinformed about paraphilias, queer identity and the like. If you have the time, please look over some of it: https://rentry.co/rqislove
(I promise, this is not a malicious link and is for educational purposes. Copy-paste into browser if you can't click on it)
Hello Anon! I would like to dive deep into your rentry as someone who has a complex (i'd say) view on the radqueer community.
I want to establish I definitely do not hate all radqueers however I will be discussing my opinion on radqueers in the form of bulletin points.
TW/CW warning for nsft topics
To clarify my stance on some things before we begin
1. I have no problem with paraphiles who have harmless attractions or are actively anti-contact, have not acted on it, and are working on recovering to the best of their ability.
2. I do not support indulgement of any kind for people with harmful paraphilias that includes but is not limited to: media, pβ
rn, shipping, offending, romantic/sexual interaction, being around said attraction (unless utterly impossible to avoid and even then just try to stay away), and being around a community that encouraged any form of indulgent (like the other ones listed)
3. I don't think psychiatry is a cult if practiced properly... I don't even know why I need to say this one. Yes some people should go to therapy, yes people should be treated for mental illness if they need it, yes some people need to go to wards because they are not safe around themself or other people. There's bad in everything and that means there's going to be bad people in the wrong job. The best thing you can do in this situation is doing research like digging into the person/people you'll be interacting with or speaking to them before making any committed decisions. It is truly horrible that there are bad people in a field that is so important and impactful for the people involved but that doesn't mean it's not important or helpful. If I really need to go into more depth about this I will but that's not the main goal of this post.
4. I have a complex opinion on transids I believe some of them and not others. Some things people trans identify with I feel like doesn't need to really be considered a transid (such as wanting to be a guitarist) and others I find outlandish (such as wanting to be a Chernobyl victim). Trans harmed/trans harmful people I feel like are just mentally ill not in an offensive way but in a genuine way like there has to be some underlying reason why. I know transabled people are medically recognized under biid disorder and still being studied. Transgender is already medically recognized and valid. Trans species is another I feel should be studied more in a less lycanthrope viewpoint I believe it's a very interesting topic and also very plausible with a long history.
5. I am anti-transmed... yes you can be transgender without dysphoria, no you don't need to medically/physically transition, and you don't need to be diagnosed to be validly trans. A diagnosis for trans people is optional and only really important in some places to get medical coverage for gender-affirming care.
β’ majority of radqueer identities are not queer.
Lgbtq+ falls under 3 categories romantic, sexual, and gender identity.
β’ paraphilias are disorders
A paraphilia by all definition is a disorder. "But what if it's not sexual?" still a paraphilia. A paraphilia is just an abnormal attraction harmful or not it is not a demonizing term it is a medical and psychological term. Not all paraphilias are harmful but they can very easily become that way whether that's harmful mentally or physically to yourself or others. A paraphilia can be as harmless as being attracted to a blade of grass or as serious and dangerously harmful as one of the big 3.
β’ bad things in media are NOT the same as darkshipping
usually in media when depicting horrible things happening to people whether underage or not it is a means to bring awareness and to educate that hey these things happen in real life. The art of creation is to disturb you into opening your eyes and realizing oh my god this is an actual problem and it's disgusting and people need help. In most disturbing media with stuff of that nature it is to show how cruel the world can be and is. Darkshipping is NOT at all the same. There is a separation between the romanticization of harmful stuff and properly depicting it as a horrible disgusting thing that no one should go through.
β’ fiction does affect reality.
now this topic will forever be highly disagreed upon but this is how I see it... Fiction has always affected reality one of my favorite depictions of this is 'The Human Centipede 2' where it depicts a man who was obsessed with the movie 'The Human Centipede' so much so he was sexually attracted to the idea of it and ended up as you expected recreating it in I'd even say a more gruesome way. Now before anyone says anything YES this is fiction and put out of proportion because again it's a movie however it is not out of the realm of reality. There have been many cases of people trying to recreate things they've seen out of media both harmlessly and criminally. I would definitely say the amount and extremity of how much it can affect you definitely applies to your mental health but that doesn't take away the fact it affects reality. The more you put yourself around something the more you think about it and overtime it can affect the way you see things or the way you feel about certain things. For darkshipping right let's say I'm making a ship I'm thinking of little head cannons I'm putting my mind into what their relationship must be like what each of them act and behave like I'm basically partially whether unconsciously or not envisioning myself as them so I can gain a better understanding of them and their dynamic.. is that not going to eventually take a toll on me? Thinking like that so repetitively.. putting my mind into something that is illegal. You and I may both have the common sense to not act upon any thoughts we have but that doesn't mean that certain things don't affect our mental health. To anyone who uses dark fiction as a coping mechanism I hate to say it isn't a healthy one I'd suggest things related to overcoming experience like a character fighting off their abuser as cliche as that is it can be a sense of empowerment to put yourself in the mindseye of a character getting over their trauma. Maybe this is all a bad explanation I really have a lot of scrambled thoughts about fiction and how it can affect reality that I could make a whole separate thing about.
β’ I agree that you can create something without supporting it irl
This is true! If done correctly. I personally have had multiple ocs in the past who were horrible disgusting people but I did it in a way that did not romanticize or sexualize it. I did not try and sugarcoat anything to seem less bad than what it was in fact I wanted people to hate these characters and to hate what was happening. As long as you are creating something of that nature without romanticizing or sexualizing it you should be fine. What I like to do is emphasize my stance somewhere along the story usually indirectly.
I hope this was enough for you anon! If this was not enough I am always open to more discussion but I understand if I am blocked for my opposing views. I am not here to argue but simply have intellectual conversation about our views with others who do and don't agree with me.
To anyone who read all this I love you and stay safe out there \(β οΏ£β οΈΆβ οΏ£β )/
