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Disclaimer: I get so angry about it because I study psychology, work in the mental health field and have friends and family members with autism. (I'm not from America tho and I don't study there, so my (anecdotal) knowledge probably cannot be applied 1:1) (Also, my field of work and study is why I'm also incredibly angry about how disordered eating and eating disorders are handled in the book and by rr)

The ableism in Shane's case obviously exists in an intersection to racism. I have heard the joke 'are they Japanese (or German) or are they autistic' a few times now. A lot of the characteristics that anon listed as being ascribed to Asian people (diligent, obedient etc.) are attached to autism. Anon has already disected the racism behind it all so well.

Yes, (diagnosed) autistic people can come of as awkward. Yes, they can have difficulties interpreting social cues. No, that does not mean that they are socially inept.

People with autism have often times spend their entire lives very aware of how they process social interactions and faces differently. Especially autistic women experience an enormous pressure to mask and this pressure can also be felt heavily for men of color. And you need social competency for masking. To mask, you need to get which behaviors you need to imitate and which to suppress. This may fail in new situations or with new people, but generally, they get what 'normal' should look like in our neurotypical society.

Masking also takes an enormous amount of energy. Imagine having to work in customer service the moment you come in contact anyone outside of your inner circle. It would exhaust you down to your bones. So people with autism might like to leave social interactions early, especially if it is a group gathering with a lot of sensory input, but especially if they're high functioning and high masking, they will also often stay 'the socially acceptable amount'. Shane, as captain, with the knowledge that he doesn't have a lot of leeway as a POC and the expressed goal of doing well, would not leave every group function early or skip it entirely, are you nuts?!

Also, just because he has autism doesn't mean that he automatically dislikes most people??? He may find social interactions more exhausting but that doesn't mean that he has deemed most people unworthy of the effort?! People with autism can be so kind and empathetic and so open to trying to understand other people. In an effort to mask, to 'fit in' and do being social right they have to engage in empathy. They can deeply wish for social bonds. This part is truly anecdotal, but in my experience, they often internalize the rule "treat me like I want to be treated" regarding information you freely give about yourself. I would like to be asked in depth questions about my hobbies so I will ask a lot of questions about yours. Oh, you gave me the information about your family. Let me ask more. They do this because, generally, they want to treat you well.

All of that is also why I was so disappointed that rr called Shane stupid and selfish in the discord group. Those labels are often unfairly out on people with autism.

What anon also already addressed is that there are different leadership styles. And the imagined Western 'ideal' that anon described can correlate with job satisfaction, performance etc. in very specific fields of work with very specific workers in specific parts of the world but I also cannot express how much studies have shown that other leadership styles can also get great results. Like, Shane is modeled after Sidney Crosby. I just googled that man a little after I heard that and one of the first things I learned about sidcros is that he is a motivational, uplifting leader and that he doesn't believe in individual blame. And he seems to be highly respected and liked for his leadership. I simply cannot imagine Shane as being less than that. (Sidenote: the idea that Shane would not experience the homophobia and feminization that Sidcros was confronted with in his early years even worse is insane to me. What do you mean Shane never felt the dark side of hockey???)

Anyways, this is already way to long and jumbled. I'm sorry for my incoherent rant.

yeah ummm ok i'll explain as if you didnt read it lol. basically it is a half truth. or a quarter truth

so there is (or used to be) a website called motherless. this website is a video hosting website much similar to the likes of xvideos. similar to pornhub as well tho pornhub doesnt lean as heavily into fetish porn beyond stepbro/stepsis stuff that has become ubiquitous as of late (you can still find it on there tho). motherless leaned hard into fetish content, cnc and somnophilia and some much more niche stuff as well. crucially it is fetish content, the cnc is as its named (consensual), these men/women are porn actors and this is their chosen medium

people can and do have their own thoughts about the existence of hardcore fetish content like cnc but its not the point here at all, the point is that in this case it is a fetish and it is not real

this cnn reporter found a cnc video on motherless and in the comments someone linked a telegram channel that had less than a hundred members (still a lot! still that is very very much worth talking about!) that was "sharing tips" to other men about how to drug and take advantage of their wives/gfs. this really is the story here, it's frightening and extremely gross, and if they had kept it straightforward there wouldnt an issue

however, and this is where i say its fearmongering, they instead heavily implied (kind of even straight up insisted) that every single visitor to motherless was a member of this "online rape academy" on telegram. when this is just extremely not true. they found the 65 million number by figuring out the number of hits to the website, which doesnt include visitors who have gone to the website multiple times either obviously, but thats less the point

i have seen women all over the internet talking about this 65 million number without looking further into it and when you put it like that, it sounds beyond terrifying. but these visitors to a fetish content website know that what they are seeing is fake and consensual. the content is labeled as cnc. and cnc was not at all the only category on the website, they hosted all things fetish, a lot of them relatively tame, like piss kink and feet and femdom stuff. not everyone went to motherless for cnc. you can also find cnc on most other porn hosting websites

again. you can have your own feelings about this. some people are extremely uncomfortable with fetish content and never want to see it or engage with it. other people do. fact of life

but the number 65 million is intentionally misleading and honestly i think its worth pointing out that throwing that number out and having people accept it at face value will directly push people in the direction of repealing sosta-festa which would be the end of the internet as we know it

Basically, the captain of the Cup winning team gets to demand one of their opposing players as forfeit to be their pet/errands boy for the day.

And during Ilya's cup win, guess who he's picking?

Here's the original ask because you really need to read it to grasp the whole picture:

https://www.tumblr.com/mybloodstream-caffeine/814536314429046784/hello-visiting-to-share-a-sunday-thought-some?source=share

my nose is bleeding 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

What I have to add to this is the threat of Ilya's teammates joining in is ever-present and yet would never happen. Ilya keeps running his mouth about how nice Shane is being for him and how he should be sharing this with the rest of the Raiders since really it was a team effort...