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A lot of parents are very bad at parenting and don't like their children. They don't want to talk to them, be around them or do anything with them. You know, the things kids need and will remember the most once they're grown.

This was reposted to YouTube shorts and I would like to point out some comments in the video

#so this is actually what i wrote my final thesis about for my bachelors in psychology #i ran an exeriment on kids below 5 that measured their social cognition levels (eg. understanding others emotions and needs etc) #and i also asked the parents about their kids screentime habits #and there was obviously a negative correlation between the two - so more screentime meant lower social cognition on average #BUT there were quite a few outliers with high amounts of screentime but also a higher level of social congition #and the explanation for that is that for these children screentime isn't there INSTEAD of interacting with the parents #screentime only affects the child negatively if parents use it as a distraction for the kids instead of interacting with them #so if a child watches some cartoon then the best a parent can do is sit with them and watch with them and talk about it with them #and then (limited) screentime can actually be beneficial for the development of other cognitive skills #so there is a large amount of scientific research out there that proves what ppl said in this post

Was at a middle of the road sea food place on the coast. The waitress told a mother that they did not have WiFi when she asked for the password for her child’s tablet. The child was just fine looking at all the cool signs. The mother was stricken, “what is she supposed to do without WiFi?” The waitress, the type of server who has seen it all and probably served the devil his fish and chips one December evening without batting an eyelash said, “We have placemats and crayons.” She pulled both out of the back of a stack of menus she was carrying. The mother scoffed. She poured the 5 color pack on the table and gave the girl the coloring sheet/placemat. She had to demonstrate how the crayons worked. I SHIT YOU NOT. A little girl maybe 4 did not know how to use crayons, also her manual dexterity was far below that of a near school age child. She had no outward disability but it is not out of the realm of possibility. One of the crayons rolled on to the floor, the mother slammed her palms against the table and decreed, “I knew this would not work!” She swiped away the crayons. Set up the iPad and had it just dumbly set up there. The kid pushed it away and made a valiant grab for the coloring materials. Mom told her to stop it. Mom by the by was trying to find a way to charge her phone. Leaving the kid ALONE in a crowded restaurant to find an outlet for her phone and charger. I looked at the kid in her high chair. Grabbed the plastic tray my food had arrived on, leaned over, placed the coloring materials in it and set it before her. She laughed and began to once again color fishes while the tray kept her 5 colors from rolling too far away. Mom returned, having not found a single outlet for her use. She was startled by her child sitting coloring happily. Her food arrived soon after. Her daughter ate her fish fingers dropping crumbs on to the placemat, “Look Mama I feed ‘em”. She did not engage with her, question her about her awesome fish, she did not color with her. She just pouted and sulked occasionally taking out her phone just to see it was once again dead and put it down. It was weird. It was a bleak look at parenting. It was sad.

I was 23 before it even occurred to me that not starting with sex ever was an option. The feeling of relief was so great I actually cried. 

Also, it’s okay to never date anyone ever. It’s okay to never even try it if you don’t want to. 

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

when I was in high school, I overheard two older students talking about a friend of theirs.

Daly: YOU said you were going on some spiritual retreat!

Lotm text posts (because I was bored) :

CHAPTER 3 IS OUT!!!

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