hater

women are afraid of men because of the violence they inflict on us

no. you're more likely to be attacked by a ADULT HUMAN MALE than an adult human female regardless of your sex.

Abusive partner: I like to choke and beat my partner and get off on it.

"All kinks are valid and if you kink shame you're not a real leftist but if you're a genital fetishist with a preference that's disgusting"

"Sex work is work and if you criticize it at all you're not a real leftist even though male johns make up the majority of trans women's deaths worldwide. We're going to act like rates of trans women dying from this in third world countries apply everywhere now"

"You can't call trans women male that's like discriminating against Black women but if you say what I'm doing is like trans racialism you can't compare our experiences they're so different"

"TERFs are violent fascists" but I don't know of any physical attacks or real life threats involving a radical feminist or even a female perpetrator, besides some women many of whom are not even feminists still wanting sex segregated spaces and having trans women removed from them.

Meanwhile, trans people:

Poison being a "woman's weapon" in a disparaging sense. Self defense laws expecting people to act in ways that are only really accessible to men and women who choose to strike at a later time being demonized. Gossiping to turn the community against him and seek refuge that way (plus making sure no other woman is blindsided by his behavior) being seen as trashy.

volunteering (youth summer camps, church, your local Parks and Recreation, food drives such as Feeding America, etc. )

floral arrangement

knitting / crochet

horseback riding

dirt bike riding

gardening

writing (make a Substack like me!)

running

rollerblading

gig work

photography (products, pets, travel, nature, etc.)

sewing class

chess

boxing

cycle or run club

local traveling (trying new, independent spots in your hometown!)

post on YouTube

perform at local open mics

pilates

museums

art galleries

weekend train travel

padel

jewelry making (like how we used to make bracelets with beads as little girls)

pottery

golf

reformer pilates

beekeeping

soap and/or candle making

Of course you do, they’re fantastic. They come in two models, one with tan head stripes and one with white head stripes. But the gene that controls stripe color also has a bunch of other effects! It’s a supergene!

To briefly sum up a grueling amount of fieldwork by people who were probably not getting paid nearly enough, basically the tan-stripes are nurturers and the white-stripes are fighters, across both males and females. White-stripes chase away intruders more, tan-stripes bring more food to the nest. Tan-stripe females bring more bugs to their chicks than white-stripes, white-stripe females are more aggressive and sing more.

There is a reason Jordan Peterson picked lobsters, not sparrows, to get all MRA about, because the sparrow ladies are ALL about the tan-striped males. Sexy nurturing tan-stripe males are immediately grabbed up by the more aggressive white-stripe females (who are also dead sexy if you’re a sparrow.) Then the remaining birds pair off, so you get tan and white couples reproducing in virtually all cases—nurturing male with aggressive female, hyper-aggressive male with hyper-nurturing female.*

And this is good!** Because it turns out that they can have a tough time if they don’t mate across stripes—white x white sparrows often come out undersized if they come out at all. There was some cool recent genetic sequencing and one particular chromosome is way funky, inverted, and scrambled in the white-stripes. So now every white-stripe has a funky chromosome and a normal one, and every tan-stripe has two normal ones.***

This is all really unique and means that white-throated sparrows effectively have four sexes, because they now only reproduce with a member of the opposite stripe and sex chromosome, and their offspring may be any one of the four sexes. The stripes have essentially become a second sex chromosome.

The geneticists involved think the funky chromosome probably showed up as a weird import from somebody gettin’ jiggy with another sparrow species. Presumably this created a hypersexy female whose white head stripes brought all the boys to the yard, and very unusually, that bred true.

Is that cool or what?!

*No word on whether there is a resulting sparrow tradwife media genre.

**Leaving aside the impact on the emotional health of the non-sexy sparrows.

First of all, look at it.

That’s a male ruff, specifically. You can see how they get their name. The females don’t have that fancy collar. They just look like sandpipers, which is what they are.

Like other sandpipers, these are wading birds, but they live in wet meadows and marshes instead of by the seashore. During the breeding season they gather together and the males hold territories, called leks, in which they display to attract females.

At least, some of them do.

Some male ruffs do not display in leks. They have plainer, often white, neck ruffs, and they sort of wander around the display grounds courting the females wherever. The interesting thing is that the territorial males tolerate this. Research suggests it’s because females are more interested in a display ground that has both kinds of males. The ladies like variety, it seems.

But it gets even more complicated. In 2006, a third male form was discovered. This form is extremely rare, and doesn’t have male display plumage at all. It looks just like a female ruff in the field. The other birds, however, can tell the difference, judging by their behavior. These female mimics travel with other males when the sexes split for the winter, and during homosexual mountings (which are common, as they are in many other animals), they often top.

What’s really interesting about these ‘cryptic males’, or faeders, is that they are apparently super sexy. Seriously. Females and males both prefer mating with them. And it’s believed that, like the satellite males, the presence of a faeder attracts more females to the area, which benefits all three forms.

The sparrow gene supports the argument that personality is not related to your sex genes. The white striped females are aggressive but they are still female same with the more nurturing male. The traits aren’t linked with sex.

The sandpiper is an example of diffrent kinds of males being all valuable in different ways. That survival of the fitest isn’t about who is masculine or feminine it’s who survives. Sneaky is just as much of an advantage as strength.