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*dreamy sigh* fruit juice :]

*pulling my gay vampire lover away from my neck* the fuck did you just call my blood

Once you start noticing the erasure and exclusion of trans mascs in everything from media to academics you can never stop noticing it

#the therapist who wrote my permission slip for hrt was a trans man#and during that appointment we talked about the erasure of trans men from basically everything#and i talked about an article i had read a week or so earlier about trans people and hiv#it very in depth about risks prevention treatment etc#except that it exclusively referenced trans women with a single sentence at the end basically saying 'oh trans men are at risk too'#less than a year later i saw that same therapist speaking at an hiv organization fundraising event#he talked about how he had just recently been diagnosed with hiv#and had to sit there while this doctor told him all about how the treatment options had never been tested on trans men#none of them#they knew that the treatment would work#but not how effective it would be in comparison to its effectiveness in other demographics#no idea what kind of side effects he might experience#how it would interact with his body and his hormones#what the long term effects would be#nothing#he had to sit there while his doctor told him he would have to be a guinea pig but its not like he has a choice#the only alternative is dying from aids#that whole thing was kind of a wake up call for me#and i started paying more attention getting tested regularly myself and all that sruff you're supposed to do#and over time i befriended the person who did most of my testing#they were also trans masc and we would talk about this kind of stuff#and i told them i wanted to get on prep but every doctor i asked had a wildly different answer on if i even could take it#which verison i could take etc#and they said that only one form of prep has been approved fot trans men but its never actually been tested on trans men#and that one version isnt good for long term use because it has some pretty serious side effects long term#and they said that they regularly go to conferences and meet with representatives from all these drug companies#and they ask 'wheres the data on trans men' 'when are you doing clinical studies on trans men'#and the answer#every single time is: we have not done any studies on trans men and we have no intention to ever do studies on trans men#this is not some passive result of trans masc invisibility it is an active act of erasure that needs to be recognized as an act of violence

my sister is breaking up with her dogshit boyfriend who pressured her into agreeing to an open relationship and then closed the relationship back up again when he realized she had game and he didn't. and i messaged her like does it make you feel a little better to know that men will even do this shit to megan thee stallion and she was like yeah. if it can happen to her it can happen to anyone.

idk man like i am of course the number one believer that if you're raised in a very culturally conservative environment you need to put your whole pussy into deconstructing the ideas and flawed reasoning and thought schemas you were raised with and not just substituting one language of orthodoxy for another and calling yourself progressive. but it will never set right with me that "having MAGA/republican family members" is treated like a valid gotcha against anyone if they themselves do not subscribe to those beliefs. like yeah like 40-50% of the country is conservative to some degree. a lot of people think that shit. isn't the point that we WANT there to be more people willing to walk away from the political beliefs they've been raised with? why are we holding people responsible for what their dad thinks?

I feel like Jane Austen's novels are often minimized as "cozy" and "cutesy" when actually they are defining works of English language novels and insightful, often biting social commentary. and Im tired of people reducing her to like a "cozy author" or boiling her books down to a few bland romance tropes. she refined the novel form to an art. she defined genres of literature. she continues to influence creative works all over the world now. and idk im tired it is late and I dont have all the right words for this but it is just so frustrating

Younger people, one thing I want you to understand about Millenials is that, overall, our parents taught their daughters to aim for careers and employment, but they didn't teach their sons to keep house. This causes a whole lot of Situations.

Yep.